This is part of a quote I read and, although she was applying it to people in their 20's, I thought that this part applied to all ages and particularly my midlife stage. It reinforces the idea that living in the moment is so important.
Midlife is my time - time for me to refocus on what is important to me now and to let go of all the distractions and needless worries about past and future. There is a lot to be said about moving on from the past and leaving it behind - learn from it for sure, but then kick it out the door and get on with the life that I'm part of now.
It's the same with the future - why agonize over what is yet to come? I achieve nothing by trying to line all my ducks up so that everything is neatly in place for my planned future years. Life is unpredictable - and as much as I'd like to control the future, I can't make it all turn out neatly and tidily like I have in my head. I like the idea of earning your future by what you invest in your present. The love and commitment I have for my family is worth investing in, so are the friends that have been in my life for decades of ups and downs.
Why sweat over a retirement plan when that is still 20 years in the future? Rather than working in a job I don't really like anymore and saving every penny to try to prepare for retirement, maybe I could fritter a little bit of time or money away here and there to make life pleasant and fun now? Who knows where I'll be in 20 years time and whether I'll still be around to live frugally on those savings? It's important to prepare, but it is also important to enjoy this time too and invest in some serious living that will make retirement something that creeps up unexpectedly, rather than hovering over my head now.
"Give today all the love and intensity and courage that you can" and "walk closely with people you love".........what a fabulous way to spend the next decade or so! I want to hang out with people I love, I want to be brave enough to embrace new experiences and I want to savour the moment - not fritter time away being too careful and too staid. I'm not very good at "grand adventures" but I'd like to be, and now is as good a time as any to get started. All I have to figure out is where to jump in and start my "now time". I'm sure an opportunity will pop up before I know it - then I just have to have that courage to grab on and enjoy the ride.