I noticed a strange phenomenon when I left my old job......nobody asked me why I wanted to leave and some even told me they envied me having the courage to let it go and move on. They wished they were brave enough to pull the pin and leave too. The strange part is that these people are now loud in their silence.
I emailed the workmate who was my manager (and who arranged my send-off lunch and rapid departure) to let her know that I had a job interview. She was my first referee and had previously offered her contact details for my resume. I got a brief return reply a day or so later telling me there'd been some bickering at work, and I that was lucky to get an interview these days. No good wishes, no hail-good-fellow, no "sending positive vibes your way"...... nothing.
I let her know that I'd been successful and was really pleased to have found a new job. I'm still waiting for a reply......three days later! What happened to congratulations! Well done! So happy for you! and all the other responses I've heard from friends and family?
Another workmate - the one caught up in the bicker-fest that had been mentioned - replied to my email with "I hope they appreciate you" and that was it. I tried phoning her to see if she was okay and got an answering machine and no return call. There is just a deathly pall of silence. Perhaps she feels like I deserted her and there's no point discussing it with me but it's still a strange feeling.
I can't believe that I spent 8+ years of my life with these people and it's like I never existed! I am now even more certain that leaving that workplace behind was a good decision. Toxic work environments breed toxic work relationships and I feel sorry for these two women trapped in jobs they choose not to leave due to their fear of the unknown. It still speaks strongly though of the need to take responsibility for your decisions. And not to begrudge others their happiness because you are mired in a misery of your own making. So my new slogan is going to be "no looking back and no regrets!"