One of the benefits of growing older is that I feel like I'm also getting a little wiser (or at least I hope I am). One of the first things I've learnt is self respect - to trust my own judgement more and to worry less about the opinions of others.
There will always be people who have something to offer and who have more experience than me, and who I am happy to seek advice from. Having said that, I also have to admit that I'm a little tired of hearing people spout off on subjects that they have very little knowledge of but have still managed to form strong opinions on.
There are people out there who seem to constantly want to pass comment on how their life choices are superior to my choices or the choices of others in general. As I get older I find that I don't give a hoot about whether veganism beats take-away, whether you meditate or party like it's 1999, or why your life choices are better than mine. I really don't care whether you like tattoos or not - I happen to think they look pretty good on a lot of people and if I want to have one then that's up to me - I don't need your opinion unless I ask you to share it with me. I also don't need to read on facebook why you do or don't agree with gay marriage rights, or whether someone's skirt is too short, or whether someone should be a stay at home mum or a working wife.
I am interested in sharing ideas and I do want to know your heart, but please don't compare our different journeys and find the need to judge me, or feel that you need to try to convince me that your path is so much better than mine.
So many women are re-inventing themselves in midlife and that is great. We are entitled to choose how we want to live the second half of our lives and the first, and only, people we are answerable to are ourselves and (possibly at times) our nearest and dearest. I don't need to justify whether I sit at home all day or whether I go out and socialize. I don't need to hear why it would do me good to exercise more - I'm quite capable of telling myself that! I don't need to hear about the latest gourmet restaurant or wine bar or sushi house "that I really must try". I don't need to explain why I'd rather eat at home than go out every weekend.
I'm a big girl now and I am happy with my choices and happy for you to have your opinions - but please don't feel the need to push them on to me unless I invite you to. It's a big wide world of choices and options and opinions out there and plenty of room for us all to have our own without treading on each other's toes. Let's all live and let live and show a little love and respect for ourselves and each other and give each other credit for having enough nous to know what we want for this second half of life!
this post was part of the #1word challenge - this week's word was "first"