His suggestion was that this could be applied to the Sunday church service - but I wanted to take it a step further and apply it to what's important to me in midlife and making the most of what I've been given.
#1 On Time
I hate it when people are late - I feel that they think their time is more valuable than mine. Punctuality is a sign of respect to the person you are meeting with, it shows respect to the people you work for and it shows respect to the doctor or dentist that you've made an appointment with. It isn't hard to figure out what your time commitments are and to schedule yourself to fit in around those. Leaving home at the time you are supposed to have already arrived means you know you'll be late and yet you think that's okay. I'm sorry, but to me that is just plain rude and we should be more polite in midlife.
#2 To High Standard
I don't want to do anything "half-arsed" I expect better of myself. I don't want to do less than my best at work or in relationships. I want to invest in people who have the same standards as me - who want the best for their friends and co-workers. I want to work for people I can respect, and be friends with people who have good values and who love life and live it with integrity. Those are the values I am cultivating in midlife.
#3 Without Waste
I'm over time wasters and wasting time. I'm in the second half of my life now and I don't want to spend it with people or things that detract from my life or hurt me. I'm not in the mood to tread water in a dead end job, or to sit around waiting for people to call me. I'm on a mission to dive into life with more gusto and to enjoy as much as I can. There's no point wasting time on past regrets and I'm working really hard at not wasting time worrying about future problems. Midlife is for living now.
#4 With Joy
Last and certainly not least - in fact I think it is the most important thing of all - is joy. Finding joy in life and all it's ups and downs and ins and outs. Life will never be perfect and it will never be constant smooth sailing, but there are moments of joy to be found everywhere and I intend to seek them out and remind myself of them. Midlife is a special time where there is an opportunity to rediscover who I am and what I love and to embrace it unapologetically. That is my intention and to do it with as much joy as possible!