How many truisms are contained in the words above? Somewhere along the way we were told life would be easy and smooth sailing on a balmy day. Somebody forgot to mention the nitty gritty details that make up part of our lives.....the bits that build character and stop us becoming too smug. Three of those things I've listed here.....
It happens, people you trust let you down, friends sometimes don't behave in the way you expect, family members hurt our feelings by not behaving in the way we expect them to. People are human and they all have their foibles. I know I am less than perfect and have done and said things over time that I regret and would like to take back. Learning to let some of the hurt wash over us is part of growing up and growing stronger. Learning discernment as to what was a deliberate action and what was not meant in the way we interpreted it, is also part of the maturing process.
You'll laugh, cry and embarrass yourself:
You'll also embarrass your children and your husband at times too - but it's often those moments that we laugh about later. Being perfect all the time is too much to expect of ourselves and too much to expect from those we love. Learning to forgive and to move on and to feel joy and pain and growing from it, makes us into wiser and more compassionate women. We can face the world because we know we've been there, and survived.
You sit back and find your moment:
That moment came to me a couple of years ago. I realized I had been through the wringer and had come out the other side, still alive and kicking and with a few edges knocked off. I've come to recognize what is important and what I can let go of. I know where my boundaries are when it comes to my children (that took a bit of adjustment!) and also what to expect from my friendships. I feel like I've earned the right to be the person I am today and to claim it unapologetically.