One of my biggest faults is my need to micro-manage every detail of my life. This includes what I'm doing at any given time and also the people who are around me. It kicks in big time when I'm facing a new situation or something a bit scary - its seems to be my go-to method for dealing with stress.
I'm learning with age (so many lessons come with age!) that:
1) I can relax more and let things take their course. I don't need to work out who will travel with who when the family goes out for lunch (the last time I did that I ended up regretting it because it would have turned out so much better if I'd just left everyone to work it out for themselves - funny that!)
2) I don't need to pre-plan every work day to try to avoid making a mistake - it's a lot less stressful to wait and see if a mistake even occurs - then fix it and enjoy the rest of the day!
3) Life happens when you're busy making other plans (thank you John Lennon!) - life will go on it's merry way no matter how much I try to steer it the direction I want it to go. I'm better off going with the flow most of the time and not trying to engineer everything.
Turning simple into complex is a "gift" that keeps on giving and it's time I took it back to the store and got a refund. Life is short - half of it is gone already and I want to think less and feel more. I want to appreciate all the good things around me, the little things and the pretty things and the kind things and the lovely things.......and leave the worry behind.
Micro-managing is about trying to keep control of a world that I really don't have any control over. Admitting this and letting go has been (and continues to be) a huge learning curve for me, but one that I think has tremendous rewards in the process. Trusting the fact that other people can manage their own lives and that the world still turns without me telling it how to is all quite freeing really!