Friday, 30 October 2015

what does your soul look like?

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This week's #Friday Reflection is: "What do you wish others knew about you…"

I think my answer would be that I wish they could see my soul and know what is at the heart of who I am (not the superficial physical 'me' that they see on the surface). But the question then becomes....."what does my soul actually look like?" 


Thursday, 29 October 2015

Happiness is letting go

Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is." - Mandy Hale.

So many people are unhappy because they don't believe their life is turning out the way they'd planned it. They had hopes and dreams and visions of grandeur that are slowly fading into the reality of day to day life.

Midlife crises occur when people stop and take stock of their life and realize that it is never going to be what they had imagined - they will never achieve all the goals they had envisaged. They will never be as rich, or famous or whatever as they'd assumed they'd be by this point in time.

Maybe there is a different type of midlife crisis - one where you stop and think to yourself how good life is despite not being the life you had planned for. Maybe things haven't turned out quite the way you expected - but they are still pretty darn good and when you look at things with gratitude you come to see that there is a lot of life worth celebrating and being happy about!

Wednesday, 28 October 2015

leaving the chaos behind

I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction.  ― Melody Beattie

I grew up in Australia in the 1970's. While lots of girls my age were out experimenting and having a good time, I was being the good daughter who did what she was told and made sure I never overstepped the line. I grew up in a chaotic family with a narcissistic father, a complicit mother and rules that changed regularly - all in my father's favour! It made life very difficult for us all.

Tuesday, 27 October 2015

going with the flow versus micro-managing

You are trying too hard!! Abraham Hicks

One of my biggest faults is my need to micro-manage every detail of my life. This includes what I'm doing at any given time and also the people who are around me. It kicks in big time when I'm facing a new situation or something a bit scary - its seems to be my go-to method for dealing with stress.

Monday, 26 October 2015

walking the line when dealing with ageing parents

the hardest part of growing up is realizing your parents are growing old

We've just spent some time with my in-laws trying to find them a possible house to move to now that they are getting old and frail. The only fly in the ointment is that they still see themselves as sprightly sixty year olds - which is as far from reality as you can get.

Friday, 23 October 2015

circuses, monkeys and a life motto

"Not my circus......not my monkeys"

This week's #Friday Reflection is "the words or motto you live by is....."

And my answer is the quote above - "Not my circus......not my monkeys" which is apparently a Polish saying that basically means "not my problem."

I discovered this quote on Pinterest (oh how I love Pinterest!) and it has stuck with me ever since, probably because it spoke volumes about my approach to life and the changes I needed to make.

Thursday, 22 October 2015

never apologize.....

Never apologize for your age, your body, your opinion, or your past.

I have spent way too many years saying "I'm sorry" for way too many things! At times it feels like I've used it as a punctuation mark or a way to excuse having an opinion on something that might be different or less acceptable.

Part of this is the baggage that comes from being a woman who grew up in a conservative, male dominated home. Part of it comes from being a people pleaser. Part of it comes from lack of confidence in myself. Part of it is feeling that my opinion doesn't really count in the grand scheme of things.

But midlife comes with a few bonuses - one of those is that I don't have to apologize as much any more. I can accept myself and my opinions - I know I have worth, I've put in the hard yards and I'm entitled to speak up. I also know that I am more aware of when to keep my mouth shut - so if I think I have something worthwhile to say, then I don't want to have to feel apologetic for speaking out. A considered opinion has value - and so does the person giving it - and that would be me!

Wednesday, 21 October 2015

living and loving the afternoon of life

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Getting older is something that happens to all of us. Many in today's world are doing all they can to fight the process and stay young. It all comes down to appearance for them and trying to keep the ageing process at bay. Perhaps a better way to approach life would be to get on with living it so well that you don't notice you're getting older.

Tuesday, 20 October 2015

how do you define abundance?

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I was thinking about what a rich and meaningful word "abundance" was......and then I got to thinking how the meaning of "abundance" changes depending on your world view and what you consider to be important in life.

Monday, 19 October 2015

we interrupt this blog with a very important notice!

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Yes! I'm going to be a Nan - it's officially up on facebook so I can do a shout out to Nana-dom! What more can I say other than I'm stoked that our son and his lovely wife are having our first grandbaby - due April 24th next year.

Friday, 16 October 2015

becoming a not-too-crazy cat lady

home is where my cats are - finding out I'm a cat person

This week's #Friday Reflection topic is: "Reflect on how having a pet has changed your life"

I spent the first half of my life thinking I was a "dog person". I grew up in a 1970's home with the prerequisite dog and a budgie (all Australian kids have a dog and a budgie at some stage) and it was the same with all my friends - I didn't know a single person with a cat.

Thursday, 15 October 2015

opening up like a rose

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A wonderful quote that inspires me - if my life isn't opening up at this stage, then when is it going to get the chance to do so? I'm taking every opportunity that comes my way to bloom! I want the second half of life to be about growing and opening up and finding my real purpose.

The second half of life can see people close in on themselves and distance themselves from the world around them. That's not for me, I want to expand myself and embrace change and find my place in this society we live in. To be open to new experiences and to not be judgemental of others and their choices.

Wednesday, 14 October 2015

choosing to say no to self pity

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My husband has this D.H. Lawrence quote as the screen saver on his computer. It's a reminder to him that self pity is a human condition and one that we need to combat wherever possible. Nobody likes a light sucker and nobody wants to be around someone who is always feeling sorry for themselves.

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

3 nitty gritty life lessons

This is life. People will screw you over. You’ll fight with your family. You’ll witness things that will change you forever.

How many truisms are contained in the words above? Somewhere along the way we were told life would be easy and smooth sailing on a balmy day. Somebody forgot to mention the nitty gritty details that make up part of our lives.....the bits that build character and stop us becoming too smug. Three of those things I've listed here.....

Monday, 12 October 2015

four months down the track in my new job

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People often talk or write about new jobs and new adventures and the excitement that goes with them - or (in my case) the low grade terror of launching into the unknown. You don't always get an update of how the journey has progressed and whether it lived up to the initial hopes and expectations.

Saturday, 10 October 2015

impossibly easy apple roses

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I'm not the world's greatest cook (not even the world's not-so-greatest cook!) So desserts aren't usually something I try my hand at very often. I have a couple of go-to recipes that are fairly fail safe and I use them most of the time. But it's Saturday and I thought I'd step out of my comfort zone and try something new and share it if it was successful.

Friday, 9 October 2015

successful parenting 101

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This week's #Friday Reflection is "Is motherhood how you imagined it?" 

I guess my answer would be "yes" and "no"....... "yes" because I am extremely proud of how my children have turned out and how independent and self-sufficient they are. The "no" part is the little bit of my mother's heart that wants to hold on long after my children have grown and flown, where I still want to be a major part of their lives. The whole idea of successful parenting is learning to detach and most of the time I manage to do it quite well - there's just a little twinge now and then!

Thursday, 8 October 2015

for the love of jigsaw puzzles

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The latest craze for adult stress relief is colouring-in. It seems like every woman and her dog has jumped onto the colouring bandwagon. The young guy at the supermarket checkout even told me he'd just bought an adult colouring-in book from his local bookstore while he was away on holidays. Then he started waxing lyrical about the specific brand of colouring pens he needed to buy to be able to do the tricky bits with!

Wednesday, 7 October 2015

have you ever "ghosted" someone?

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'Ghosting' is a term being thrown around on the interwebbities a lot lately. Apparently it's the new way to leave a relationship without suffering the pain and embarrassment of actually having the "it's not you, it's me" conversation or writing the "Dear John" letter.

Tuesday, 6 October 2015

feeling like I'm seventeen again


I am not a big fan of high school reunions. I went to a large high school in the city and I've never been back for a reunion. I still keep in touch with a few of my friends from those days via facebook but as for the rest, well I haven't missed them in the last 35 years so I doubt I'll be in a hurry to see any of them again! But there is one type of reunion that I never miss and they are the ones organized for the youth group I attended as a teenager.

Monday, 5 October 2015

speaking life into my marriage

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When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you have made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to not show appreciation. It's also easy to make "funny" comments about the other person that can be hurtful or unhelpful.

Friday, 2 October 2015

being content with less than you expected

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This week's #Friday Reflection was to choose a quote that has touched me this week" and I thought of the one above about contentment - such an overlooked emotion in today's "give me give me" world of discontent. It seems everyone is looking for the next big promotion, the next big holiday, the next big romance or the next big crisis to keep things exciting. People constantly complain about the cost of living and how much they need to earn to live a life that they think is satisfactory. Contentment gets lost in the process.

Thursday, 1 October 2015

choose to be happy

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I loved this quote from Joel Osteen. So often we let our happiness depend on our reaction to the others. If thy do something awful, unkind or are just plain thoughtless, we let that drag our mood down. 

Now that I'm in the second half of my life, I don't want to waste time being sad or bitter. I want to choose happiness as my first response to everything. I want to learn to let the actions of others wash over me and not drag me down with them.

Life is indeed short and I plan on choosing happiness as often as possible!