Taking A Little Holiday Break

taking a little time off to enjoy the Christmas break with family

I hope everyone is having a wonderful time with family and friends over the Christmas Holiday Break.

I'm enjoying my family (and my precious grandbaby) so I'm taking this week off and will return in the New Year.

My first week back is all about choosing a word for 2017. Have you given it any thought?

I hope your Christmas was merry and bright and I wish you a fantabulous 2017!


Five Things Friday ~ The Reason for Christmas

In between the tinsel, sparkle, food and family - lets remember the reason for Christmas - Jesus birth

We get so caught up in the tinsel and sparkle of Christmas, or we hear so much about the consumerism of Christmas, or we get sidetracked by the Santas in every store, or we think it's all about food and family - but what about the real meaning of Christma? The birth of a Saviour, sent to us by God because He loves us?

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Anticipation vs Reality

looking forward to things is half the pleasure of them

ANTICIPATION

"Anticipation is often better than the gift itself" is a saying in our household (maybe because we never have a lot of money so our gifts are never overwhelming). It seems to be a constant in my life that I get more pleasure out of anticipating a gift or an event than I do out of the actual event itself.

Midlife Monday ~ 250,000!!! - that's A Quarter of a Million!

who'd have thought you could reach quarter of a million page views? certainly not me! so thank you all so much!

MY HAPPY DANCE

I'm doing a happy dance at the moment because I have 250,000! No, that's not how much I won on Saturday Night Lotto or last week's Power Ball - That will never happen because I don't even buy those kind of tickets anymore - because I never win! 

Five Things Friday ~ My 5 Days of Christmas

this is what my five days of Christmas will look like this year - bliss!

With Christmas rapidly approaching, and my empty nest about to be filled to bursting point, here are my Five Days Of Christmas - who could possibly ask for more?


ON OUR FIVE DAYS OF CHRISTMAS MY EMPTY NEST WILL GIVE TO ME:


Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Life Doesn't have to be Perfect

Annette Funicello — 'Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful.'

REALITY

I read an interesting blog post by Kathy Gottberg the other day that was titled "the truth behind 'you create your own reality'" and it made me stop and think about my First World perceptions of life. In her final paragraph she says:

"What if creating our reality is less about making ourselves feel safe, protected and in control and more about trusting that we can be happy and at peace with the uncertainty of life no matter what occurs? Maybe it’s less to do with making sure everything works perfectly in our favor, to instead seeing everything as it unfolds as already perfect."


Midlife Monday ~ Re-Defining Christmas

when your ideas about Christmas get turned on their head - it's time to re-define Christmas

THE EARLY DAYS

Christmas has always been one of those occasions that I looked forward to for weeks/months beforehand and planned, organized, and micro-managed. I used to have visions of sugarplums dancing in my head, the Christmas Carols pumping, the tree colour co-ordinated and the day ruthlessly scheduled. I think there was a little bit of 1950's housewife that poked her nose out whenever Christmas got mentioned.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Blog Comment Requests

5 requests for blog commenters and some commenting etiquette

MY LOVE FOR COMMENTS


I absolutely love getting comments on my blog. When I first started blogging I turned the comments off but I was missing out on so much. Once I took the plunge and opened up to the two way conversation I found I loved the connections with other people. I love the engagement, I love the affirmation, I love that people take the time to "talk" to me and share their response. But there are things I don't like about blog comments too - the snarky comment, the holier than thou comment, the token gesture comment, and the Wham, Bam, thank you Maam comment.

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Why All the Hate?

Why all the hate? Can't we choose kindness and not be so quick to criticize?
Really??? I mean Really???

SWEEPING STATEMENTS

A while ago a friend of mine sent me a link to the "Your Tattoos make you a Horrible Mother" facebook page. Really??? I mean Really??? It had over 17,000 likes - I'm not even sure how this kind of hating on people gets to be so popular. Apparently it was taken down not long afterwards, but another page has emerged to take its place.

Midlife Monday ~ Clearing My Head from Clutter

 when social media has become a monster - regaining control before it consumes me

OVERWHELMED

I've been feeling a bit out of sorts lately. I thought it was because Christmas was looming with all its inherent potholes that I can so easily fall into. But I realized it wasn't Christmas that was stressing me, it was being caused by the bombardment of social media. Blogging is a wonderful pastime, but it also clogs up my social media, fills my personal Facebook newsfeed with posts from people I have no idea about, and things I have no interest in - not to mention my email inbox was getting out of control. How did this happen??

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Singapore Adventures

 Five fun things to do in Singapore

This week has been Singapore Week, so to finish it off here are five interesting things to do if you ever visit this amazing place. Some were active and some were scenic and some were all about the shopping - because you can't go to Singapore and not shop!

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Singapore With My Mum

a little overview of my trip to Singapore for my 50th
The famous Merlion that holds pride of place in Singapore
This is Singapore Week and Monday's post was all about seeing Singapore with my lovely (super fit) husband. It was quite a contrast to my last trip there, five years ago. That visit was a birthday present from my lovely Mum and we did it in style - with all the mod-cons! Here's what I wrote about it a while back....

Midlife Monday ~ When Your Travel Styles Differ

Midlife - when opposites attract and then find out the differences when they travel together!

MIDLIFE TRAVELS 

For those who've seen my Facebook posts, you would know that I spent last week in Singapore with my very fit, and much more adventurous than me, husband - who should be renamed Bear Grylls the Second! We chose Singapore because it offered lots of variety seeing we like completely different things. So lets kick off Singapore Week on the blog today by reviewing a few life lessons Singapore style!


Five Things Friday ~ 5 Ferris Bueller Quotes

Ferris Bueller's Day Off

HOW COULD YOU NOT LOVE FERRIS?


I am a HUGE fan of Ferris Bueller's Day Off - I think I've watched the movie ten times at least and I still smile all the way through it - and don't get me started on how much fun the Twist and Shout on the float in the street parade is - it's so feel good it's ridiculous!

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Don't Be A Light Sucker

Don't suck the light and joy out of other people - choose to shine!

DARK SUCKING

A few years ago I heard about the Dark Sucker Theory where, in a nutshell, the idea is that electric light bulbs don't give off light, rather, they suck in the dark. This is of course a load of bollocks, but the idea that something can suck in the dark and leave light in it's place is an interesting concept.

I was thinking that the reverse would also be true, that a Light Sucker would suck in light and leave darkness behind. I took it a step further and thought about how this applies to certain people I've come across in life. They are the people who never have any joy in their life - they just lurch from one miserable day to the next and delight in sharing their doldrums with everyone they come in contact with.


Midlife Monday ~ Have All Your Wishes Come True?

What are you doing to make your unfulfilled wishes come to fruition?

OPPORTUNITIES LOST AND FOUND

There are so many opportunities that come our way throughout our lives - some we grasp and head into the future with, and others slip through our fingers and become missed moments for growth. I can't begin to count how many times I've missed out on something because I was too scared to take a risk, or because someone didn't give me the benefit of the doubt and tell me to take a chance.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Gratitude Practices

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Gratitude Practices

My daughter went to an in-service training course a few weeks ago and shared with me the 21 Day Gratitude Practice they had been encouraged to do. It seemed like a great way to re-focus away from all the troubles in the world and to think about all the little blessings that come our way. 

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Focus on Your Potential

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Focus on Your Potential - not your limitations

ASSUMPTIONS

I read an article a while ago that said "people with a high level of confidence have just as many weaknesses as those without confidence, but they focus on their strengths instead of their weaknesses."

 As I've gotten older I find that I've tended to sit back and assume that I had achieved all that I was going to in this life, and basically there was nothing left to do now, other than accept where I was at. A friend of mine once said that she could be anything she wanted to be.....she just didn't know what she wanted to be (and that was the problem). I can certainly relate to that thought. I assumed I was limited in my potential now and stuck where I was until the end of time.

Midlife Monday ~ 6 Signs of Successful Living

what makes a woman successful? It's not what we have been led to believe

HOW DO WE DEFINE SUCCESS?

In today's world success is all about being the biggest and the best. Usually we define success by how someone performs in their chosen career or in a pursuit they endeavour to excel in. I don't think that's really what true success is all about. Maybe it's time to redefine the term - and I like how Barbara J Burrows goes about it.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Aussie Midlife Bloggers

Five Australian Midlife bloggers everyone should know about

MIDLIFE BLOGGING

For Five Things Friday this week I wanted to write about Midlife Bloggers - I couldn't even begin to cover all the amazing midlife bloggers out there (especially in a "five things" post!) These women are rocking the blogging world and if you're not reading them then I suggest you head over the the Midlife Boulevard website or their facebook page and start catching up on these bloggers and their fabulous-ness!

My Daith Piercing is on Midlife Boulevard Today

Daith Piercing for Migraines and Headaches - it worked for me!

I'm very pleased to be featured on Midlife Boulevard today. They're sharing my story about my Daith piercing - it's still the best decision I've ever made in regard to my headaches.

I feel like I've tried everything else that mainstream medicine had to offer and found relief with this completely left of centre treatment.

To read more here is the LINK

Feel free to ask any questions in the comments - I'd be happy to answer them.

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Remembering to Compliment

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Remembering to give those little compliments - they mean the world

NEW FRIENDS

As time has passed I've noticed that I don't meet new people as often as I used to. One of the benefits of making conversation with people you don't know all that well is that you tend to say nice things to each other - like "that's a lovely outfit" or "you have great kids" because you are making connections, and being complimentary is a great way to make a positive impact. With old friends I tend to take a lot of that for granted and it is a rare event to hear someone pass a compliment in normal conversation. 

Midlife Monday ~ I'm Becoming an Ambivert

Midlife Monday ~ when you're neither extroverted or introverted - you are an Ambivert

STARTING LIFE AS AN ESTJ

I've always been a big fan of the Meyers Briggs Personality Test because it does quite an accurate job of summing up the characteristics of the people I know who've taken it. For years my result always came out as ESTJ and I was fine with that. My husband (the eternal introvert) always strongly agreed with my assessment and the fact that I was an extrovert (the "E" of ESTJ) and I continued to believe this until I recently redid the test.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Birthday Wishes

Five Things Friday - what would your five birthday wishes be?

I asked my husband what he would wish for if he had five birthday wishes. First he had to check that it wasn't a trick question and that he wouldn't be in trouble for not including marital bliss and my every happiness in his wishes - I let him off the hook and here are his wishes: 1. A Lamboghini, 2. A Ducati, 3. An ocean going yacht, 4. A Summer house in Provence (that we'd sail to on the yacht) and 5. A helicopter to get from the yacht to the Summer house. The man has VERY expensive taste in his wishes!

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ the "For Her Age" Disclaimer

 Wind-back Wednesday - Looking good "for her age" and other disclaimers


THE WAKE-UP CALL

On a morning, much like any other morning, before I headed out for the day, I was checking my outfit in the mirror (fortunately it wasn't the soul destroying work mirror that shows every line and crinkle) and I thought "I'm looking pretty good for someone my age". Bang! there is was.....the dreaded midlife disclaimer "for my age". How had it crept into my own mental dialogue without me even thinking about it?

Midlife Monday ~ A Time of Contentment

 Midlife Monday ~ Midlife - it's a time of contentment and self acceptance

WORRIES AND WOES

I took a survey today - to help another blogger who was looking for ways to encourage midlifers to deal with their worries and problems. What I realized as I answered the questions is......I don't really have any worries or problems at the moment. I'm in a place of contentment and I feel a real sense of satisfaction with my life right here and right now.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Requests for my Funeral

Five things Friday - 5 requests for my funeral


It might seem a little bit morbid to some, but I think about my funeral quite often. At random times it crops up in my mind and I think about how I'd like to leave this mortal coil - on my own terms. My husband thinks he'll get away with handing out a flyer with a link to my blog to save him having to do a eulogy.... understandable, but there are five other things I'd still like him to include.... He's so lucky to have such an organized wife!


Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Celebrating Friendships

Some people make your laugh a little louder, your smile a little brighter and your life a little better.


AGES AND STAGES


With time and life's ups and downs, I've come to see that the quote about friends being for a reason, a season or a lifetime, is so true. When I was younger I thought all friendships were supposed to last for a lifetime, but now I see that isn't how life works. We have friends at different seasons of our lives - who we connect with because we are at the same age and stage, but when that stage finishes, they move on.

Midlife Monday ~ Living Without Apology or Explanations

#midlife blog crestingthehill.com.au

FITTING INTO BOXES

I shared a quote a little while ago about not shrinking myself anymore. I'm not sure if it's a generational issue, or a woman's issue or a personal issue, but I know a lot of us do our best to fit into the boxes other people create for us. There are a variety of reasons why we do it, the need to keep others happy, or to meet with their approval, to avoid causing upset or distress, to be liked or to be accepted. It has always been a driving force in my life and sometimes I think it harks back to being the oldest child, where responsibility and people pleasing come with the role.

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Favourite Photos

Five Things Friday - 5 of my favourite photographs

For Five Things Friday this week, I wanted to share five of my favourite photographs - I have so many, but these were the ones that sprang to mind when I started looking through my folders on my computer. I have no idea how people will be able to choose only five in the years to come when they will have thousands saved (instead of the measly few I have to choose from - thanks to the Kodak days.)

Wind-Back Wednesday ~ Holding On and Letting Go

“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go”  Rumi

LIFE LESSONS

One of the hardest lessons I've been learning through this stage of my life is when to hold on, and when to let go. As life moves on and the journey continues, the "rules" change. What seemed to need all my time and attention has passed and I'm at a new and different phase of life where I have needed to renegotiate my priorities. This can look a little bit like a midlife crisis, or we can turn it around and look at it as a new adventure. Brene Brown calls it an "unraveling" as you let go of expectations and embrace the life you're living.

Midlife Monday ~ You are Not

There are so many things we "are" - why worry about the things we are "not"?

Sometimes in midlife we get caught up in the physical, the fading, the not so lovely. We think about what we've lost, rather that what we've gained. It got me thinking about all the blessings we should be acknowledging and how they should be what define us. So, on that note I wrote a little something about what we're not, and what we are.


Five Things Friday ~ 5 Favourite Songs

Five Things Friday ~ 5 of my Favourite Songs

There are songs that have stuck in my head for years (and years, and years!) So many I had trouble choosing just five - but these are the ones that evoke memories when I hear them - and I've included a little memory with each one. I'd love to  know what your go-to songs are in the comments.

Wind-back Wednesday ~ Activate Your Core!

Wind-back Wednesday - Activate Your Core! I would if I could find it!

THAT LITTLE VOICE

As I was taking my morning walk the other day, I could hear a little voice in my head saying "walking isn't enough - you should be activating your core while you're doing it". I looked down at my little squidgy pooch that was quietly minding its own business - carefully concealed in my tracksuit pants, and immediately thought "what core?" Somewhere along the way my core seems to have been lost and shows no imminent signs or reappearing.

Midlife Monday ~ The Power of Positivity

Midlife Monday ~ there is no question that there is power in being positive


AFFIRMATIVE THINKING

I've always been a realist - all those touchy-feely New Age affirmations have never really been my "thing" ......until recently. My husband is a family counselor and he is a big advocate of the power of positive thinking. The more we wire our brain with positive thoughts, the more we change our view of the world. It's not magic, or a miracle, it's a gradual readjustment to the way we approach  life. And as I've given time and attention to thinking about all the good in my life and being grateful, I can see what a change it has made. 

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Words that Touch My Soul

5 Words that touch my Soul ~ Enough; Home; Warmth; Happiness; Together

5 Things Friday

Each Friday I want to choose five things to write about - this week it's 5 Words That Touch My Soul. These are words that resonate with me - that make me feel good when they're spoken, and by the memories and emotions associated with them. I'm sure everyone would have different words that are special to them, but these were my top five.

Wind-back Wednesday ~ the Highs and Lows of Facebook

maybe facebook seems slow because I've blocked so many people!

The Joys of Facebook

I am a big fan of Facebook. I love catching up on people's news and re-connecting with old friends from school, or youth group, or work. I now have friends from all over the world who I connected with through blogging and then through Facebook. I think Facebook has a different feel to it for my generation. We use it to interact with each other and to share our highlights - travel pics, new jobs, children's weddings, Christmas get-togethers, new grandchildren etc.


Midlife Monday ~ Putting My Faith in the Daith

a report on how daith piercing is working for my chronic headaches

HEADACHES, HEADACHES EVERYWHERE

I have suffered from chronic headaches for a far back as I can remember. I'm not sure when they started but I know that I have been keeping the various headache remedy companies in business for at least a few decades now. I don't think I have full blown migraines, mine are more of the tension headache variety, but they have been relentless and I had reached the point of being willing to try something a little out of left field.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ the Second Half of Life

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ The second half of life is even better than you expected

MIDLIFE ROCKS!

If that message hasn't sunk in by now, let me repeat it - Midlife absolutely Rocks! I'm not sure why a lot of us thought it would be a dull and gray time of life where we slowly descended into old age and incontinence, but we were so wrong! Midlife is an amazing stage where we start seeing the fruits cultivated through the first half of our lives.


MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Discovering Midlife Blogging

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Discovering a whole new world of Midlife Bloggers

A WHOLE NEW WORLD

How can a whole world exist and a person have no idea about it? A couple of years ago I was going quietly about my fairly mundane life - the wheels were falling off all over the place and I was hanging on by the skin of my teeth. Midlife didn't look all that fabulous to me and I was wondering how to make sense of it all. I had always kept a journal, but I thought it might be nice to put some thoughts down somewhere to get them out of my head and into some sort of order.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Travel

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Travel now or dream of travel later - midlife is the time for travelling

MIDLIFE TRAVEL

Midlife is the time to go to all those places you have on your bucket list. You might not get to all of them straight away, but it's a great time to make a start and tick a few off. Living in Australia means that most overseas travel can involve long haul flights and lot of money. You can't pop across the Channel for a weekend in France or jump on a plane for a few days in sunny California. It takes a considerable amount of planning to launch off to one of these (very attractive) destinations.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Grandbabies

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ getting to see your children's children is so special

GRANDBABIES

What is there not to love about grandbabies???? And you can't have grandbabies without being in midlife, so one of the biggest reasons Midlife Rocks is the joy of sharing in the blessing of the next generation. To see your children's children and to be allowed to participate in loving them and reveling in their cuteness is beyond words. To see our son and his wife become great parents who are raising a happy and sun-shiny baby fills my heart with gratitude.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Watching Your Kids Marry

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Watching Your Kids Marry - learning to let go and watch them make their own lives

MILESTONES

It's always a joy watching your children reach different milestones. We think back fondly to when they started walking and talking when they were really little, and the days they started school, got their drivers licence, moved out of home, graduated, began their career ....and the list goes on.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Redefining Your Relationship

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ it's a great time for reconnecting and redefining your relationship with your partner

KEEPING THAT SPARK ALIVE

It's so easy to take your relationship for granted when you've been married forever. I know I was guilty of this and nearly lost it all in the process. You live in the same house, you see each other every day but you need to wake up and make midlife a time where you find the spark and the connection again. Once those kids are out the door and the distractions are gone, you need to make your relationship a priority.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ A Hiatus in Care-Giving

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ having a break in between caring for your children and then caring for your parents

A LOVELY HIATUS

I know that there are a lot of midlife women out there who are still caring for little children or for teenagers, and there are others who have the responsibility of aged parents who need extra time, attention and a whole lot of care. But for my husband and myself, we are in a very pleasant stage of hiatus where our children have left our care and are doing well, and our parents are still managing to be self-sufficient (most of the time!)

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ True Friendship

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ finding those meaningful friendships that you treasure

SPECIAL FRIENDS

I talk about friendship quite regularly on this blog (you can see a couple of my other posts HERE and HERE) and I think that's because it is one of the most valuable commodities we have in life - and because there is the freedom to choose what to do with the extra time I have, I choose to invest it in those people who are special to me and hold a place in my heart.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Who Cares What They Think?

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ There has to come a time when you say to yourself "Who Cares What They Think?"

PERFECTIONISM

The culmination of a lot of things happened for me when I reached midlife. One of the biggest of these was to stop my need for everything to be perfect. I had perfectionism on a pedestal it did not deserve to be on. Perfectionism sucks big time! I was so busy trying to have my Brady Bunch life that I almost missed out on having the life I really deserved.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Finding The Real Me

Midlife Rocks! ~ Finding who you really are - having confidence in yourself and liking yourself

AUTHENTICITY

One of the biggest lessons midlife has taught me over the last few years is how empowering authenticity is. Once I gave up trying to be what I thought others expected me to be, my life opened up and the sense of relief was palpable. It took a weight off my shoulders that I didn't even realize I was carrying. No expectations is so liberating!

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ There's All That Free Time

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Once the kids are off your hands there's so much more free time

WHAT TO DO WITH ALL THAT TIME?

Once the kids are off your hands you find you have so much more free time. The only question is "How are you going to use it?" Sitting around and looking at each other and saying "we really should do something..." isn't really conducive to an active and interesting midlife relationship. Expecting your other half to entertain you for the next 40 years is hardly the stuff of healthy relationships.

MIDLIFE ROCKS! ~ Financial Freedom

Midlife Rocks! Reaching the stage of life where you aren't controlled by your finances

LIVING FRUGALLY

We've never had buckets of money - we don't lie in bed throwing handfuls of cash in the air to watch it shower down on us (does anyone do that other than in the movies?) We've always run a tight ship financially and worked on the principle of not living on credit. If we didn't have it then we didn't spend it. We lived frugally and things were often a bit tight, but we managed fine and the bills were always paid.