Being over 50 lends itself to the occasional epiphany - mine this week (as I ate my toast) was that I don't have to eat the stale crusts just because I was told to when I was a child. I don't really like the crusts all that much but I'm a good girl and I eat them 90% of the time, but you know what......I don't have to if I don't want to!
This got me thinking about some other things I don't have to do now that I'm a big girl and all grown up and in my second half of life:
#1 I DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH TOXIC PEOPLE
#2 I DON'T HAVE TO GO TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY
I grew up in the era where regular church going was every Sunday - unless you were dying or giving birth. Today's church goers call themselves "regular" if they turn up once a month. I'm still a great believer in going on as many Sundays as possible, but if it's the Sunday School service (with 100 children who aren't my own) or the long winded missionary visitor, I can choose to stay home and let someone else have my seat that day.
#3 I DON'T HAVE TO WEAR A BRA AROUND THE HOUSE
#4 I DON'T HAVE TO GO TO EVERYTHING I'M INVITED TO
#5 I DON'T HAVE TO JUSTIFY MY CHOICES
So, along with not always eating my crusts, I've found that I can break some other rules too (mostly rules that I had somehow gotten bound up in). I can be my own person and have more freedom and make my own new boundaries. Life after 50 just keeps getting better!
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