Next letter up for the A-Z challenge of Positive Personality Traits is L - and L is for Loyal. I've talked about loyalty a couple of times previously on my blog (one in particular is here when I was feeling rather raw at the time of writing). I hold loyalty in family and friends as sacrosanct. A friend is not a friend if they can't be trusted to be loyal first and foremost - and loyalty should always triumph over self promotion.
Being loyal means standing up for each other - even if it means 'taking one for the team' and turning down an opportunity, especially if it comes at the expense of another friend. I've seen two incidents in the last 12 months of people stepping into the jobs of close friends before the seat had cooled from that friend being pushed out the door. I can't understand how you can justify walking into a job that belonged to somebody you hold dear and who was screwed over by that same employer you are now happy to work for.
Commiserating with a friend and then taking their job is just poor sportsmanship and shows an amazing lack of loyalty and integrity. Nobody wants a friend who puts the almighty dollar above moral support and allegiance.
I read a quote from Jon Stewart the other day that says: “If you don't stick to your values when they're being tested, they're not values: they're hobbies.” I'm a big fan of quotes (just check out how many quotes boards I have on Pinterest!) and this one rang true for me - values should be values regardless of the situation - otherwise they are fluid and that means you can't really be trusted - especially in the tough times.
Integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty - all vital traits in relationships and all interconnected. You can't pick and choose between them and if you want to be a true friend then you need to hold each of them close to your heart.
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