Next letter up for the A-Z challenge of Positive Personality Traits is O - and O is for Ownership. This was actually a bit of a tricky letter to choose a personality trait for. I was tossing up over 'out-going' or 'open' but settled on the trait of taking ownership - in the area of your decisions and your actions. Not fobbing responsibility off onto others.
I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago titled "Damn You Steve" which was about playing the blame game. I know it's something I can be guilty of at times because if there is someone to blame then you can throw your hands up in the air and shrug off any ownership of a problem or a consequence.
Life isn't a free ride, there are always decisions to be made or actions you need to take that will not necessarily result in a happy conclusion. Part of being a responsible adult is taking ownership of these and stepping up when you know that the going might be a bit bumpy in the process.
Taking ownership of a less than fantastic outcome is what makes the rubber hit the road. It's called "walking your talk" where I come from - knowing that you will follow through and not just say something and letting other people do all the work (or having them clean up the mess you leave behind in your wake).
Ownership can have positive aspects to it too. When compliments come our way it is time to accept them graciously and own the moment. It might be about something you're wearing, or something you've produced, or something you've thought of, but when it strikes a chord with someone else and they tell you, take it on and be grateful for the positive energy being sent your way. Too often we shrug off our hard work as "nothing" when that's not the case at all. If you've put in the hard yards then you deserve to own the praise that comes your way.
Ownership is another grown-up trait. It doesn't mean being big headed about our successes or (in contrast) petty enough to blame others for our less fabulous moments. It is taking responsibility for our actions and for ourselves and the consequences that arise.
See you next time for the continuation of Positive Personality Traits - P is for Patient.