The Joys of FacebookI am a big fan of Facebook. I love catching up on people's news and re-connecting with old friends from school, or youth group, or work. I now have friends from all over the world who I connected with through blogging and then through Facebook. I think Facebook has a different feel to it for my generation. We use it to interact with each other and to share our highlights - travel pics, new jobs, children's weddings, Christmas get-togethers, new grandchildren etc.
And the Lows
But it can have its drawbacks too, there are only so many recipes, share posts, fashion updates, and general trivia that I can endure before I have to draw a line in the social media sand. Until I started blogging it was just my friends who I had filling my feed, now I have bucket-loads of updates from all over the place - there are some VERY keen bloggers who think posting ten times a day is the way to go, sorry but I can't handle that much 'stuff' landing on me every day and I've probably hit the unfollow button a while ago.
Facebook is different for the younger generations, it is all about "me, me, me" and the minuatae of their lives. I love being friends with them, but sometimes I get a little weary of seeing which Lord of the Rings character they are, or what colour they like, or what little Junior is doing on a daily (or even hourly) basis. If it gets too bad I quietly unfollow them too - and because of my attachment to the unfollow button, my Facebook news feed looks pretty lean at times, but what can I expect when I am so uninterested in the triviality of people's lives?
Everyone's Having Fun (except me)
And when you have several friends simultaneously tripping around Europe it can make you feel like the poor relation! It's good to remember to rejoice with others in the blessings that befall them, but to not get caught up in a "poor me" moment when I am not reaping the same moments of glory. I also have to remember that Facebook is the highlights of people's lives and not their everyday stuff (well.....except for those I've blocked...)
I'm Guilty TooI am probably as guilty as anyone of sharing the highlights, I have posted pictures of the trips I've gone on with my mum, I've put up pictures of my children's weddings and me in my mother-of-the-bride outfits looking my best. I've put up pictures from Christmas (excluding the bits I don't want to remember) and birthdays - carefully edited. Even my profile picture is chosen so I look my best (I won't mention how many failed photos it took to get one where I look half decent!) And of course there are the snippets of time when I see my lovely little grandbaby - they get pride of place.
|One of my latest fb posts - Nana time!|
PerfectionLife on Facebook is so sanitized and prettied up that it is almost a fictional account of real life, and I am learning to keep my friends but ration my exposure to updates that cause me to lose peace of mind. There are those whose lives seem so much more perfect than mine. The perfect family, the perfect home, the perfect husband, the perfect holidays, the perfect family Christmas etc etc. Maybe their lives are as perfect as they appear on Facebook, but I don't need to see it all if I'm not in a good place.
The bonus of Facebook is that I can choose what I see and if I don't need to see someone's daily feed, I can still choose to pop across to their page when I'm in the right frame of mind and enjoy their blessings with them and know that my life is pretty good at times too.