WORRIES AND WOES
I took a survey today - to help another blogger who was looking for ways to encourage midlifers to deal with their worries and problems. What I realized as I answered the questions is......I don't really have any worries or problems at the moment. I'm in a place of contentment and I feel a real sense of satisfaction with my life right here and right now.
Facebook is constantly showing me pictures of my midlife friends tripping around the world, eating out at expensive restaurants, seeing the latest shows or buying new houses. This used to leave me feeling a little bit "less", but now I really don't care. I don't want to work more hours each week to have the extra I'd need to do these things. I don't want to trade my leisure for more work to earn more money to have more luxuries.
What's the matter with me? Why don't I want to be part of this consumer society? Why don't the multitude of catalogues arriving in my mailbox daily tempt me to go out and buy stuff I really don't need? Why don't I feel the need to compete and to out-do others? Why am I happy just being okay with my life as it is?
I guess it's because I see the other side of the coin. I see the cost involved and the stress and the price you pay for a lot of these 'added extras' and I don't want to pay the piper. There is a bible verse that says "Godliness with contentment is great gain" and I couldn't agree more. Contentment with what I have, being okay with the lifestyle I lead - it's all so restful. No striving, no competition, no envy, no dissatisfaction - just a sense of peace with my life and my place in the world.
PEACE AND CONTENTMENT
There is always more that we'd gladly take if it was offered at no extra cost. Later this week I'm doing 5 Birthday Wishes for my "Five Things Friday" post (it's my birthday that day so I'm allowed to dream a little). But in all honesty, as much as it would be nice to have my wishes granted, I am quite happy with the way my life is right now.
I'm not perfect, my life isn't perfect, my marriage isn't perfect, my family and friends aren't perfect, my job's not perfect.....but despite the lack of perfection, everything is pretty darn fine. I wake up in the morning and I smile. Sometimes I have a gripe or two about my dodgy hip, or about having to go to work on a lovely sunny day, or about the lack of exciting things happening. We all have our moments of discontent, but for me they are truly 'moments' and are such a small part of my overall life.
LESS IS MORE
I'm not sure if it's an age and stage thing, or just the completion of a learning process, but this is a time of peace and contentment for me. I have financial security, a lovely husband, a home that feels like a haven, thriving grown and flown children who are happy in their lives, a beautiful grandbaby, a job that I actually enjoy going to, great friends.... and the list goes on. What more could I ask for? Luxuries are lovely, but Godliness and contentment are worth their weight in gold.
I read somewhere "the more you have, the more you want" and that can be true for so many - so for me, less is more and life is grand - a time of contentment indeed!