HOW DO WE DEFINE SUCCESS?
In today's world success is all about being the biggest and the best. Usually we define success by how someone performs in their chosen career or in a pursuit they endeavour to excel in. I don't think that's really what true success is all about. Maybe it's time to redefine the term - and I like how Barbara J Burrows goes about it.
1. That woman is a success who loves life and lives it to the fullest
Forget about who earns the most, or who has reached the top of the food chain, success is discovering a life you love and getting on with the process of living it abundantly. If you hate something in your life, don't let it drag you down - do something about it and get on with creating a life you love living every day.
2. Who has discovered and shared the strengths and talents that are uniquely her own
We all have strengths and talents - you may not be the best singer or dancer (I'm certainly not!), you may not be the CEO of a company, you may not be the best mum, or the best sister, or the best friend in the world, but we all have qualities that we are proud of - we need to bring them to the fore and share them - and maybe work on a few of the others that could do with some improvement.
3. Who puts her best into each task and leaves each situation better than she found it
I get so tired of people who do as little as possible and expect great results. I hate it when someone does a half-arsed job and then expects to be praised. I think the "I ran in a race" awards that are given to kids these days just breed this "mediocre will do" mentality. Put yourself out, lift your game, serve with a generous heart and know you did your best.
4. Who seeks and finds that which is beautiful in all people and all things
The world is full of critics. Everyone has an opinion and a lot of those opinions are unkind and unhelpful. Don't add to the misery in the world - be the encourager, be the cheer leader, be the person who others turn to for a smile and a kind word. It costs nothing to build people up and to be optimistic - and it makes a huge difference to those we come in contact with every day.
5. Whose heart is full of love and warm with compassion
Warm fuzziness is not my go-to response, I'm a bit of a cynic and a realist. But what I've come to see lately is that people need warmth and compassion when they are going through a tough time. Sometimes I just want to shout "enough already!" when someone goes on and on about their latest misery. But those people (the light suckers as I refer to them - told you I was a cynic at heart) are often desperately in need of a little love and warmth - we just need to find the balance in giving to them and not letting them suck us dry.
6. Who has found joy in living and peace within herself
This is the crux of it isn't it? Knowing who you are and being at peace with that. Finding joy in our daily lives and sharing that joy with others. Knowing you've done all you can to be the best person you can be - and accepting your flaws in the process. None of us is perfect - success isn't about perfection - it's about being at peace with ourselves, loving our less-than-perfectness and sharing love and acceptance with those we meet. If everyone aimed for that type of success the world would be a lovely place to live in wouldn't it?