Monday, 22 May 2017
I've been discovering a whole new concept called Quantum Change and how it affects our values and wanted to share it on the blog today. It started with a reference to value shifts in this TED talk on Happiness, and from there I was on a bit of a mission to figure out what Quantum Change actually was and how it affects people because it sounded very similar to the process I went through a few years ago.
Friday, 19 May 2017
Wednesday, 17 May 2017
FAILING SISTERHOOD 101
I have never been very good at women's groups and get-togethers. I always feel like the odd one out because I'm not really a girly girl. This might be the fall out from growing up with two brothers and a mother who wasn't very good at mother/daughter bonding rituals.
Monday, 15 May 2017
WHY DO YOU BLOG?If you are a blogger then you probably hear the question "Why do you blog?" on a fairly regular basis. I've read articles on how to give an answer to this question and how important it is to have an answer ready that engages with the person who asked. This is because a lot of bloggers are in the business of making money from their blog and a question like "Why do you blog?" can be the beginning of a partnership and/or a new source of income.
Friday, 12 May 2017
FIVE OF MY FAVOURITE PARENTING QUOTESKeeping it simple for Five Things Friday - here are five of my favourite quotes that relate to mothers, parenting and launching your children - all those things we celebrate on Mothers Day this Sunday. I hope you enjoy them too.
Wednesday, 10 May 2017
MY MOTHERS DAY
Mothers Day brings all kind of feelings my way. I get caught up in waiting for my "kids" to call and reading posts on facebook from friends who have their kids nearby and put up happy snaps. I always seem to want more from the day than what it actually provides.
Monday, 8 May 2017
WARNING: NOT YOUR USUAL FLUFFY MOTHERS DAY POST!!
Every year when Mothers Day rolls around I read and write wonderful things about being a mother and how meaningful Mothers Day is. I morph into Carol Brady and start thinking warm fuzzy thoughts about my children and what a wonderful mother I was, how much time and love I invested in them, how that has paid off so well as they've become wonderful adults contributing to society etc etc.
A VERY BRADY MOTHERS DAY
Friday, 5 May 2017
On Monday I talked about my Secret Superpowers and while I was writing about them I realized I had a few minor ones that I could share in today's Five Things Friday post. I'm not sure that everyone would consider them Superpowers, but they don't apply to everyone on the planet, so I'm claiming them as mine. So here we go with Five Lesser Superpowers that I manifest regularly.
Wednesday, 3 May 2017
HOW DO YOU DEFINE "ABUNDANCE"?
Abundance is such a rich and meaningful word......but I got to thinking how the meaning of "abundance" changes depending on your world view and what you consider to be important in life. For those in Third World countries, abundance is having enough food to eat with some left over for later. For those in war torn countries, it is having somewhere safe for your family to live. For those in countries that repress their people, it is having an education or the right to free speech. So abundance can mean something different depending on who you are and where you live.
Monday, 1 May 2017
SUPERHEROES AND SUPERPOWERSSince time immemorial human beings have envied those fictitious characters in comic books and on our screens, who have Superpowers. We've grown up with Superman, The Fantastic Four, Wonder Woman, Spider Man, The Bionic Man, and countless others.
I think we all secretly long for a Superpower of our own, but what if we already had Superpowers that slipped under the radar? What if I have something I think is normal, but others would kill for (well, maybe not kill for, but at least be a little bit jealous of?) This got me thinking and I came up with THREE Secret Superpowers that I wield with ease...
Sunday, 30 April 2017
LOOK WITHINLiving with Zest isn't about finding a "thing", but rather it's about finding yourself. It's about discovering who you truly are and igniting something within you that wants to know more and discover more. It's about being the real you and not the person who is trying to please everybody else.
Saturday, 29 April 2017
UNREAL EXPECTATIONSOne of the biggest downsides of the internet is the exposure you get to the unnaturally beautiful people of the world and they are sold to us as being someone we should aspire to looking like. In the media today it's all about eternal youth and trying to stay 20 forever. Apparently if you eat right, exercise madly, and use the right moisturizer, then the world is your oyster and you will have discovered the secret to eternal youth.
Friday, 28 April 2017
MIDLIFER "A" OR MIDLIFER "B"?There are two types of Midlifer - those who are old before their time, grumpy and cranky, and always finding fault (they even have TV programs based on "Grumpy Old Men" and "Grumpy Old Women" - and these people aren't old - they're in Midlife!) Then there are those Midlifers who are vibrant, and busy, and involved, and smiling, and celebrating life - they have what I call "The "X" Factor".
Thursday, 27 April 2017
When I ask my husband what the benefits of getting older are, the answer he always comes up with is "wisdom" because it ties in so closely with life experiences gained from living long and well. Wisdom is such a valuable life skill and is a hard earned one. It comes from years of interacting with people, living through life's ups and downs and learning that there are not always black and white answers to all the questions that arise.
Wednesday, 26 April 2017
A LITTLE BIT OF SPARE TIMEIn Midlife you come up for a breath of air and realize that you have all you need and a little bit left over. For some that means they need to keep working until the little bit left over becomes a bigger and bigger bit......for others of us it means that we can slow down a little and look at how we can give something back.
Tuesday, 25 April 2017
DON'T UNDER ESTIMATE WHAT MIDLIFE OFFERS
I always thought that being "Middle Aged" would be a dull and dreary time of life. I was so wrong because what I've found instead is that this stage of life, and who I am in the midst of it, is pretty darn fine. Midlifers like me have a lot to offer - we're not callow youths who have no life experience or wisdom. We're mature people who have lived and loved, worked and played, lost friends and found new ones, and the list goes on. We have so much life experience we hardly know what to do with it all!
Monday, 24 April 2017
MIDLIFE TRAVELMidlife is the time to go to all those places you have on your bucket list. You might not get to all of them straight away, but it's a great time to make a start and tick a few off. Living in Australia means that most overseas travel can involve long haul flights and lot of money. You can't pop across the Channel for a weekend in France or jump on a plane for a few days in sunny California. It takes a considerable amount of planning to launch off to one of these (very attractive) destinations.
Saturday, 22 April 2017
HAVING AN EPIPHANYWhen I reached Midlife I had an epiphany of sorts as far as my relationship with myself went. I stopped seeing myself as middle aged, and settled and stuck, treading water in the same place, and started seeing a whole new person - someone who could stand alone if need be, someone who had a lot to offer, someone who had a brain and a heart, who had good friends and a great family network, who was a person in her own right......and I liked that person a lot.
Friday, 21 April 2017
TO RETIRE OR NOT TO RETIRE? THAT IS THE QUESTIONThere comes a time in every Midlifer's life when the question about when to retire raises its confusing (and yet strangely alluring) head. We see some of our work colleagues taking the plunge and leaving the 9 -5 daily grind behind and heading into a lovely sunset of late morning sleep-ins and a lifelong holiday. The temptation is to follow them out the door and into a twilight of endless leisure.
Thursday, 20 April 2017
Sometimes I look at my Pinterest Page and am a little amazed at the vast range of quotes I have collected over the years. There is something about a quote that succinctly sums up a thought or a feeling in a way we may not have been able to do on our own. I think I might just be the Queen of Quotes - a title I'm quite proud of really.
THE QUEEN OF QUOTES
Wednesday, 19 April 2017
Midlife brings with it a change in parenting. We spent 20+ years raising our children from babies into becoming capapble, self-sufficient adults. We breathed a sigh of relief as they launched themselves successfully into the world and thought we could sit back and rest on our laurels.
What we hadn't noticed during all the time we focused on our own little family, was that our parents were growing older. They went from being Midlifers to becoming "old people" while we were looking the other way.
Tuesday, 18 April 2017
WHO ARE YOU REALLY?
Monday, 17 April 2017
DON'T STAGNATE!Life is short, and reaching the half way point has been a real eye-opener for me. I saw I had stopped growing and was pretty close to stagnating. Sitting still and assuming there is "nothing new under the sun" to quote Solomon - is the worst thing we can do with the lives we've been given. When you feel like this it's time to step out and try something new.
Saturday, 15 April 2017
When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to let small annoying things drive us crazy. It's easy to "take the mickey" out of someone you know so well. It gives us a smile at the time but doesn't do anything to build up the person we love.
Friday, 14 April 2017
Thursday, 13 April 2017
A JOB WELL DONEI often wonder how you decide if you did a good job of parenting your children. So many people struggle with putting in the effort and then having their adult children turn their backs on everything and make some truly awful decisions. It is so hard to be a mother of a child who makes wrong choices over and over again. Fortunately those children are in the minority.
Wednesday, 12 April 2017
When I reached the grand old age of 52 I had a Midlife Employment Epiphany (as I prefer to call it) others may refer to it as a Midlife Crisis. I had been in a job for years where I was taken for granted, under-paid and under-appreciated. It was sucking the joy out of my life and yet day after day, week after week, I turned up and did the 9-5 routine.
WHAT MIDLIFE CRISIS?
Tuesday, 11 April 2017
A couple of years ago I wrote a post about feeling invisible in Midlife - only to find I have had a complete about face and don't feel in the slightest bit invisible anymore - it's amazing what a change of perspective can do for your confidence!
LEARNING A LESSON
Monday, 10 April 2017
CLOUDS AND LININGSOne of the biggest lessons Midlife has taught me is that the key to happiness lies firmly and securely in my own pocket. I am responsible for how I see life and I get to choose whether to look for the silver lining, or wallow in the rain cloud. Give me a silver lining any day!
Saturday, 8 April 2017
THE CIRCLE OF LIFEOne of the most fabulous parts of Midlife is the joy of sharing in the blessing of the next generation. To see your children's children and to be allowed to participate in loving them and revelling in their cuteness is beyond words. To be part of the life of a happy and sun-shiny grandbaby fills my heart with gratitude every day.
Friday, 7 April 2017
A LIFETIME OF FRIENDS
Friends are one of Midlife's greatest blessings - true friends enrich our life immeasurably by accepting us for who we are and choosing to share their lives with us. As I look back over 50+ years I am so grateful for the friends I have gathered along the way - both old and new, and those somewhere in between.
Thursday, 6 April 2017
THE STEREOTYPICAL EMPTY NESTThe empty nest is often spoken about as a sad and lonely time. The kids leave and take all the life and interest and excitement with them. There's no-one left who needs looking after, nobody coming and going, no strangers wandering through the house, nothing new and nothing out of the ordinary any more. It can all be so silent and sedate and fairly boring if you let it.
Wednesday, 5 April 2017
ASKING THE HARD QUESTIONS
Midlife brings with it a time where you question a lot of your assumptions. Life changes and the kids move out and you're home alone with your partner and you start wondering why you do a lot of things. Maybe it happens sooner for some people, but for me it was Midlife when it hit me between the eyes.
Tuesday, 4 April 2017
SPINSTERS AND CATS
Craziness and being a cat person is usually associated with spinsters - the obvious sign that you are never going to get married is that you own a cat (or two, or three). It might be the symbol for spinsters, but there is another stage of life where cat ownership sneaks up on you and that's Midlife. Before you know it you've become one of those crazy people who need to de-hair their clothes before they leave the house.
Monday, 3 April 2017
WHO I'M NOT AND WHO I AM
When I was a Mum of young children the internet hadn't been invented so I never got to be a Mommy Blogger, I'm a fairly ordinary cook so I never got to be a Food Blogger, I'm the Anticraft so I never got to be a DIY Blogger, and I am no clothes horse so I never got to be a Fashion Blogger.
But! One thing I am excellent at is being a Midlifer - I am learning so much, experiencing so many new things, and growing heaps now that I've hit my Fabulous Fifties - why not blog about it? So, a couple of years I jumped in feet first and became a Midlife Blogger - and what a ride it has been.
Saturday, 1 April 2017
LEAPING BACK IN TO THE A TO ZLast year I did the A to Z Challenge for the first time and thought "never again!" because it was so full on, but here I am again having another go at it and I'm excited to share my theme - which is the centre of my reason for blogging - Midlife is Fabulous! And it's fabulous on so many levels - so why not start with explaining why.....
Friday, 31 March 2017
We live in a fast paced world and all that busy-ness tends to take over our life. Sometimes you just need to stop for a second and do nothing - just breathe. Inhale some peace and beauty and exhale some of the stress that's been building up inside.
TAKE TIME TO DE-STRESS
For Five Things Friday I've put together five quotes about the importance of stopping for a moment to breathe. As you browse through them, take a deep breath and feel the peace descend - then maybe pin a couple of them to remind you to stop and smell the roses occasionally.
Wednesday, 29 March 2017
IT'S UP TO YOU
It's so easy to let life knock the us down. There are so many petty little things that nip at our heels every day, just waiting to get a good grip and pull us backwards and sink us into a funk.
Monday, 27 March 2017
INHALATIONLife is busy - there is always something happening, something new to experience - some new delight to breathe into our world. We are forever being told to "take a deep breath", to "listen to our breath", to "just breathe", to "breathe it all in".
It seems to me that the focus is on sucking it into ourselves, drawing all we can from what is on offer and filling ourselves with all that comes our way. What I've been wondering lately is.....what do we do with all that we've breathed in?
Friday, 24 March 2017
A LITTLE FRIVOLITYWhen I write my Five Things Friday posts I usually pick something I've been thinking about - some are even a little bit deep. Today's is much more frivolous - I've just picked five little things that have added a smile to my life lately.
Wednesday, 22 March 2017
LIVING IN THE NOWMidlife is my time - time for me to focus on what is important to me now, and to let go of all the distractions and needless worries about past and future. There is a lot to be said for moving on from the past and leaving it behind - learn from it for sure, but then kick it out the door and get on with the life that I'm part of now. Everyone has stuff in their past they want to leave behind - so now is the time to make the decision to unclench your fist and let it go. It's time to live in the present and not keep looking back to the past.
Monday, 20 March 2017
TACKLING THE A TO Z CHALLENGELast year I took on the A to Z Challenge because I thought it looked like fun - and it was....but it's not called a Challenge for nothing! Writing 26 posts in one month is quite full on and not for the faint hearted. A lot of bloggers start with good intentions and then fall by the wayside as the month progresses.
I soldiered on through the Challenge and used the theme "Positive Personality Traits" - it was an interesting exercise, and one I decided I wouldn't be repeating. But a year is a long time and I seem to have forgotten all the hard bits and I'm feeling the pull to do it all again. So......
Friday, 17 March 2017
BLOGGING FOR FREEEveryone talks about self-hosting, but what about those of us who use a free blog?
Ever since I fell into the world of blogging I've read dozens and dozens of posts on why it's best to set up a self-hosted blog - all the money you can make, all the plug-ins and added extras you can access, all the bells and whistles that blogging for free doesn't give you. But you know what, I've been blogging for two and a half years and (other than buying my domain name) it has cost me nothing, zero, zip, zilch.
I don't use my blog to earn an income, so I have the freedom to stick with my free Blogger blog, to play around with it and enjoy it, without having to worry about all the problems I read about that come with having a blog that is bigger than Ben Hur. I thought I'd take a moment to share what I love about using a free blog.
So here's five reasons why I love Blogging for Free:
Wednesday, 15 March 2017
TIME TO REFLECTI try to make a habit of reflecting on my week by writing a few lines in my personal journal. I don't have a very exciting life, in fact I have a fairly ordinary life most of the time. I don't have reams of things to write about when I look back on my week, but I find jotting down a few thoughts and reflections gives me a bit of an overview of how my life is going, where I've been and how far I've progressed. It also gives me an excuse to get out a nice pen and write in a notebook that lasts me a few years - then I get the pleasure of buying a new one!
Monday, 13 March 2017
IN THE BEGINNINGI've mentioned before that I started this blog with Absolutely.No.Idea about what blogging actually was, and how to go about it. I just jumped in and started typing away and learned the basics as I went along. I've never tried to turn it into a money making enterprise or a soapbox to vent from, it's just been a wonderful outlet for me and a fantastic way to meet and connect with people all over the world.
I'm a latecomer to the blogging party - some people I've "met" have been blogging for a decade or more. I am in sheer awe of their tenacity and adaptability, and the way they keep up with all the changes that have happened in that time. I've only been kicking around the edges for the last two and half years - but let me say this - "it's been brilliant!"
Friday, 10 March 2017
WHAT'S TO LOVE ABOUT GETTING OLDER?Sometimes I sit back and feel my aches and pains, or see a new wrinkle, or notice an extra kilo or two and wonder what good there is in growing old? All the vibrancy and the fast pace of youth are behind me, what's left to look forward to?
Then I stop and remind myself that Midlife is a pretty fabulous stage in the journey. It's not the beginning, and it's not the end - it's a hiatus where I can catch my breath and enjoy these five fabulous things:
Wednesday, 8 March 2017
THESE GOLDEN YEARS
I'm pretty sure Taylor Swift wasn't referring to Midlifers when she wrote "State of Grace", but a little snippet of the lyrics rang true to me about this stage of life. It is a golden age - time to take a breath and discover the people we've become, different to who we were and hopefully better versions of our younger selves.
Monday, 6 March 2017
BEING ORDINARYI am a midlife woman who has come a long way in the last few years in accepting myself and owning my fabulous-ness and my not-so-fabulous-ness. I know I have some great attributes and I also know that I still have a few areas that could do with some polishing up before I'm happy with them.
Friday, 3 March 2017
CRAFT VS CREATIONI'm a really ambivalent person when it comes to craft and DIY. I have even written a post about being the Anti-Craft because I have never been a clever cutter, gluer, folder, painter, or baker. Sometimes I surprise myself and do something a little bit clever (like my stained glass project) but in general I leave all that stuff to the innately creative people.
What I have learned over the years is that there are actually things I am more than capable of making - to open up my world, grow my character, and feed my soul. So to get started, here are five things even the least crafty people can make (and I'm sure there's quite a few more!)
Wednesday, 1 March 2017
All through my adult life I have had a secret love - unfortunately there isn't anything remotely romantic or exciting about it, but it is something I find relaxing and strangely satisfying.....Yes it's colouring in. I thought I was the only grown-up in the world who loved spending time choosing colours and finishing pictures but it turns out that there are a lot of us out there.