Saturday, 22 April 2017
Friday, 21 April 2017
TO RETIRE OR NOT TO RETIRE? THAT IS THE QUESTIONThere comes a time in every Midlifer's life when the question about when to retire raises its confusing (and yet strangely alluring) head. We see some of our work colleagues taking the plunge and leaving the 9 -5 daily grind behind and heading into a lovely sunset of late morning sleep-ins and a lifelong holiday. The temptation is to follow them out the door and into a twilight of endless leisure.
Thursday, 20 April 2017
Sometimes I look at my Pinterest Page and am a little amazed at the vast range of quotes I have collected over the years. There is something about a quote that succinctly sums up a thought or a feeling in a way we may not have been able to do on our own. I think I might just be the Queen of Quotes - a title I'm quite proud of really.
THE QUEEN OF QUOTES
Wednesday, 19 April 2017
Midlife brings with it a change in parenting. We spent 20+ years raising our children from babies into becoming capapble, self-sufficient adults. We breathed a sigh of relief as they launched themselves successfully into the world and thought we could sit back and rest on our laurels.
What we hadn't noticed during all the time we focused on our own little family, was that our parents were growing older. They went from being Midlifers to becoming "old people" while we were looking the other way.
Tuesday, 18 April 2017
WHO ARE YOU REALLY?
Monday, 17 April 2017
DON'T STAGNATE!Life is short, and reaching the half way point has been a real eye-opener for me. I saw I had stopped growing and was pretty close to stagnating. Sitting still and assuming there is "nothing new under the sun" to quote Solomon - is the worst thing we can do with the lives we've been given. When you feel like this it's time to step out and try something new.
Saturday, 15 April 2017
When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to let small annoying things drive us crazy. It's easy to "take the mickey" out of someone you know so well. It gives us a smile at the time but doesn't do anything to build up the person we love.
Friday, 14 April 2017
Thursday, 13 April 2017
A JOB WELL DONEI often wonder how you decide if you did a good job of parenting your children. So many people struggle with putting in the effort and then having their adult children turn their backs on everything and make some truly awful decisions. It is so hard to be a mother of a child who makes wrong choices over and over again. Fortunately those children are in the minority.
Wednesday, 12 April 2017
When I reached the grand old age of 52 I had a Midlife Employment Epiphany (as I prefer to call it) others may refer to it as a Midlife Crisis. I had been in a job for years where I was taken for granted, under-paid and under-appreciated. It was sucking the joy out of my life and yet day after day, week after week, I turned up and did the 9-5 routine.
WHAT MIDLIFE CRISIS?
Tuesday, 11 April 2017
A couple of years ago I wrote a post about feeling invisible in Midlife - only to find I have had a complete about face and don't feel in the slightest bit invisible anymore - it's amazing what a change of perspective can do for your confidence!
LEARNING A LESSON
Monday, 10 April 2017
CLOUDS AND LININGSOne of the biggest lessons Midlife has taught me is that the key to happiness lies firmly and securely in my own pocket. I am responsible for how I see life and I get to choose whether to look for the silver lining, or wallow in the rain cloud. Give me a silver lining any day!
Saturday, 8 April 2017
THE CIRCLE OF LIFEOne of the most fabulous parts of Midlife is the joy of sharing in the blessing of the next generation. To see your children's children and to be allowed to participate in loving them and revelling in their cuteness is beyond words. To be part of the life of a happy and sun-shiny grandbaby fills my heart with gratitude every day.
Friday, 7 April 2017
A LIFETIME OF FRIENDS
Friends are one of Midlife's greatest blessings - true friends enrich our life immeasurably by accepting us for who we are and choosing to share their lives with us. As I look back over 50+ years I am so grateful for the friends I have gathered along the way - both old and new, and those somewhere in between.
Thursday, 6 April 2017
THE STEREOTYPICAL EMPTY NESTThe empty nest is often spoken about as a sad and lonely time. The kids leave and take all the life and interest and excitement with them. There's no-one left who needs looking after, nobody coming and going, no strangers wandering through the house, nothing new and nothing out of the ordinary any more. It can all be so silent and sedate and fairly boring if you let it.
Wednesday, 5 April 2017
ASKING THE HARD QUESTIONS
Midlife brings with it a time where you question a lot of your assumptions. Life changes and the kids move out and you're home alone with your partner and you start wondering why you do a lot of things. Maybe it happens sooner for some people, but for me it was Midlife when it hit me between the eyes.
Tuesday, 4 April 2017
SPINSTERS AND CATS
Craziness and being a cat person is usually associated with spinsters - the obvious sign that you are never going to get married is that you own a cat (or two, or three). It might be the symbol for spinsters, but there is another stage of life where cat ownership sneaks up on you and that's Midlife. Before you know it you've become one of those crazy people who need to de-hair their clothes before they leave the house.
Monday, 3 April 2017
WHO I'M NOT AND WHO I AM
When I was a Mum of young children the internet hadn't been invented so I never got to be a Mommy Blogger, I'm a fairly ordinary cook so I never got to be a Food Blogger, I'm the Anticraft so I never got to be a DIY Blogger, and I am no clothes horse so I never got to be a Fashion Blogger.
But! One thing I am excellent at is being a Midlifer - I am learning so much, experiencing so many new things, and growing heaps now that I've hit my Fabulous Fifties - why not blog about it? So, a couple of years I jumped in feet first and became a Midlife Blogger - and what a ride it has been.
Saturday, 1 April 2017
LEAPING BACK IN TO THE A TO ZLast year I did the A to Z Challenge for the first time and thought "never again!" because it was so full on, but here I am again having another go at it and I'm excited to share my theme - which is the centre of my reason for blogging - Midlife is Fabulous! And it's fabulous on so many levels - so why not start with explaining why.....
Friday, 31 March 2017
We live in a fast paced world and all that busy-ness tends to take over our life. Sometimes you just need to stop for a second and do nothing - just breathe. Inhale some peace and beauty and exhale some of the stress that's been building up inside.
TAKE TIME TO DE-STRESS
For Five Things Friday I've put together five quotes about the importance of stopping for a moment to breathe. As you browse through them, take a deep breath and feel the peace descend - then maybe pin a couple of them to remind you to stop and smell the roses occasionally.
Wednesday, 29 March 2017
IT'S UP TO YOU
It's so easy to let life knock the us down. There are so many petty little things that nip at our heels every day, just waiting to get a good grip and pull us backwards and sink us into a funk.
Monday, 27 March 2017
INHALATIONLife is busy - there is always something happening, something new to experience - some new delight to breathe into our world. We are forever being told to "take a deep breath", to "listen to our breath", to "just breathe", to "breathe it all in".
It seems to me that the focus is on sucking it into ourselves, drawing all we can from what is on offer and filling ourselves with all that comes our way. What I've been wondering lately is.....what do we do with all that we've breathed in?
Friday, 24 March 2017
A LITTLE FRIVOLITYWhen I write my Five Things Friday posts I usually pick something I've been thinking about - some are even a little bit deep. Today's is much more frivolous - I've just picked five little things that have added a smile to my life lately.
Wednesday, 22 March 2017
LIVING IN THE NOWMidlife is my time - time for me to focus on what is important to me now, and to let go of all the distractions and needless worries about past and future. There is a lot to be said for moving on from the past and leaving it behind - learn from it for sure, but then kick it out the door and get on with the life that I'm part of now. Everyone has stuff in their past they want to leave behind - so now is the time to make the decision to unclench your fist and let it go. It's time to live in the present and not keep looking back to the past.
Monday, 20 March 2017
TACKLING THE A TO Z CHALLENGELast year I took on the A to Z Challenge because I thought it looked like fun - and it was....but it's not called a Challenge for nothing! Writing 26 posts in one month is quite full on and not for the faint hearted. A lot of bloggers start with good intentions and then fall by the wayside as the month progresses.
I soldiered on through the Challenge and used the theme "Positive Personality Traits" - it was an interesting exercise, and one I decided I wouldn't be repeating. But a year is a long time and I seem to have forgotten all the hard bits and I'm feeling the pull to do it all again. So......
Friday, 17 March 2017
BLOGGING FOR FREEEveryone talks about self-hosting, but what about those of us who use a free blog?
Ever since I fell into the world of blogging I've read dozens and dozens of posts on why it's best to set up a self-hosted blog - all the money you can make, all the plug-ins and added extras you can access, all the bells and whistles that blogging for free doesn't give you. But you know what, I've been blogging for two and a half years and (other than buying my domain name) it has cost me nothing, zero, zip, zilch.
I don't use my blog to earn an income, so I have the freedom to stick with my free Blogger blog, to play around with it and enjoy it, without having to worry about all the problems I read about that come with having a blog that is bigger than Ben Hur. I thought I'd take a moment to share what I love about using a free blog.
So here's five reasons why I love Blogging for Free:
Wednesday, 15 March 2017
TIME TO REFLECTI try to make a habit of reflecting on my week by writing a few lines in my personal journal. I don't have a very exciting life, in fact I have a fairly ordinary life most of the time. I don't have reams of things to write about when I look back on my week, but I find jotting down a few thoughts and reflections gives me a bit of an overview of how my life is going, where I've been and how far I've progressed. It also gives me an excuse to get out a nice pen and write in a notebook that lasts me a few years - then I get the pleasure of buying a new one!
Monday, 13 March 2017
IN THE BEGINNINGI've mentioned before that I started this blog with Absolutely.No.Idea about what blogging actually was, and how to go about it. I just jumped in and started typing away and learned the basics as I went along. I've never tried to turn it into a money making enterprise or a soapbox to vent from, it's just been a wonderful outlet for me and a fantastic way to meet and connect with people all over the world.
I'm a latecomer to the blogging party - some people I've "met" have been blogging for a decade or more. I am in sheer awe of their tenacity and adaptability, and the way they keep up with all the changes that have happened in that time. I've only been kicking around the edges for the last two and half years - but let me say this - "it's been brilliant!"
Friday, 10 March 2017
WHAT'S TO LOVE ABOUT GETTING OLDER?Sometimes I sit back and feel my aches and pains, or see a new wrinkle, or notice an extra kilo or two and wonder what good there is in growing old? All the vibrancy and the fast pace of youth are behind me, what's left to look forward to?
Then I stop and remind myself that Midlife is a pretty fabulous stage in the journey. It's not the beginning, and it's not the end - it's a hiatus where I can catch my breath and enjoy these five fabulous things:
Wednesday, 8 March 2017
THESE GOLDEN YEARS
I'm pretty sure Taylor Swift wasn't referring to Midlifers when she wrote "State of Grace", but a little snippet of the lyrics rang true to me about this stage of life. It is a golden age - time to take a breath and discover the people we've become, different to who we were and hopefully better versions of our younger selves.
Monday, 6 March 2017
BEING ORDINARYI am a midlife woman who has come a long way in the last few years in accepting myself and owning my fabulous-ness and my not-so-fabulous-ness. I know I have some great attributes and I also know that I still have a few areas that could do with some polishing up before I'm happy with them.
Friday, 3 March 2017
CRAFT VS CREATIONI'm a really ambivalent person when it comes to craft and DIY. I have even written a post about being the Anti-Craft because I have never been a clever cutter, gluer, folder, painter, or baker. Sometimes I surprise myself and do something a little bit clever (like my stained glass project) but in general I leave all that stuff to the innately creative people.
What I have learned over the years is that there are actually things I am more than capable of making - to open up my world, grow my character, and feed my soul. So to get started, here are five things even the least crafty people can make (and I'm sure there's quite a few more!)
Wednesday, 1 March 2017
All through my adult life I have had a secret love - unfortunately there isn't anything remotely romantic or exciting about it, but it is something I find relaxing and strangely satisfying.....Yes it's colouring in. I thought I was the only grown-up in the world who loved spending time choosing colours and finishing pictures but it turns out that there are a lot of us out there.
Monday, 27 February 2017
There is something in me that is always bubbling away under the surface and it used to manifest as worry or over-thinking. I finally realized how pointless it was to brood over the past, or to be trying to constantly plan my future in every tiny detail.Now I try to catch myself before the bubbling takes over and starts eating away at my happiness. Here's three easy ways I've discovered lately to calm my mind and to appreciate being in the moment.
Friday, 24 February 2017
Wednesday, 22 February 2017
Somewhere along the line in my life, I managed to develop this absurd notion (my family refers to it as my “Brady Bunch Mentality”) that families are this amazing group of people who are interconnected, and inter-dependent, and want to spend lots time together, sharing happily in each others’ lives. I assume they want to do this because they are so in-sync with each other and love to be together....and because they have been parented this way.
Monday, 20 February 2017
I was having coffee with my sister-in-law (and great buddy) the other day and we were discussing the expectations placed on us and how that's changed with the next generation. Our adult "kids" have no qualms with living their own lives autonomously and they have no problem at all with leaving their parents to their own devices.
Friday, 17 February 2017
WHAT IS "REAL" LOVE?
Real love is about connecting with and caring about a person who you are doing life with long term. Someone who has your back, who loves you despite your faults, and who will be there at the end of the day to hold your hand and give you a hug when you need one. At the same time, it is staying true to who you intrinsically are and respecting each other's differences along the way.
Wednesday, 15 February 2017
I’ve always been a healthy person – fairly robust and not prone to illness in general. I expected that this was the same for everyone and had never heard of the term “depression” until it took a swipe at my family. Pre-Google, “depression” was what people got when someone died. I have subsequently found out it is also what people get when their family has a predisposition towards Serotonin deficiency.
Monday, 13 February 2017
I was talking to a friend about midlife marriage the other day. She lives in a perpetual state of "hope deferred" (as she refers to it) and "constant disappointment" (as I refer to it!) She keeps waiting for her husband of 28 years to step up and be her knight in shining armour. She is certain that her marriage should be a fairytale and is so disappointed that it's not.
KNIGHTS IN SHINING ARMOUR
Friday, 10 February 2017
WHY GO THROUGH TOUGH TIMES?Sometimes I wonder why we go through tough times in life. But really, deep down, I know the answer - those tough times are what make us stronger. They deepen us, make us more compassionate, and turn us into better people. One word sums it up - Resilience - the ability to face adversity and turn it around. To come out of it with a better understanding of ourselves and our fellow human beings is something to be grateful for after weathering the storm.
Five qualities I've noticed that resilient people manifest:
Wednesday, 8 February 2017
BUMPS AND HUMPS
Have you noticed that life throws all sorts of challenges our way? We expect to have an easy ride, but those of us who have been around the block a few of times, know that there will be bumps along the way. Sometimes there are potholes the size of swimming pools, speed humps and "Men At Work" signs.
Monday, 6 February 2017
ANONYMOUS - I DON'T THINK SO!The funny thing about starting this blog was that I never expected anybody to read it. I thought it would be good to have a space online where I could record my thoughts and one day go back and read them - something for posterity was probably my other thought. I didn't use my name or my photo and I thought I was flying under the radar. Even my husband didn't know I'd become a "Blogger".
Friday, 3 February 2017
Sometimes we get so caught up in all the trials and tribulations of our world and forget to acknowledge the wonderful stuff we have in our lives every day. Maybe it's time to put the world on pause for a little while and take time out to think about the blessings we've been given.
Today these are the five great things I'm grateful for. I could probably sit and list another five without too much trouble, but these were the first to spring to mind. I wonder what other people would have in their top five - feel free to enlighten me in the comments!
Wednesday, 1 February 2017
CHANGES, CHANGES EVERYWHERE
For someone who is not good at coping with change, I seem to have had a lot of ups and downs in my life. My friend said the other day that my life looks a bit like a hamster wheel at times - running, running to keep everything on track.
Monday, 30 January 2017
BEING SECOND BEST
Words cannot explain how much I love the quote above! Fifty years of having a 'first born' mentality of trying to please all the people in my life and putting my thoughts and preferences second have now gone out the window! I think it's been a generational thing for women of my age to have put themselves last when it came to trying to keep everyone happy and smooth the waters.
Friday, 27 January 2017
As I mentioned in my post on Monday, Australia is a law unto itself when it comes to our use (abuse) of the English language. For Five Things Friday I wanted to share five of my favourite Aussie slang expressions. The only trouble was condensing it down to just five! (I cheated and added a few extras as an addendum) I also noticed that there were several versions of the first expression - obviously we have an abundance of nutty people in Australia!
Wednesday, 25 January 2017
I wrote this post a year or so ago after I read the poem by George Ella Lyon titled "Where I'm From" and then found that it had been used as inspiration for a writing exercise. There was a template presented here that gave me a starting point and I couldn't resist the challenge to try my hand at it too.
It's Australia Day on January 26th and I thought the poem I wrote reflected life in Australia and what it was like growing up in the sunburnt country Down Under.
Monday, 23 January 2017
Friday, 20 January 2017
We all have those time in life when people let us down - sometimes it's friends, sometimes it's workmates, other times it's our nearest and dearest. I have a Pinterest Board chock full of quotes about being disappointed so if you find the five I've included today helpful at all, feel free to click on the link and head over to read more.