Midlife Monday ~ Should There Be Limits on Fabulous-ness?

Should there be a limit on how many talents and gifts any one person is blessed with?

BEING ORDINARY

I am a midlife woman who has come a long way in the last few years in accepting myself and owning my fabulous-ness and my not-so-fabulous-ness. I know I have some great attributes and I also know that I still have a few areas that could do with some polishing up before I'm happy with them.

I look around me and I see a world full of people who are much the same as me. They aren't beautiful, but they're not ugly. They aren't Chuck Norris, but they're not couch potatoes. They're not Beyonce, but they're not screeching like the cat next door. They're not setting the world on fire, but they're still pretty happy with where they are in life.

THE CHOSEN FEW

Then there are the chosen few. These are the naturally beautiful, or the naturally amazing singers, or the naturally tall, trim and terrifics, or the naturally brilliant minds, or the naturally sporty, or the naturally empathetic, or the naturally generous souls, and the list goes on. They are blessed with something special that the rest of us mere mortals can only look at with a little envy and wistfulness.

I get that, I get that some people are lucky enough to inherit wonderfulness in some shape or form. I'd love to be gorgeous, or to sing in a way that makes the angels in heaven stop and weep, or to run like a gazelle instead of a drunk giraffe. I'd love to have an innate sense of empathy and generosity and kindness - instead of having to work at it every.damn.day (why is the world full of idiots??? - yes, I'm still working on it!)

THE ULTRA-FABULOUS

My beef is with those who are doubly or triply blessed. Have you seen some of those famous singers? Voices to die for and drop dead good looking too! What's with Hugh Jackman who can sing, dance, act, look great and be a fantastic husband? What's with these Olympic athletes who win gold medals and also have megawatt smiles, and are glowingly good looking? What's with entrepreneurs who make megabucks and then give great chunks of it away, who teach their children to fend for themselves instead of expecting handouts and who are humble and thoughtful?

EQUAL DISTRIBUTION

In my perfect world we would each be given something fabulous - looks, talent, sportiness, genius status, business acumen, or whatever. BUT, and this is a big but (not the big 'butt' that a lot of us fret over - different type of 'but' here) each of us are only allowed one piece of fabulous-ness. Surely if you have a gorgeous singing voice, you don't need to have a gorgeous face too. If you can run like the wind, you don't need fabulous hair. If you have a brilliant mind, you don't need amazing social skills or charm - look at all those nerds out there who manage perfectly well! 


Should there be a limit on how many talents and gifts any one person is blessed with?

ONE PIECE EACH

If we all got one piece each of fabulous-ness then there'd be more to go around. It would be nice to choose what you'd like to be fabulous at - would you choose looks over brains, or singing over gracefulness, or kindness over wealth? Maybe it would have to be a random distribution or we'd all be gorgeous, shallow idiots.

I'd just like to put it out into the universe to say that I want my little piece of magic and I'm happy for everyone to have a little piece too - but just ONE piece so we can all start on an equal footing. Then shows like "The Voice" would be obsolete because all those people with beautiful voices would have ordinary looks and there'd be no competition. 

So, should there be a limit on fabulous-ness?

Should there be a limit on how many talents and gifts any one person is blessed with?
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36 comments

  1. Leanne, I have to agree with you. It just isn't fair that some have so many of the fabulousness. I wish I could really sing, just becaue I love too, not to be on the voice however. OH well, I guess I have to be satisfied with what I have.
    Thanks for sharing at Over The Moon Party,
    Bev

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    1. It's funny how singing is something those of us who are tone deaf long for isn't it Bev? If I turn the music up REALLY loud I can pretend that I can sing :)

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  2. Nah, I think we are each individuals who cannot be replaced nor cloned so we are UNIQUE . Each of us has all the fabulous-ness we need...but we need to own it and see it ourselves first! And it is NOT appearance or talent based..it is what makes YOU "you".
    Thanks for linking up for #lifethisweek 10/52. Next week: My Favourite Colour.

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    1. That's so true Denyse - we really need to be less self critical and see the good and unique and special qualities that we all possess and own them with pride :)

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  3. Talent, looks, but scariest of all, intelligence - is distributed so unevenly in this world. Perhaps my talent is intelligence. Yes, that's it! I think I am happy not being Fabulous, except I could wish for a better singing voice (agreeing with Bev on that one). And, yes, a smaller butt. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.com

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    1. Yep we all want that great singing voice don't we Alana? And I think there are a lot of smart people out there, but not a lot who are wise (just sayin')

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    2. Leanne, that is an excellent point. My husband and I were watching a documentary last night that made my husband conclude: There's so much intelligence, but so little wisdom."

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  4. My sister and I had a long conversation yesterday about hidden talents. We have a bunch of mutual friends who have suddenly discovered they had tremendous talent they never knew about I'm not denigrating myself when I say I don't have any hidden fabulousness I haven't discovered yet :-) :-)

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    1. Now I'm jealous of those friends of yours Carla - my hidden magnificence hasn't risen to the surface yet either - maybe there's still time for our moment of glory???

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  5. Well I don't know if we should have limits...but I will say this..I think "YOU" are fabulous....and I am wishing you a little magic...

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    1. Oh Renee that was so kind! I think you can add kindness and graciousness to your list of superpowers :) x

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  6. You made me laugh Leanne! We all have a creative talent maybe yet to be discovered. Beauty and athletic and intellectual excellence is a lot of genetics!

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    1. I'm hoping that mine are going to appear unexpectedly (but soon Haralee!) I guess it's the obvious ones that bug me - so many gorgeous, talented people out there popping up on my social media!

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  7. WOW! I have to agree with Denyse above. I don't think there should be limits. I mean, I may get a bit jelly over someone who has the double or triple threat going on but we can all be fabulous in our own way. Our own UNIQUE way. Looks isn't everything imo. Having a wonderful personality that can enlighten a room is more important to me.

    Love the post, Leanne. You are fabulous in more ways than one, girl. Rock it!

    Bren @ A Splash of Cray

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    1. What a lovely thing to say Bren - thank you (and you're right about the uniqueness of each of us) and I think it's also about learning to recognize your own worth isn't it?

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  8. I think everyone has undiscovered talents. We are our own worst enemies when it comes to recognizing them. I say: Live like no one else is watching. Then maybe we'll be ready to explore that undiscovered country.

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    1. You are right on the spot with this comment Diane - we need to see our own value and special traits and love ourselves for that - a really valuable lesson isn't it?

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    1. Thanks Paula - the whole thing gave me a smile too (with a drop of cynicism underneath!)

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  10. I think one problem with our commercialized culture is that it's beneficial to the entertainment industry to have stars and ordinary people who the stars entertain (for a price). I love the Irish music scene I'm involved in here in NYC because it's so much more of a spectrum - there are definitely people who are great musicians and people who just go to listen, but the session I frequent is so beginner-friendly that if you have learned one tune on the simplest instrument, you will get to play. And then you learn another one, and another one, and maybe someday you get to be one of the well-regarded musicians who lead the sessions - but it's all part of the group. We have all kinds of day jobs, but when we all get together to play, we're all there to make music together. And THAT is fabulous!

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    1. That sounds amazing Bonnie - and I love that you can develop without feeling intimidated by those who are at the other end of the fabulous stage. I would still love to find something I could be fabulous at - maybe it will come with retirement?

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  11. I think we all have much fabulessness... Some are just willing to let it rip while the rest of us are just too shy.

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    1. It does come down to self esteem and self confidence doesn't it Beth. Maybe we need to value other qualities more than beauty and brains - kindness and grace and patience all come to mind :)

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  12. So many nuggets of truth in this post, plus it's fun! While I've never been the megawatt, talented beauty, I have noticed that what I have is dwindling as I get older. Sometimes I'm sad about that but overall, I'm grateful I'm still here.

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    1. I'm the same Brenda - I seem to be less photogenic (not that I ever took amazing pics) but I can see all the flaws. I guess the secret to ageing well is to look beyond the imperfections and focus on all the bits of us that are becoming more fabulous as we get older :)

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  13. So much wisdom in your words, Leanne! I'm a firm believer in finding one's own fabulousness. Sometimes it's a lifetime's journey to find it all but that positive reason for living and keeping on keeping on is a joyous purpose to have in life.

    SSG xxx

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    1. I think that is so true - maybe life is a journey into discovering who we really are and in that we find our own unique qualities that are pretty fabulous - looking forward to finding mine!

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  14. Thanks for starting my morning out with a smile. Now if I could just figure out what one piece of fabulousness I want! I'm thinking a deep sense of joy--then I wouldn't care that I'm missing out on all the other fabulousness.

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    1. I like that Christie - it would be lovely to be so joyful that you didn't have time to be bothered about anyone else's fabulous-ness eclipsing your own. I'm going to work on that one.

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  15. This is so meaningful - and beautifully written! It reminded me of my days in the classroom. Teachers have such power to identify "winners" and "losers" at an early age. By the time I met my students, they were in high school, but I still tried to find one thing in each of them that was "fabulous" and give them public credit for it!

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    1. Wouldn't it be lovely if we all had teachers like you J? Imagine all the self-esteem we could have cultivated early - it would have saved me a lot of time in midlife :)

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  16. Thank you for sharing this post at the #WednesdayAIM #LinkUp #BlogParty. I shared it on social media.

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  17. Oh I used to work with somebody like this - a real "Golden Girl". It would have been easy to be jealous and mean to her except she was so darn NICE!!! LOL

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  18. Thank you for sharing at Link It Up Wednesday!

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  19. Hi Leanne,
    Look at all these comments. Women empowerment!
    Thanks for coming to the Blogger's Pit Stop last week.
    Janice, Pit Stop Crew

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