Sunday, 30 April 2017
Saturday, 29 April 2017
UNREAL EXPECTATIONSOne of the biggest downsides of the internet is the exposure you get to the unnaturally beautiful people of the world and they are sold to us as being someone we should aspire to looking like. In the media today it's all about eternal youth and trying to stay 20 forever. Apparently if you eat right, exercise madly, and use the right moisturizer, then the world is your oyster and you will have discovered the secret to eternal youth.
Friday, 28 April 2017
MIDLIFER "A" OR MIDLIFER "B"?There are two types of Midlifer - those who are old before their time, grumpy and cranky, and always finding fault (they even have TV programs based on "Grumpy Old Men" and "Grumpy Old Women" - and these people aren't old - they're in Midlife!) Then there are those Midlifers who are vibrant, and busy, and involved, and smiling, and celebrating life - they have what I call "The "X" Factor".
Thursday, 27 April 2017
When I ask my husband what the benefits of getting older are, the answer he always comes up with is "wisdom" because it ties in so closely with life experiences gained from living long and well. Wisdom is such a valuable life skill and is a hard earned one. It comes from years of interacting with people, living through life's ups and downs and learning that there are not always black and white answers to all the questions that arise.
Wednesday, 26 April 2017
A LITTLE BIT OF SPARE TIMEIn Midlife you come up for a breath of air and realize that you have all you need and a little bit left over. For some that means they need to keep working until the little bit left over becomes a bigger and bigger bit......for others of us it means that we can slow down a little and look at how we can give something back.
Tuesday, 25 April 2017
DON'T UNDER ESTIMATE WHAT MIDLIFE OFFERS
I always thought that being "Middle Aged" would be a dull and dreary time of life. I was so wrong because what I've found instead is that this stage of life, and who I am in the midst of it, is pretty darn fine. Midlifers like me have a lot to offer - we're not callow youths who have no life experience or wisdom. We're mature people who have lived and loved, worked and played, lost friends and found new ones, and the list goes on. We have so much life experience we hardly know what to do with it all!
Monday, 24 April 2017
MIDLIFE TRAVELMidlife is the time to go to all those places you have on your bucket list. You might not get to all of them straight away, but it's a great time to make a start and tick a few off. Living in Australia means that most overseas travel can involve long haul flights and lot of money. You can't pop across the Channel for a weekend in France or jump on a plane for a few days in sunny California. It takes a considerable amount of planning to launch off to one of these (very attractive) destinations.
Saturday, 22 April 2017
HAVING AN EPIPHANYWhen I reached Midlife I had an epiphany of sorts as far as my relationship with myself went. I stopped seeing myself as middle aged, and settled and stuck, treading water in the same place, and started seeing a whole new person - someone who could stand alone if need be, someone who had a lot to offer, someone who had a brain and a heart, who had good friends and a great family network, who was a person in her own right......and I liked that person a lot.
Friday, 21 April 2017
TO RETIRE OR NOT TO RETIRE? THAT IS THE QUESTIONThere comes a time in every Midlifer's life when the question about when to retire raises its confusing (and yet strangely alluring) head. We see some of our work colleagues taking the plunge and leaving the 9 -5 daily grind behind and heading into a lovely sunset of late morning sleep-ins and a lifelong holiday. The temptation is to follow them out the door and into a twilight of endless leisure.
Thursday, 20 April 2017
Sometimes I look at my Pinterest Page and am a little amazed at the vast range of quotes I have collected over the years. There is something about a quote that succinctly sums up a thought or a feeling in a way we may not have been able to do on our own. I think I might just be the Queen of Quotes - a title I'm quite proud of really.
THE QUEEN OF QUOTES
Wednesday, 19 April 2017
Midlife brings with it a change in parenting. We spent 20+ years raising our children from babies into becoming capapble, self-sufficient adults. We breathed a sigh of relief as they launched themselves successfully into the world and thought we could sit back and rest on our laurels.
What we hadn't noticed during all the time we focused on our own little family, was that our parents were growing older. They went from being Midlifers to becoming "old people" while we were looking the other way.
Tuesday, 18 April 2017
WHO ARE YOU REALLY?
Monday, 17 April 2017
DON'T STAGNATE!Life is short, and reaching the half way point has been a real eye-opener for me. I saw I had stopped growing and was pretty close to stagnating. Sitting still and assuming there is "nothing new under the sun" to quote Solomon - is the worst thing we can do with the lives we've been given. When you feel like this it's time to step out and try something new.
Saturday, 15 April 2017
When you've been married for a very long time you come to realize how important it is to invest in the person who you made a life long vow to. It's so easy to take each other for granted and to let small annoying things drive us crazy. It's easy to "take the mickey" out of someone you know so well. It gives us a smile at the time but doesn't do anything to build up the person we love.
Friday, 14 April 2017
Thursday, 13 April 2017
A JOB WELL DONEI often wonder how you decide if you did a good job of parenting your children. So many people struggle with putting in the effort and then having their adult children turn their backs on everything and make some truly awful decisions. It is so hard to be a mother of a child who makes wrong choices over and over again. Fortunately those children are in the minority.
Wednesday, 12 April 2017
When I reached the grand old age of 52 I had a Midlife Employment Epiphany (as I prefer to call it) others may refer to it as a Midlife Crisis. I had been in a job for years where I was taken for granted, under-paid and under-appreciated. It was sucking the joy out of my life and yet day after day, week after week, I turned up and did the 9-5 routine.
WHAT MIDLIFE CRISIS?
Tuesday, 11 April 2017
A couple of years ago I wrote a post about feeling invisible in Midlife - only to find I have had a complete about face and don't feel in the slightest bit invisible anymore - it's amazing what a change of perspective can do for your confidence!
LEARNING A LESSON
Monday, 10 April 2017
CLOUDS AND LININGSOne of the biggest lessons Midlife has taught me is that the key to happiness lies firmly and securely in my own pocket. I am responsible for how I see life and I get to choose whether to look for the silver lining, or wallow in the rain cloud. Give me a silver lining any day!
Saturday, 8 April 2017
THE CIRCLE OF LIFEOne of the most fabulous parts of Midlife is the joy of sharing in the blessing of the next generation. To see your children's children and to be allowed to participate in loving them and revelling in their cuteness is beyond words. To be part of the life of a happy and sun-shiny grandbaby fills my heart with gratitude every day.
Friday, 7 April 2017
A LIFETIME OF FRIENDS
Friends are one of Midlife's greatest blessings - true friends enrich our life immeasurably by accepting us for who we are and choosing to share their lives with us. As I look back over 50+ years I am so grateful for the friends I have gathered along the way - both old and new, and those somewhere in between.
Thursday, 6 April 2017
THE STEREOTYPICAL EMPTY NESTThe empty nest is often spoken about as a sad and lonely time. The kids leave and take all the life and interest and excitement with them. There's no-one left who needs looking after, nobody coming and going, no strangers wandering through the house, nothing new and nothing out of the ordinary any more. It can all be so silent and sedate and fairly boring if you let it.
Wednesday, 5 April 2017
ASKING THE HARD QUESTIONS
Midlife brings with it a time where you question a lot of your assumptions. Life changes and the kids move out and you're home alone with your partner and you start wondering why you do a lot of things. Maybe it happens sooner for some people, but for me it was Midlife when it hit me between the eyes.
Tuesday, 4 April 2017
SPINSTERS AND CATS
Craziness and being a cat person is usually associated with spinsters - the obvious sign that you are never going to get married is that you own a cat (or two, or three). It might be the symbol for spinsters, but there is another stage of life where cat ownership sneaks up on you and that's Midlife. Before you know it you've become one of those crazy people who need to de-hair their clothes before they leave the house.
Monday, 3 April 2017
WHO I'M NOT AND WHO I AM
When I was a Mum of young children the internet hadn't been invented so I never got to be a Mommy Blogger, I'm a fairly ordinary cook so I never got to be a Food Blogger, I'm the Anticraft so I never got to be a DIY Blogger, and I am no clothes horse so I never got to be a Fashion Blogger.
But! One thing I am excellent at is being a Midlifer - I am learning so much, experiencing so many new things, and growing heaps now that I've hit my Fabulous Fifties - why not blog about it? So, a couple of years I jumped in feet first and became a Midlife Blogger - and what a ride it has been.