LETS DIE WITHOUT REGRETS

Dying Without Regrets - You get to decide how you are going to spend the rest of your life

ARE WE CHOOSING WISELY?

Life is short and it's too easy to let it run away from you while you are trying to be all things to all people. As a woman I think it becomes a snare and an obligation where you can allow yourself to be taken for granted and lose yourself in the process.

We forget that we have choices - more choices than women our age have ever had. It's time to use those choices to decide how to spend the years ahead wisely. 

THE FIVE REGRETS OF THE DYING

There's a very well known article that circulated around the internet years ago by Bronnie Ware that listed the top five regrets of the dying. 

top five regrets of the dying (and the living)

Why wait until you're on your death bed to realize that you should have lived your life differently? Why not start now and put some positive energy into living a life that is so rich and full that it leaves you with no regrets when it's time to leave this earth behind? All five of these regrets are so simple to overcome with only minor changes to how we live our lives. Basically they come down to living a life that is simple and relational.

LIVING REGRET FREE

So, I made a list of the top five resolutions for a regret free life. Maybe these would be a good place to start:

five resolutions for a regret free life

BE AUTHENTIC

The most important thing I've been learning through my Quantum Change is that being true to yourself is the first and foremost priority. It's time to take stock of who our authentic self is and be true to our values (if you don't know what those values are then now is a good time to look into your heart and find out what really matters to you.) If we are living an authentic life then our happiness level will increase automatically - how could you not be happy when you are accepting of yourself and in a good head space?

INVEST IN RELATIONSHIPS

Although knowing ourselves is vital, we still need other people in our lives. It's important to invest ourselves in our family and friendships, we need to tell others that we love them and share how they make us feel. Don't let an opportunity pass by where you could tell someone how much they mean to you. Friendships and family take time and emotional investment but what we reap from that is priceless. 

WORK WISELY

Finally, why are we killing ourselves in jobs we don't like? Don't look back and regret these last years of working life as time spent in the salt mines of life. Make some changes - work less hours if you can, or change jobs if you need to. If you can't change your job - make sure you can find the good parts of your current job to focus on and invest in. Killing yourself in a job to make more money to spend on things you don't really need seems to be a major regret - so why do it?

Life is short and nobody wants to die with regrets - let's live life to the full and go out with a smile of contentment on our faces!
Dying Without Regrets - You get to decide how you are going to spend the rest of your life

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  1. Good list. I have few regrets in my life.

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    1. Thanks Denise - I'm the same because I'm learning to put these five things into practice more. I certainly don't want to die wishing I'd worked less!

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  2. Lots of wisdom here. I've been doing a lot of thinking recently about how short life is. This post should be shouted from the rooftops. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.com

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    1. It's funny how we hit the halfway mark in Midlife Alana and suddenly start coming to grips with the fact that our time here is getting shorter and what do we want to do about that fact? For me it's turning out to be quite an eye opener!

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  3. Leanne, this is a thought-provoking post. I am particularly intrigued by the comment, "I wish I hadn't worked so hard." That could very well be one of my thoughts on my death-bed, and yet I can't honestly make your statement, "Don't work so much." I rarely do "nothing". Why? I don't really know. I just have to be busy all the time. We are officially retired, but I don't see myself as having retired as a writer. I spend my days working on writing projects and my evenings I relax (?) making cards in front of TV. Hmm. Maybe I need to really think more about this. A Lesson in Communication

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    1. Hi Shirley - I think if what you do is something you love then it's not "work" Work is when you go to the 9-5 treadmill each day and spend your time counting down until you can go home again. I want balance and interest in my life - that doesn't come from working too much in my books - time for family and friends and leisure is so important.

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  4. I love you life a regret free life list! YES to every single one of those 5!

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    1. Thanks so much - and yes you're absolutely right - if we don't intentionally stop and think about what makes us happy and take time to pursue it then we find we've forgotten how to laugh at the end of the day.

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  5. I hope to die with no regrets about how I lived my life. Of course, my outspoken demeanor may mean no one shows up for the funeral, lol.

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    1. I'm sure I'll be in trouble at my funeral too Denise - but by then I won't mind. There has to come a time in life where you're allowed to be outspoken and to not have to keep everything bottled up. I figure there will be less to embarrass myself with if I get Dementia - because it will already be out in the open :)

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  6. Great list and great reminders. Sometimes we have to step back and refocus on what we really want from life. It is so hard to get wrapped up in the busy!

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    1. You're right Andrea - we need to stop and take a look at what is important and how much of our life we focus on that - and maybe re-order our priorities a little before it's too late.

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  7. I love how you turned the regrets into goals! Thanks for sharing. :-)

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    1. Thanks Lexie - it kind of made sense to me to re-jig them into something we can address while we still have time.

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  8. Hi Leanne. I have seen this list of the top regrets in life before and even written a blog post about them. Too many people put off their life goals because jobs, family commitments and lack of motivation puts them on the back burner until it is too late. I saw the light many years ago and have changed my life completely so that I won't carry too many regrets into my old age. This is such great advice for everyone to take onboard before it's too late. #TeamLovinLife

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    1. I wrote about them quite a while ago too Kathy but I think I'm at that stage of life where I want to keep reminding myself to focus on what matters and stop wasting time on things that don't have an eternal value.

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  9. I agree Leanne it is too late to have regrets in your deathbed. I'm living life to the full with as little regret as possible. Great advice here.

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    1. You are inspirational for how you live your life Sue - you seem to be getting the balance just right lately - especially with health, family and that gorgeous grandson!

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  10. Wish it didn't take until I was in my late 40's to realise a lot of what you've written here Leanne. Love your list of the top five resolutions for a regret free life. Some things in our lives are easier to change than others. Some take quite a lot of courage whereas others are not so difficult. Regardless, awareness of what needs to change is a very good first step! :-) #TeamLovinLife

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    1. I know the feeling Min - it took me to 50 to pull the plug on a job that sucked me dry - it wasn't going to be leaving me any fond memories in old age if I'd stayed there (just made me older before my time!) It's about finding the right amount of time and investment for each area and getting the balance right isn't it?

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  11. I love these important reminders, Leanne. As always your words hit the nail on the head. Thank you for this. I'll keep it in my mind and heart as I make it through each day. <3

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    1. I'm glad you liked it Andrea - it's really about finding your authentic place in the world and not allowing the expectations of others to control how you spend your time. I have no intention of working myself to death - or allowing toxic people to absorb my time and attention.

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    1. Me too Diane - and btw I quote you in a post next week!

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  13. Great advice, although easier to say than do...

    Jude

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    1. I think it gets easier as you get older Jude - you start to think about what time you have left and how you want to invest it. Crappy jobs and crappy people are not on the list for me any more I'm afraid!

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  14. I tend not to do regrets - mainly because I don't have the focus required to hold onto the regret. It's interesting though, the number of 50 something men I've spoken to lately who are in jobs they hate because of the ageism associated with changing. One said yesterday - it's not about enjoying it, it's about navigating to the finish line. It's a sentiment I don't agree with, but am hearing so much more. #TeamLovinLife

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    1. I feel a bit sorry for guys in this area Jo - their identity is often wrapped up in their job and having a job to talk about is really important - it doesn't have the same power over me and I'm so grateful for that!

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  15. My mum is very zen about dying. But she also leads a contented life. I tend to think her faith (she believes in God and is pretty religious) helps, but I think some of it is her personality. She sometimes says she's boring or not ambitious, but it's probably everyone else who has it wrong!

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    1. I'm pretty religious too Deb - but it's also a case of God helps those who help themselves. If you run around doing stuff you hate for people you don't like, it makes life on earth pretty miserable. I think I'm turning it around and leaving people to their own devices and working on a bit of your mum's Zen qualities :) Next I'll be taking up yoga!

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  16. Once again this is very thoughtful advice, Leanne. Thanks for sharing this #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty.

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    1. Thanks Donna - it's really just common sense, but sometimes it's nice to be reminded to look at what's important and use our time wisely (we have less time left these days!)

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  17. We all hope to die without regrets, but I guess there will always be something we wish we had done differently. Intentionally thinking about what we really value and prioritizing them the way you have is wise, and important! Of the items on your list, investing in relationships is most important to me. But all of them are important!

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    1. I'm at the point where finding my voice is what's important to me Wendy - I'm so tired of listening to the opinions of others and trying to keep everyone happy - now there is a bit more of a focus on keeping myself happy!

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  18. I need to work on the working one.

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    1. I certainly did too - until a few years ago when I made the big change - although sometimes I wonder if it's "out of the frying pan and into the fire" with my new one - why can't work just be easy and pleasant and fun???

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  19. Whenever we're on holidays wondering if we should or shouldn't indulge in something, or have to make big decisions in other areas I always say to the kids "no regrets". The older I get the more I believe that to be true.
    #teamlovinlife

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    1. I have never held that "no regrets" ideology until now Leanne - lately I've come to think that there isn't that much to living a happy life - and not having regrets is one of those simple things - so your "no regrets" might be my midlife mantra!

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  20. I love how we think alike Leanne! I totally agree with you that we must not live (or die) with regrets. Life is way too short... and we must make the most of it! :) #TeamLovinLife

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    1. Exactly Lyndall - we spend so much time trying to smooth the path for others, now I'm feeling like it's time to smooth my own path and spend my time on the things worth investing in (and bad jobs and bad people are not on the list!)

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  21. Life is short and you really begin to realize that as you grow older. It's so easy to go through life doing and doing because we think we have too, only to find out at the end that we really didn't "have to" and being full of regrets. Thank you for the important reminder! Thank you for sharing at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty.

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    1. I think we are taught to work and work at everything and then one day we can retire and reap the benefits. That's not what I want anymore - I want to find the balance of doing enough to not live under a bridge, but to also be happy and at peace right now - you're right - life is definitely short (and getting shorter by the day!)

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  22. I've previously commented Leanne but thanks for linking up and sharing with us at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I've shared on social media. See you at the next one!
    Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond

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    1. Thanks so much Sue - you always go above and beyond and I appreciate it x

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  23. Great advice Leanne. Thank you for linking up at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty! I have shared on social media.

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    1. Thanks Clearissa - and I love the link party and all you ladies who host it x

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  24. Inspiring! Thank you for sharing at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty

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  25. Hi Leanne,
    5 beautiful sentiments! Thanks for bringing your post to last week's Blogger's Pit Stop.
    Janice, Pit Stop Crew

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  26. All young adults or those at least 18 years old should take this into consideration and realize that life really is short. At that age though they think they have all the time in the world. Thanks Leanne for linking up at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty. I shared this post.

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