tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post2816125070216418355..comments2024-03-18T20:05:47.522+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: STEP #8 ON THE JOURNEY TO HAPPINESS ~ STOP PEOPLE PLEASINGLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31703161026229298362019-03-15T22:18:05.569+08:002019-03-15T22:18:05.569+08:00I am still trying to figure out who I am. I have b...I am still trying to figure out who I am. I have been such a people's person all my life, that I have no idea sometimes what my opinion is. I am working on it, if I meet people who don't 'feel' right, I make sure not to engage with them. Italians (I live in Italy) never let the other person speak, the all speak together, it's like a hen house. I prefer not to participate as they are only interested in their own opinion, I am no longer losing sleep over that one!<br />I.V. Evertshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02984934979012438965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-69164477042942275862016-07-27T22:12:07.875+08:002016-07-27T22:12:07.875+08:00I'm planning on being one of their number for ...I'm planning on being one of their number for a long time to come Sally - thanks for the encouragement!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-40269650110911157702016-07-27T22:11:35.804+08:002016-07-27T22:11:35.804+08:00It's always good to be able to shift to a whol...It's always good to be able to shift to a whole lot of new minds to influence for a year or two Janice - who knows what you're creating and sending out into the world - it's a bit scary really!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-25708639625521464142016-07-27T20:51:28.435+08:002016-07-27T20:51:28.435+08:00That's not a bad thing at all Leanne. Out ther...That's not a bad thing at all Leanne. Out there Nan's are some of the most fun people I know.<br /><br />Sally @ Life Loving<br />#LifeLovingLinkieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497429927333074481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-21180578881658463932016-07-27T13:48:33.243+08:002016-07-27T13:48:33.243+08:00Hi,
I'm the Yearbook teacher. I can't ange...Hi,<br />I'm the Yearbook teacher. I can't anger anyone. I have my students be my voice if needed. They won't be there in a few years, LOL.<br />Janice<br />Thank you for bringing your post to Blogger's Pit Stop last week.<br />Janice, Pit Stop CrewJanice Waldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15298688562236073165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19167329973784235972016-07-27T07:27:38.056+08:002016-07-27T07:27:38.056+08:00Thanks Nikki - and if it's any consolation, I ...Thanks Nikki - and if it's any consolation, I think you're fabulous and you've definitely found your place in the sun. When we're younger and trying to be what others want us to be, we cheat ourselves of so much don't we?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73487682183285365092016-07-25T23:03:15.576+08:002016-07-25T23:03:15.576+08:00This has always been a huge problem for me. And I ...This has always been a huge problem for me. And I don't know why. I like being different. But I also don't like to be lonely. In high school and in college it was hard for me because I didn't fit in. So I would always tone myself down so that I had friends. Life has its way of teaching you that you have to ignore what other people think. We've definitely learned that the last five years. I need to trust myself more and try harder to ignore what other people will think. And I try to remember that it really is none of my business what others think of me. If I let it bother me too much I'm spinning my wheels in life and not going anywhere. That's the worst thing ever. Wasting the time we have worrying about what others think of us. Great post, once again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17064084924219498676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-91322496128711480312016-07-23T10:35:44.886+08:002016-07-23T10:35:44.886+08:00It does seep into your thinking and your outlook w...It does seep into your thinking and your outlook when it's the way you've been taught to think. But we're never too old to learn a new way of doing things and to take the good from the old way and move forward with a new slant to it.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-33628313603720229892016-07-22T09:09:37.711+08:002016-07-22T09:09:37.711+08:00I struggle with this too. It's hard when you ...I struggle with this too. It's hard when you were raised that way. LIVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13524453327563312809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-28022302213279077402016-07-21T19:51:38.220+08:002016-07-21T19:51:38.220+08:00Thanks for inviting me to join in Michelle - you&...Thanks for inviting me to join in Michelle - you're right about people pleasing being exhausting - some people might find it easy, but squeezing yourself into other people's comfort zones is very tiring.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86156124115859052782016-07-21T19:50:42.003+08:002016-07-21T19:50:42.003+08:00Maybe that's why random acts of kindness have ...Maybe that's why random acts of kindness have such an appeal Nancy - you give and receive pleasure but it takes away the expectation of returned favours - an interesting thought :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84349986629113864922016-07-21T19:49:47.745+08:002016-07-21T19:49:47.745+08:00Thanks Lisa - it's something my daughter is mu...Thanks Lisa - it's something my daughter is much better at than I am. It's definitely tied to self esteem and mine is gradually improving and that frees me up from seeking it elsewhere!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-52909667913054252442016-07-21T19:00:32.746+08:002016-07-21T19:00:32.746+08:00Such great advice here. I know many people pleaser...Such great advice here. I know many people pleasers and they are not always the happiest people. Darn exhausting if you ask me. Thanks for sharing on Be Beautiful today.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18035008312943297731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-34725032636791689402016-07-21T11:42:12.190+08:002016-07-21T11:42:12.190+08:00We are very, very lucky if others actually take ti...We are very, very lucky if others actually take time to think about us at all. I like to do unexpected things to be nice to people I truly care about... but only occasionally, so as not to create expectations. Especially expectations that we impose on ourselves. Great reminder!Nancy Hillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04040843481095958018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64486060128872969202016-07-21T09:52:06.628+08:002016-07-21T09:52:06.628+08:00I love that quote about the limited amount of time...I love that quote about the limited amount of time others actually think of you. We all get so wrapped up in thinking WE are top of mind for others, and it's so not true. We must like ourselves and not really give a hoot (or too much of one) who else likes us. I'm pretty good at stressing that with my daughters, though admittedly need to be better about following my own advice. :-D Great post!Lisa@GrandmasBriefshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09118045229896169387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31195198815039470772016-07-21T09:49:55.083+08:002016-07-21T09:49:55.083+08:00I've been a bit of a slow learner Sheryl but I...I've been a bit of a slow learner Sheryl but I'm getting there!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-66399561076387954182016-07-21T09:49:31.840+08:002016-07-21T09:49:31.840+08:00You're right Lois - it is empowering to claim ...You're right Lois - it is empowering to claim your place in the sun and know your own value. Midlife has it's benefits :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-69889706674674753572016-07-21T09:48:54.870+08:002016-07-21T09:48:54.870+08:00you are my role model for midlife women who know t...you are my role model for midlife women who know their boundaries and their worth Carol - how you got there so early is a mystery to me - but also a great encouragement!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-43713171623379453152016-07-21T09:47:51.961+08:002016-07-21T09:47:51.961+08:00I think it describes a lot of us Sue - midlife com...I think it describes a lot of us Sue - midlife comes along and opens our eyes - better late than never :) xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-5141741582767562152016-07-21T09:47:10.446+08:002016-07-21T09:47:10.446+08:00I agree Laurie - it seems to show up in women far ...I agree Laurie - it seems to show up in women far more than men and less in younger women - they seem to have a better sense of self and boundaries than previous generations. It's really a matter of getting the balance right isn't it?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73160445744639556112016-07-21T09:45:57.823+08:002016-07-21T09:45:57.823+08:00I just read Carol's post too Cathy and could s...I just read Carol's post too Cathy and could see the intersections - it is definitely a problem with women of our generation and something we're dealing with and making progress on all the time :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64659978759297657552016-07-21T09:44:32.477+08:002016-07-21T09:44:32.477+08:00I definitely believe there is a personality slant ...I definitely believe there is a personality slant that lends itself to this Carla - and often environment nurtures it. Being the oldest child made me more responsible and wanting approval.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-70031670633071124922016-07-21T08:16:03.697+08:002016-07-21T08:16:03.697+08:00I used to be a people pleaser, but I learned a lon...I used to be a people pleaser, but I learned a long time ago that it takes too much effort and is a waste of time! And it's so freeing not to have to worry about it...Sheryl Krafthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09411638377555107955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64083762333734076902016-07-21T07:05:24.652+08:002016-07-21T07:05:24.652+08:00It's amazing how many women are People Pleaser...It's amazing how many women are People Pleasers and how it negatively impacts their confidence and self-esteem. As I get older, I care less and less what people think. It's very empowering.Lois Alter Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457009348917459495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-25873709366447041432016-07-21T06:38:12.269+08:002016-07-21T06:38:12.269+08:00How right you are. Fortunately, I never developed ...How right you are. Fortunately, I never developed that bad habit. Thankfully.<br />Carol<br />www.carolcassara.comMiddle-aged Diva (Carol)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01568652518759320329noreply@blogger.com