tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post2976270881397957108..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR HAPPINESS?Leannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-17916173046156617212018-03-01T09:56:51.644+08:002018-03-01T09:56:51.644+08:00Congrats Leanne ! Your post is Featured at the #Bl...Congrats Leanne ! Your post is Featured at the #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty 25 ♥Dee | GrammysGrid.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16444651579536459274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-87313272901436828442018-02-07T03:30:50.705+08:002018-02-07T03:30:50.705+08:00This is a really good post. Really good. Timely f...This is a really good post. Really good. Timely for me as I battle (for the first time in memory) with some stuff that is really rattling me right now. I'm finding my happiness is starting to suffer because of it #teamlovinlifeLeanne @ Deep Fried Fruithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886017636780724635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7976753472122267572018-02-06T21:23:44.986+08:002018-02-06T21:23:44.986+08:00Oh that's fabulous Kathleen - most clicked is ...Oh that's fabulous Kathleen - most clicked is even more fabulous! Thanks so much xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78215164616595744712018-02-06T18:28:29.000+08:002018-02-06T18:28:29.000+08:00I hope you are not bored with your celebrity statu...I hope you are not bored with your celebrity status, Leanne, your post was the most clicked on the Blogger's Pit Stop. We are honoured to feature it next Pit Stop.Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16559092855185240910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-79936461232420833882018-02-04T16:39:49.159+08:002018-02-04T16:39:49.159+08:00I think it's mostly resolved now Lyndall - sti...I think it's mostly resolved now Lyndall - still some work to be put in to recover lost ground - or maybe it's better if the increased distance remains (it's hard to make an objective assessment when you're so close) but it's certainly been a lesson in how much I invest my happiness in other people!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-629971670698731722018-02-04T16:38:19.328+08:002018-02-04T16:38:19.328+08:00I know what you mean Wrae - happiness just quietly...I know what you mean Wrae - happiness just quietly trickles away until you realize how far down you've gone - then it's an uphill battle to find your "happy place" again - but it's worth it because having your happiness being dependent on others is a killer.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-75214967379366798322018-02-04T16:37:09.912+08:002018-02-04T16:37:09.912+08:00You are right about the tough times being our bigg...You are right about the tough times being our biggest learning opportunities Kathy - it's just horrible having to go through them! For me, it's been a big lesson in boundaries - respecting others and realizing that I am worthy of being respected too. Also stepping back from drama that isn't resolvable is another huge lesson!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-75165286076040840122018-02-04T16:35:36.030+08:002018-02-04T16:35:36.030+08:00Emma you described my situation to a tee - and als...Emma you described my situation to a tee - and also the solution. I've finally grasped the fact that some people don't want to change or move out of the drama they live in. The only way forward is to give them some distance and stop trying to help - and stop regurgitating it all to other people afterwards - I'm working on it!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31642650939613774422018-02-04T16:33:50.828+08:002018-02-04T16:33:50.828+08:00You're so right about the importance of God (a...You're so right about the importance of God (and a caring partner) in seeing through the tough times. There are lessons to be learnt and I know that I've seen some new ones in the last 12 months - boundaries are a big one for me - finding out where they are - respecting other's boundaries and learning that mine are valuable too. Hopefully I can grow from it and it hasn't been for nothing!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80843275156541661952018-02-04T16:31:01.395+08:002018-02-04T16:31:01.395+08:00I'm so sorry to hear about your brother Christ...I'm so sorry to hear about your brother Christie - that must have been a truly awful time - and the double pain of justice not being served. But you are right about having to let go of things we have no control over and choosing to be at peace with others and with ourselves. Each time I hit a bump in the road I get these concepts reinforced - I just need to remember them!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-55544708088735261182018-02-04T07:37:43.714+08:002018-02-04T07:37:43.714+08:00Thanks for sharing your emotional journey with us ...Thanks for sharing your emotional journey with us Leanne. I hope, in time, your family member comes around and your relationship evolves into something you're both happy with. In the meantime, embrace the saying "Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's hands". You are the only one with the power to create your happiness :) xox #TeamLovinLifeLyndall @SeizeTheDayProjecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10601645461162905413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84166846008016582312018-02-04T06:06:54.524+08:002018-02-04T06:06:54.524+08:00I had to find myself and my happy again and it was...I had to find myself and my happy again and it was not an easy task. It takes a lot of work.wraemsandershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08583066476459776244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-87562553911547134522018-02-04T02:26:50.860+08:002018-02-04T02:26:50.860+08:00Hi Leanne! It sounds like you've experienced ...Hi Leanne! It sounds like you've experienced some heartbreaking lessons lately. Yep...I'm one of those annoying people who choose to believe that even the difficult things we go through hold the seed to something we can learn and benefit from in the long run. It also sounds to me like you've identified one of the biggest lessons any of us can learn...and that is that our attitude and happiness really belongs to us alone. Happiness is an inside job. Of course that doesn't mean it's easy to arrive at that--and I, like you, often learn things the hard way. But it sounds to me that you are making great progress and that is what is important. May be all learn to make similar progress! ~KathyKathy @ SMART Living 365.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12392736262783641661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64954401349409044392018-02-03T17:00:20.402+08:002018-02-03T17:00:20.402+08:00A really interesting and honest post. It's har...A really interesting and honest post. It's hard to stay happy sometimes. I have a similar situation to your co-worker but with a friend who brings everyone down with her drama. Yet, I am so wrapped up in but also annoyed by her behaviour that I find myself talking about it to others, which just winds me up more. Talking to her has had no impact so this year I made the hard decision to distance myself from her. It's just not good for my mental health to keep the realationship going. Good luck finding the happy and not having others drag you down. Emma Litttlefieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06679359639138124138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59875633711899249492018-02-03T07:34:59.729+08:002018-02-03T07:34:59.729+08:00Oh, what a difficult year Leanne. Expectations and...Oh, what a difficult year Leanne. Expectations and Perceptions can be catalysts for misunderstandings. <br /><br />Relationships are so difficult to manage. <br /><br />We all have our little fires to extinguish and sometimes, it's so easy to put blame (the cause of the fire) onto to someone else. <br /><br />Sometimes I find God uses those unexpected horrible relationships (missing boundaries) to refine me. And believe it or not, I am that horrible relationship to someone-unbeknownst to me.<br /><br />But, through it all you had your husband's strong support and you leaned into God. This too is helping you define your own boundaries, right?<br /><br />Life, we just keep living it, don't we?<br /><br />Sara Beth from Blogger's Pit Stop ^_^<br />Rebecca Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14738027921120158252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-46219903461985226592018-02-02T21:21:08.342+08:002018-02-02T21:21:08.342+08:00Thanks for sharing this personal and vulnerable st...Thanks for sharing this personal and vulnerable story, Leanne. It seems to have touched a lot of people, including me. I have experienced some deep heartaches in the past couple of years--my younger brother's sudden death and the lack of legal consequences for the person who caused it, and a close family member's struggle with opioid addiction. For a time I wondered if I could ever feel truly happy or safe again. Somehow I've gotten there. For me, the help has come from family support, meditation, and spending a lot of time in nature. As you did, I had to accept that I am responsible for my own happiness and I need to release (with love) anything that is outside of my control. Happiness and sorrow are both temporary. They ebb and flow. The ironic thing about my situation is the person who I so worried about turned to Buddhism to heal her life, and the things she shared with me about that are some of the things that have been most helpful to me in restoring my peace of mind.Christie Hawkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14897036282962474586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-18731699648311551242018-02-02T21:01:24.413+08:002018-02-02T21:01:24.413+08:00I noticed you'd been off the radar for awhile ...I noticed you'd been off the radar for awhile Kalpanaa - it's lovely to have you back again and what you said about blogging and the seesawing of what to say and what not to say is so true. I write from the heart and I have decided that this blog is my place - I guess if someone takes offence I just have to live with it - but it's so hard when it's someone I care deeply about. I guess it's all a learning curve - like getting this job situation sorted!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7270792827191865482018-02-02T20:59:16.709+08:002018-02-02T20:59:16.709+08:00I completely agree Sue - we all have different tri...I completely agree Sue - we all have different triggers for what makes us happy and what hurts our hearts. For me it's always come back to relationships and investing too much of my self esteem in other people - I'm slowly learning that I can let others be responsible for themselves and not let it impact me so strongly. I will look forward to your post - and your wisdom :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-62306508821022762642018-02-02T20:57:43.007+08:002018-02-02T20:57:43.007+08:00I think we all have good and bad periods in our li...I think we all have good and bad periods in our life Jennifer - I've just reached an age and stage where I don't gloss over things. I want to share the highs and the lows because that's what authenticity is for me. Maybe you'll have some interesting stories to share down the track - in the meantime you can still inspire us with all those fitness goals!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-69053971444462167902018-02-02T20:41:30.794+08:002018-02-02T20:41:30.794+08:00You are so right Kathleen, we all want to avoid th...You are so right Kathleen, we all want to avoid those tough times and uncomfortable encounters, but they teach us so much about ourselves and how to bounce back, find resilience and develop the strength of character we need to get back on our feet. I've certainly learnt a few lessons over the last 12 months!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50433546880952636012018-02-02T17:55:27.368+08:002018-02-02T17:55:27.368+08:00Hi Leanne,
The last time I read your blog (about ...Hi Leanne, <br />The last time I read your blog (about six months ago because I've been away from the world of blogging) you'd written about your 3 day week job and I remember squirming with jealousy. I'm so sorry to hear that it all went south so quickly. Some co workers can really make life hard. Glad to hear that the person who was upset with you is now feeling better - I've been through that myself - offending people with things on my blog - without ever having intended to. The worst thing about that is that it makes you censor yourself so much afterwards as you teeter along the line of - shall I leave that in or could somebody/ anybody take offence? I love the quote 'Don't out the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket'. Kalpanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02503951641129389045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50128285356882903122018-02-02T15:19:55.610+08:002018-02-02T15:19:55.610+08:00I've been thinking a lot about happiness latel...I've been thinking a lot about happiness lately Leanne and have a post coming up in the next month. I've decided that happiness or 'wanting to be happy' is so general and depends upon so many things. I'm trying to look at what happiness means to me but I do love your quote 'Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket'. Happiness is something we have find for ourselves and it isn't always easy. xSue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27171682957918373692018-02-02T13:05:09.658+08:002018-02-02T13:05:09.658+08:00Thanks for sharing this very raw and honest post. ...Thanks for sharing this very raw and honest post. You've made me realise how I never share the negative, and there is plenty of negative, perhaps this is something I need to share. I've had some huge sadnesses but I love this quote "find the joy in your life and the joy will outweigh the pain' I have it on my fridge to remind me on days that aren't so joyous. Take care Jennifer Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775109431603341328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-81720899137718837592018-02-02T13:04:36.170+08:002018-02-02T13:04:36.170+08:00If things were always great, we would never become...If things were always great, we would never become strong. I hate misunderstandings so much, yet they seem unavoidable. If they send us to relying on God, then the first purpose is done. It is good to hear how you are working through the situation and obviously that is helping the rest of us. Happiness is such a wonderful gift that, like you say, we have a lot of control over.<br />Kathleen<br />Blogger's Pit StopKathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16559092855185240910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-47815189006813048762018-02-02T10:20:03.605+08:002018-02-02T10:20:03.605+08:00Amy thank you so much for your kind words - and yo...Amy thank you so much for your kind words - and your friend was right, it becomes so important to stop worrying about the opinions of others and I need to stop trying to save everyone - I'm not Mother Teresa! I think there are people out there who can deal with stress and drama and let it wash over them - I've discovered that I'm NOT one of those people.<br />I need to put some really strong boundaries in place this year and also have enough respect for myself that I can walk away from toxic situations - and also let people be who and what they are without trying to keep everyone happy.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.com