tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post3846492422344413127..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: #11 EMBRACE LOSSLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-11436123492653107582016-06-02T16:01:54.719+08:002016-06-02T16:01:54.719+08:00Nikki you just summed up every thought I was tryin...Nikki you just summed up every thought I was trying to get at in this post (wisdom from experience!) Loss can make us or break us and you have chosen to use it to make you stronger and better and I admire that so much in you! xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78103672578521084382016-06-01T01:01:47.666+08:002016-06-01T01:01:47.666+08:00Loss is such a hard, intimate, painful thing. I ha...Loss is such a hard, intimate, painful thing. I have been with 3 beings as they left this world, 3 that I loved deeply, and the loss threw me for years. It changes you, makes you a different person. I also have an AI disease that changed my life, what I can do physically. It is a loss of who I was, who I had spent 40+ years making. That's been so hard. But, it has also pushed me to pursue other avenues, find our what I can do, and what I enjoy with the new parameters. Change is hard, loss is harder, but it defines you, sharpens you, you learn to pick yourself up and keep going. For me, I couldn't do it alone, my faith helped me pick myself up and keep going each day. As I get older the losses, friends, family, happen more often, each time is another lesson in how short life is, and to enjoy each and every minute that I am lucky enough to have. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17064084924219498676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-79210876371834879992016-05-27T09:18:30.354+08:002016-05-27T09:18:30.354+08:00I agree Lois - there are no guarantees so we need ...I agree Lois - there are no guarantees so we need to celebrate every moment.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-28187963403485057562016-05-26T14:11:20.941+08:002016-05-26T14:11:20.941+08:00Life is, sadly, full of so much loss. That's w...Life is, sadly, full of so much loss. That's why it's so important to treasure and appreciate every single day.Lois Alter Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457009348917459495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-91457193264456456592016-05-26T13:59:36.335+08:002016-05-26T13:59:36.335+08:00Loss of identity is a huge one for midlifers isn&#...Loss of identity is a huge one for midlifers isn't it Sue? I am so grateful to have discovered a community of women who are making this a special time of life - rather than mourning lost youth or lost opportunities - thanks for being one of them xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80883561647863866672016-05-26T13:58:26.998+08:002016-05-26T13:58:26.998+08:00Thanks so much Tamuria - I hope I handled it well ...Thanks so much Tamuria - I hope I handled it well because it is such a difficult subject - loss has so many faces and so many layers. I didn't want to be flippant, but rather acknowledge the impact and move forward.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8512336472885597152016-05-26T13:57:23.307+08:002016-05-26T13:57:23.307+08:00Thanks Cathy - I agree that the timeline varies fo...Thanks Cathy - I agree that the timeline varies for everyone - some losses are so much bigger than others, but I really believe that we have to give them to God eventually and start moving forward because spinning our wheels in one place will only bury us deeper.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73769303369350239862016-05-26T13:56:13.165+08:002016-05-26T13:56:13.165+08:00I can't imagine what it would be like to have ...I can't imagine what it would be like to have nobody to put in the "next of kin" box on a hospital form Terri - there are so many people who have had some bitter lessons from life. I just hope and pray that I can manage to put relationships above being right and not lose people through those words that slip out when they shouldn't.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-5763038450511321042016-05-26T13:54:37.161+08:002016-05-26T13:54:37.161+08:00That is so awful for you Lisa - broken relationshi...That is so awful for you Lisa - broken relationships are like death and divorce - loss that just keeps on going. You have certainly had (and continue to have) a really tough time and I truly hope you have family and friends to support you through it all xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78457047013981839722016-05-26T13:52:58.109+08:002016-05-26T13:52:58.109+08:00I cannot even begin to fathom what it would be lik...I cannot even begin to fathom what it would be like to lose your mother at such a young age Alana - it must colour your world every day - there is no way I would be able to offer even the remotest advice to people who have lost such important family members and friends - other than to acknowledge how resilient we are and how we somehow manage to move through it and keep going. You are amazing to have handled so many losses xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-38922517606815044832016-05-26T13:51:05.301+08:002016-05-26T13:51:05.301+08:00Bouncing back and moving forward has to be the bes...Bouncing back and moving forward has to be the best solution or we'd all be stuck wallowing in the unfairness of the losses life deals us wouldn't we (and how sad that would be!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8285940136917019212016-05-26T13:50:15.646+08:002016-05-26T13:50:15.646+08:00Sometimes we get stuck Sheryl, but I think ultimat...Sometimes we get stuck Sheryl, but I think ultimately it's in our best interests to take the time to acknowledge the loss but then to pull our socks up and get on with living - tough love really!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-5780949748801212102016-05-26T13:49:26.992+08:002016-05-26T13:49:26.992+08:00I didn't think I had a picture of how I wanted...I didn't think I had a picture of how I wanted things to be either Debbie, but I realize when I feel disappointed it can be due to the loss of something I hadn't consciously even known was important to me - the mind is a strange thing at times!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-79964523752409553092016-05-26T13:43:19.364+08:002016-05-26T13:43:19.364+08:00I think there are so many different types of losse...I think there are so many different types of losses that impact differently on us all Rena - and to not acknowledge them means we limit ourselves and our life experiences.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-48192078917162920932016-05-26T13:42:22.360+08:002016-05-26T13:42:22.360+08:00I agree Rebecca - we all have those moments when l...I agree Rebecca - we all have those moments when life didn't turn out the way we expected, but to stay and dwell there means that we miss out on the rest that life has to offer.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-38926311797399392612016-05-26T13:39:54.208+08:002016-05-26T13:39:54.208+08:00Good point Carol - we can't avoid grey and bla...Good point Carol - we can't avoid grey and black and they give the other colours definition don't they?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-74620015951586480182016-05-26T13:39:17.292+08:002016-05-26T13:39:17.292+08:00I completely agree Carla - you can't just push...I completely agree Carla - you can't just push it away and pretend it didn't hurt - sometimes we just need to stop and give it the time and attention it deserves and let ourselves slowly heal.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-55411068684227452502016-05-26T11:47:54.928+08:002016-05-26T11:47:54.928+08:00I love that you have mentioned the various forms o...I love that you have mentioned the various forms of loss Leanne. We usually just associate loss with death but there are so many ways we can experience loss. I think a very important one is loss of identity and then reaching midlife and wondering who we really are. Great post.Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-75404452963640311452016-05-26T09:14:23.661+08:002016-05-26T09:14:23.661+08:00This was so inspirational for such a sad subject. ...This was so inspirational for such a sad subject. We all experience loss in its various forms and I love your advice to acknowledge the loss and disappointment, give yourself time to hurt or feel cheated, and then move on.Tamuriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14974915426710906757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-38047738669662325402016-05-26T08:10:56.168+08:002016-05-26T08:10:56.168+08:00I just told my daughter today - no point in beatin...I just told my daughter today - no point in beating yourself up over what you did in the past. Your situation is what it is and you need to do what you can now to move forward. But loss is painful. There is no timeline on grief. We have to trust God with our pain. Good post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12279604034277988736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-15827983795823365932016-05-26T06:59:27.109+08:002016-05-26T06:59:27.109+08:00Leanne, you tackled this beautifully. Sad to hear ...Leanne, you tackled this beautifully. Sad to hear your story of someone at your work who has no one. But it is easy to do in a scary way...a harsh word to a friend, etc. There is indeed a time and place for everything, and the longer we each live, the more we will grieve. And that's just it...wipe your tears, trust God and have faith.Terri Webster Schrandthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00227166108084590953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22631055599603466402016-05-26T06:46:18.335+08:002016-05-26T06:46:18.335+08:00So true and beautifully expressed. Thank you. I...So true and beautifully expressed. Thank you. I've lost so many people this past year — though not through death but through broken family relationships. A tough one. And now, with my dad and my mother-in-law within death's grasp, the losses will increase in the coming month. We all go on, though. Thank you for the reminder.Lisa@GrandmasBriefshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09118045229896169387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84020012847881394542016-05-26T06:01:24.980+08:002016-05-26T06:01:24.980+08:00Having lost both my parents and also my best frien...Having lost both my parents and also my best friend (and a couple of other friends over the years) I am happy you didn't try to offer advice for that situation. Grief has its own timetable and different people deal with it in different ways. I even reacted differently to my mother's death (I was 12) than I did, as an adult, to my father's death (I was 33)perhaps because I was different people at those two points in time. We all are going to have losses in our lives, and we do learn from the experience. But it never becomes easier for major losses, I suspect. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.combookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589840841266507266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8785088688622945172016-05-26T04:29:53.836+08:002016-05-26T04:29:53.836+08:00Yes, we've all had to suffer loss on some leve...Yes, we've all had to suffer loss on some level. I think the key is to always bounce back. It might take a while but you always must rise above!sassytownhouselivinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09639369758518106262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84141584166157323632016-05-26T03:00:34.216+08:002016-05-26T03:00:34.216+08:00This is so comforting and true. Rare is the person...This is so comforting and true. Rare is the person who hasn't experienced loss at one point or another. We have no choice but to move on, I suppose. Sheryl Krafthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09411638377555107955noreply@blogger.com