tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post418197060785188980..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: STEP #10 ON THE JOURNEY TO HAPPINESS ~ CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELYLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-30506659605376416932016-08-03T08:44:20.495+08:002016-08-03T08:44:20.495+08:00That's so true Nikki - I think I always expect...That's so true Nikki - I think I always expected friendships to last forever and to be authentic. Now I can see that some do and they are priceless, but others are for a time and I need to accept that. Also people are fallible and not all of them have what it takes to invest in a meaningful friendship. I'm sorry you found friends left when the going got tough - and it's sad that it isn't a surprise.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22756501440075164492016-08-02T23:14:12.687+08:002016-08-02T23:14:12.687+08:00Isn't life crazy? When I got sick we learned a...Isn't life crazy? When I got sick we learned all kinds of things. And friendships take a huge toll when you are on bedrest for 7.5 months. Then when you realize that you can't do the things you used to do, another toll is taken. There are so many different stages of friendship. And your circle of friends are there for many different purposes. Some may be there for a bit of time, to get you through something, and others may be there for the long haul. Friendships are similar to love relationships, some relationships are in your life to teach you lessons so that you can learn for the next relationship. Some are fleeting, but few are meant to last. Friendship is the same way and each friend is a gift. They may not last forever, but the lessons you learn from them have the power to change you, we just have to take the time to recognize the lesson. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17064084924219498676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-26250329402152168552016-07-27T07:23:15.136+08:002016-07-27T07:23:15.136+08:00Yes - none of us want hardships, but they certainl...Yes - none of us want hardships, but they certainly weed out who you can count on and who you can't!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-41312618887474376222016-07-27T07:22:33.498+08:002016-07-27T07:22:33.498+08:00I'm a bit the same Debbie - lots of casual fri...I'm a bit the same Debbie - lots of casual friends when we were younger but now a smaller number - but worth their weight in gold!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-6445504557349646182016-07-27T07:21:43.466+08:002016-07-27T07:21:43.466+08:00Yep I'll take quality friendships any day - ev...Yep I'll take quality friendships any day - even long distance ones like ours xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27008905543218480902016-07-27T07:21:16.127+08:002016-07-27T07:21:16.127+08:00Thanks so much Rica - it's been a really good ...Thanks so much Rica - it's been a really good series for me to write - reinforces a lot of what I've been thinking lately - and that quote you tell your kids is so true!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-62086000342193948282016-07-27T07:20:22.743+08:002016-07-27T07:20:22.743+08:00Toxic friends seem to be a common problem for ever...Toxic friends seem to be a common problem for everyone Rebecca - I think we just get wiser with how we deal with them.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-42174737895242249612016-07-27T01:56:51.044+08:002016-07-27T01:56:51.044+08:00GREAT article and so truthful. I've alway said...GREAT article and so truthful. I've alway said that you know who your real friends are during times of trouble, because they stick around and do whatever they can to help. It's a quick way to weed out the fake ones, for sure. menopausal mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09058933838070665032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78787284917692966842016-07-26T22:18:24.969+08:002016-07-26T22:18:24.969+08:00It's definitely best to let go of toxic friend...It's definitely best to let go of toxic friendships and "fair-weather" friends, too. When my husband and I were young, we had lots of parties and dozens of friends, or, so we thought, When the hard times hit us, there were no more parties and most of them disappeared. I can count my closest friends on one hand now, but those relationships have spanned decades. Life is too short, indeed!Debbie D. https://www.blogger.com/profile/13153118405565035071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86024102807742478032016-07-26T11:25:01.961+08:002016-07-26T11:25:01.961+08:00Another great post thanks Leanne. Quality not qua...Another great post thanks Leanne. Quality not quantity is my yardstick for friendships. Thanks for sharing your insights with us at #OvertheMoon.Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-90573933749931842902016-07-26T11:10:30.535+08:002016-07-26T11:10:30.535+08:00I'm absolutely loving all your insightful post... I'm absolutely loving all your insightful posts, Leanne. One of my favorite quotes and something I used to tell my kids while they were choosing friends is: show me your friends and I'll show you your future. What a great statement about the strength of who we allow to influence our lives! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03751075644364053432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-23313170890388897702016-07-26T08:06:27.525+08:002016-07-26T08:06:27.525+08:00No one needs toxic friends. I avoid them. I moved ...No one needs toxic friends. I avoid them. I moved a lot and had to adapt but I have a few good friends and it's great.Rebecca Olkowskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136102257837831028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7815767770201793392016-07-26T07:19:37.560+08:002016-07-26T07:19:37.560+08:00I couldn't agree more Cheryl - the people I ha...I couldn't agree more Cheryl - the people I have in my life now are gold and I can't express how much I value them - the ones who have moved on are missed occasionally but not really mourned.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-60773132471284369452016-07-26T07:18:43.780+08:002016-07-26T07:18:43.780+08:00Thanks Michelle - it is definitely a fluctuation a...Thanks Michelle - it is definitely a fluctuation and sometimes hard to understand, but I'm more accepting now that some people are just meant to be allowed to leave - and their presence is not really missed all that much.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-74761001622900759552016-07-26T07:17:24.173+08:002016-07-26T07:17:24.173+08:00me either Lois - too much hard work!me either Lois - too much hard work!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-15035560016709037712016-07-26T07:17:08.079+08:002016-07-26T07:17:08.079+08:00I never understand people who walk away from frien...I never understand people who walk away from friends at a time of crisis - they are the type of people you are better off without in your life. The ones who stay become even closer once you are through it all.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-12238503127902908512016-07-26T07:15:53.558+08:002016-07-26T07:15:53.558+08:00Thanks so much Brenda - I like the thought that ou...Thanks so much Brenda - I like the thought that our true friends will always stick around.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-2851326841120621612016-07-26T07:15:21.852+08:002016-07-26T07:15:21.852+08:00You lose people along the way but not the ones tha...You lose people along the way but not the ones that really count - I've got a handful too that I love sharing my life with.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-47321343945380746532016-07-26T07:14:40.349+08:002016-07-26T07:14:40.349+08:00Me too Cathy - and I would hope it's what all ...Me too Cathy - and I would hope it's what all my friends want to be like too!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22745527464948943162016-07-26T07:14:13.549+08:002016-07-26T07:14:13.549+08:00I thought it would be a selfish thing to choose wh...I thought it would be a selfish thing to choose who you want in your friendship circle Carol, but it's not - it's part of self preservation sometimes :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-63795155851643200012016-07-25T23:57:15.715+08:002016-07-25T23:57:15.715+08:00It's a great place to be- the age when we just...It's a great place to be- the age when we just let certain people go. Time is short. There's merit in cutting one's losses and celebrating the unexpected friendships. Bravo my friend.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01739053466041886513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-35200614213253473462016-07-25T23:53:54.426+08:002016-07-25T23:53:54.426+08:00Friends come and go in the seasons of life. You de...Friends come and go in the seasons of life. You described what many of us try to feel and say. It isn't the amount of friends one has, but the quality and depth that a friendship will go to last through life's ups and downs. Lovely sentiments here.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18035008312943297731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27182295337588852412016-07-25T22:53:36.957+08:002016-07-25T22:53:36.957+08:00All of this is so true. I have no patience for tox...All of this is so true. I have no patience for toxic people in my life any more.Lois Alter Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457009348917459495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-20682979153082330672016-07-25T22:03:47.616+08:002016-07-25T22:03:47.616+08:00I was so naive and thought I had lots of friends a...I was so naive and thought I had lots of friends and then I had cancer and I learned this lesson you beautifully write about! Fair-weather friends, friends just for the good times or friends until someone else better or healthier comes along! These type of friends all got written off. My circle is smaller and 2 have died but it is isn't quantity but the quality of their hearts that matter to me in their friendship.Haraleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03263065017109894464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-44772678441549048442016-07-25T21:39:39.918+08:002016-07-25T21:39:39.918+08:00So very well said. Friends will come and go. True ...So very well said. Friends will come and go. True friends stick with you through it all. Great read Leanne!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com