tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post4550712292346092177..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: MARRIAGE AND DEPRESSIONLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-3365453355962779272017-02-21T21:34:56.642+08:002017-02-21T21:34:56.642+08:00It is still so hard for men to get their heads aro...It is still so hard for men to get their heads around the whole issue of depression. Even with all the sports stars and politicians jumping on the bandwagon, it's still a very uncomfortable thing to discuss and most men are sure they can soldier on through it. I think it's a shame because they lose their quality of life - and their partners lose a lot in the process too.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78374216836391918052017-02-21T21:33:31.744+08:002017-02-21T21:33:31.744+08:00When you're close to the person you get sucked...When you're close to the person you get sucked into the darkness too Kathleen - it is scary how it slowly encompasses so much of your life and you often don't see it until it has a really strong hold on you.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-2073178564097634682017-02-20T10:40:28.229+08:002017-02-20T10:40:28.229+08:00It sure does. I know people who think you can just...It sure does. I know people who think you can just smile and get over it or that they can handle it without medication. How so, so wrong they are. Thanks Leanne from Grammy Dee, #BloggingGrandmothers #LinkUp #BlogParty, social media shared.Dee | GrammysGrid.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16444651579536459274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-66568313158848625622017-02-20T10:33:16.243+08:002017-02-20T10:33:16.243+08:00I'm so glad you shared this. I'm pretty su...I'm so glad you shared this. I'm pretty sure my hubster has it but he rips my head off if I try to suggest he goes to the doctor. This despite the fact he's seen how well things have worked out for me after my own bouts of depression. He says his glumness and irritablity are caused by work - situational depression - so medication won't fix that. I can't make him see that while it may not fix the work situation, it will surely help him to handle it better. Sigh.Janet Camillerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040750107420193756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-82628818627789999642017-02-19T16:34:16.714+08:002017-02-19T16:34:16.714+08:00Thanks for talking about this Leanne. I almost hav...Thanks for talking about this Leanne. I almost have a fear that someone close to me may become depressed, because as you say it affects everyone around, especially the closest to the person suffering. Thanks for the light you shed on the subject.<br /><br />Kathleen<br />Blogger's Pit StopKathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16559092855185240910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-9174587739153010662017-02-18T15:09:07.727+08:002017-02-18T15:09:07.727+08:00You're right Dee - it still has such a stigma ...You're right Dee - it still has such a stigma attached to it, and a lot of people don't grasp the fact that it's not a "feeling" or a "get over it and smile" kind of thing.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-17862301733025847512017-02-18T15:08:18.678+08:002017-02-18T15:08:18.678+08:00It is a condition that has wide reaching ramificat...It is a condition that has wide reaching ramifications Candace - other members of the family get dragged down by it too and it's so hard to find a long term solution.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-66156479835521269182017-02-18T08:45:12.581+08:002017-02-18T08:45:12.581+08:00Depression is so misunderstood by so many. This is...Depression is so misunderstood by so many. This is a great post! Thank you Leanne for sharing it at the Wednesday AIM Link Party. I shared it on my social media sites. Dee | GrammysGrid.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16444651579536459274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-34713152050990620742017-02-18T03:00:36.073+08:002017-02-18T03:00:36.073+08:00We have a family member who suffers from depressio...We have a family member who suffers from depression. It has been difficult on everyone but especially his mother. Getting harder all the time to find help. Thanks for linking up with blogging grandmothers.candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05082238123921950824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-54714742296988748362017-02-16T10:34:01.600+08:002017-02-16T10:34:01.600+08:00You are SO right Beth - the medication and its sid...You are SO right Beth - the medication and its side-effects and long term effectiveness is still such an issue. To be able to take something that works and doesn't cause you to be foggy or sick or dizzy or fat (the list goes on) would make such a difference to those who are suffering enough already. And for the whole depression 'thing' to be less stigmatized would be wonderful too.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-17813156072823370332017-02-16T10:32:01.173+08:002017-02-16T10:32:01.173+08:00Thanks for sharing Alana, my husband would complet...Thanks for sharing Alana, my husband would completely agree with you about the side-effects of anti-depressants. He has tried several and they take a while to settle in and work, then their effectiveness seems to drop off and you have to find another one. He is a big proponent of exercise as a way to keep his Seratonin levels up, but that can only help to a certain degree and then it's time to look for a added resources. I'm so glad therapy worked for you - and I truly hope yours doesn't come back xx Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-55785779251619035982017-02-16T10:29:15.613+08:002017-02-16T10:29:15.613+08:00Thanks Laurie - our daughter was late teens when s...Thanks Laurie - our daughter was late teens when she felt it descending on her. I think acting on it at that stage can make a huge difference to coping with it and managing it through adulthood. The longer you leave depression, the greater the hold it seems to get on our lives.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-79382258660993949402017-02-16T10:28:10.188+08:002017-02-16T10:28:10.188+08:00I look at my Mother-in-law Haralee and she has alw...I look at my Mother-in-law Haralee and she has always been in complete denial. Her generation has never understood it and she refuses to accept that she (or her children, or grandchildren) may have to deal with it. In the end you can only help those who are willing to put in the hard yards to find a treatment that works. Unfortunately the rest continue on in less than happy lives and making those around them miserable in the process.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-13384130388557313612017-02-16T10:26:28.903+08:002017-02-16T10:26:28.903+08:00Thank you so much Carla - it's a subject that ...Thank you so much Carla - it's a subject that so many people deal with behind closed doors and very few openly admit to - because of the stigma and the "just get over it" attitude. I would like to see depression normalized and understood a lot more - rather than being ignored or glossed over.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27859154971939978402017-02-16T10:25:03.872+08:002017-02-16T10:25:03.872+08:00It never really goes away Jeremy - sometimes with ...It never really goes away Jeremy - sometimes with treatment and doing all the right things, you can get it under control, but from my experience, it creeps back in when you aren't vigilant and the cycle starts all over again. Hopefully your wife will be better at dealing with it over the long term.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-13361934508382400962017-02-16T10:23:35.988+08:002017-02-16T10:23:35.988+08:00It is a really awful condition isn't it Paula ...It is a really awful condition isn't it Paula - the ability to put on a mask in public is part of it - I guess because they can maintain it for short periods and it keeps people at a distance and not asking difficult questions. For all those who are anti-antidepressants, walk a mile in the spouse's/child's shoes!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-11112271220052440342017-02-16T07:38:30.534+08:002017-02-16T07:38:30.534+08:00Depression really is a family disease. While the ...Depression really is a family disease. While the stigma over needing medication is lessening it's still a stigma. Appropriate medication maybe difficult too. It is often trial and error before the right med is found. The stigma and the trial process are not reasons to avoid the very real benefits.Beth, AgingasGracefullyasICan.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02120920327533641557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-9127988622090099392017-02-16T06:57:39.206+08:002017-02-16T06:57:39.206+08:00I have suffered several times in my life with depr...I have suffered several times in my life with depression. For me, it's like a glass pit with no way to climb out. The color is literally sucked out of the world. People who say "just suck it up and pull yourself out of it" have no idea what they are talking about. The anti depressant I tried made me so sick I had to figure out other ways to recover- it was a process with talk therapy. I hope it never, ever strikes again. I am sharing this post, too. Alana ramblinwitham.blogspot.combookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589840841266507266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-72747211638739382032017-02-16T04:27:24.857+08:002017-02-16T04:27:24.857+08:00Depression can especially hit young people in thei...Depression can especially hit young people in their late teens and early twenties. Happened to both my sons, but they're doing better now. I admire your courage in speaking out about it.Laurie Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09065425057896134350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-91181988302951015702017-02-15T23:58:41.582+08:002017-02-15T23:58:41.582+08:00It is wonderful that people like yourself share th...It is wonderful that people like yourself share their stories and people who suffer depression are more open about it. Past generations self medicated, ran away or took their own lives. Haraleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03263065017109894464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-62318906077361882602017-02-15T23:42:11.376+08:002017-02-15T23:42:11.376+08:00Just two words: thank you. I'm sharing this po... Just two words: thank you. I'm sharing this post and I'm hoping you realize how many many people you help through your willingness to be vulnerable and honest Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14086887417121838938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-14263794106528262002017-02-15T23:05:10.885+08:002017-02-15T23:05:10.885+08:00My wife and step daughter both suffer from this. T...My wife and step daughter both suffer from this. The teenager is much more open to admitting the problem and trying to deal with it, but its still been a challenge. Thanks for sharingjeremy@thirstydaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221526503939455659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50914161803979608812017-02-15T22:38:25.513+08:002017-02-15T22:38:25.513+08:00Thank you for sharing this. My mom (who I love, of...Thank you for sharing this. My mom (who I love, of course) was depressed for much of my tween/early teen years. When I was doing an acting dialogue many years later, I was trying (but not necessarily succeeding) to convey what it feels like to deal minute by minute with the effects of the depression and wanting desperately to help the individual, especially if they are able to "turn on" their affect and animation if they are with an outsider. It's confounding and affects a child deeply. Paula Kigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13627600101739835713noreply@blogger.com