tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post7439057768987229535..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: PARENTING LESSON #6 ~ REMEMBER TO COMPLIMENTLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-76684773034340881552016-08-18T11:16:11.381+08:002016-08-18T11:16:11.381+08:00Thanks so much - I didn't realize you were a g...Thanks so much - I didn't realize you were a grandmother - you always sound much younger! I totally agree about toning it down a notch (or two) with the over zealousness of win win win, praise praise praise!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-58498148506555699262016-08-18T11:14:15.593+08:002016-08-18T11:14:15.593+08:00Hi Bev - isn't it lovely when we see our own c...Hi Bev - isn't it lovely when we see our own children doing even better than we did with their offspring? :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-30969113277728588302016-08-18T11:03:32.044+08:002016-08-18T11:03:32.044+08:00Hi Tania - lovely to meet you and I must say that ...Hi Tania - lovely to meet you and I must say that anyone who cares for someone with Alzheimers has my utmost respect - good on you for hanging in there!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7389919141975461592016-08-18T11:02:41.763+08:002016-08-18T11:02:41.763+08:00I agree Laurie - it's what we're taught to...I agree Laurie - it's what we're taught to value from childhood that shapes our character into adult life. It would be nicer to see more kindness and less "win at any cost" being manifested :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-44500284127240657612016-08-17T03:42:42.405+08:002016-08-17T03:42:42.405+08:00I couldn't agree more. Balance IS the key and ...I couldn't agree more. Balance IS the key and the compliments should go deeper into the character and souls of our children. I never agreed to every kid getting a medal or a ribbon mainly because that's not real life and I was raising/preparing my children for real life. I hope the generations to come back it down a notch and balance things out. I look at my own grandchildren and am encouraged. - Great post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-20055276190789055892016-08-17T01:30:45.937+08:002016-08-17T01:30:45.937+08:00I always tried to give my children lots of support...I always tried to give my children lots of support and not criticize them. Today they too are caring and support their children, but do not hesitate to talk to them if they have not performed well. Then the reason why is talked about and how to change it.<br />Thanks for sharing at Over The Moon Party,<br />Bev<br /><br />Eclectic Red Barnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07526374597971388139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-89495455723679482172016-08-17T00:36:11.161+08:002016-08-17T00:36:11.161+08:00This is a lesson I am having to learn as we adjust...This is a lesson I am having to learn as we adjust our lives to accommodate my father with Alzheimer's. It is so easy to constantly criticize without meaning to and it has been a steep learning curve to say the least. P.S. It's Tania from Soul Sense Coaching stopping by from Blog Pitch Party.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11953481992075105453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-76295457148116886762016-08-16T23:21:12.974+08:002016-08-16T23:21:12.974+08:00Loved this. You can almost tell which kids were r...Loved this. You can almost tell which kids were raised with the values of kindness and those with the lesson to "win." Its a fascinating subject and I think is showing up in our Presidential race.Laurie Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09065425057896134350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78342008563658678972016-08-16T19:50:50.800+08:002016-08-16T19:50:50.800+08:00That's so true Rosie - praising physical attri...That's so true Rosie - praising physical attributes is a minor quality compared to drawing out and praising qualities that make our kids valuable contributors to the world around them.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-17088193901015651422016-08-16T19:49:42.632+08:002016-08-16T19:49:42.632+08:00I hope mine do too Janet - I'm a bit scared to...I hope mine do too Janet - I'm a bit scared to ask in case I thought I was doing okay and maybe I was kidding myself :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-83390500900118831592016-08-16T19:49:07.875+08:002016-08-16T19:49:07.875+08:00You are so right Rena - walking that line of build...You are so right Rena - walking that line of building them up but not giving them unreal expectations of themselves or others - or a free ride in life is where the balancing act comes into play.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31050615673037211662016-08-16T19:48:14.378+08:002016-08-16T19:48:14.378+08:00They're the qualities that make someone truly ...They're the qualities that make someone truly lovely and it's what we should all be wanting to build into our kids isn't it Cathy?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-76109703464338411932016-08-16T19:47:39.211+08:002016-08-16T19:47:39.211+08:00I know Lois - this Gen Y or whatever they are, are...I know Lois - this Gen Y or whatever they are, are so full of themselves at times. Confidence is one thing, false confidence that crumbles at the first hurdle is something else completely!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-654138163987129082016-08-16T19:46:43.529+08:002016-08-16T19:46:43.529+08:00The "Me" generation is certainly alive a...The "Me" generation is certainly alive and well Ruth - they have been handed everything on a plate by parents who felt the need to overcompensate for their own childhoods. We need to find that balance between building our child's self esteem and turning them into monsters. Unfortunately there are a lot of little monsters out there!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-39873701008573798422016-08-16T16:20:27.029+08:002016-08-16T16:20:27.029+08:00I so agree that we need to let our kids hear prais...I so agree that we need to let our kids hear praise and compliments and yes for their physicality but also for their minds and hearts. Finding that balance of enough sincere compliments and not going overboard is not easy sometimes to strike. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02028324704398001312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-58276712167139695852016-08-16T13:53:53.533+08:002016-08-16T13:53:53.533+08:00I hope my kids have memories of being praised and ...I hope my kids have memories of being praised and complimented - I will have to ask them!Janet Camillerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040750107420193756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-21330393252932338712016-08-16T13:37:36.163+08:002016-08-16T13:37:36.163+08:00That's so true Sheryl - kids see right through...That's so true Sheryl - kids see right through insincerity and it can often have the opposite effect.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-6816195599406153002016-08-16T13:37:08.222+08:002016-08-16T13:37:08.222+08:00It is isn't it Ellen - giving them the encoura...It is isn't it Ellen - giving them the encouragement and confidence to trust themselves and the direction they're choosing to go in is so important - and such a vital task for parents.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22507031982074271992016-08-16T13:36:15.885+08:002016-08-16T13:36:15.885+08:00It's all in the balance again isn't it Car...It's all in the balance again isn't it Carol? Being able to accept criticism is so important - I'm not sure how we learn to do that in a healthy way (I've never been very good at it)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80536350390953081572016-08-16T13:35:29.287+08:002016-08-16T13:35:29.287+08:00Being a good role model is so vital isn't it R...Being a good role model is so vital isn't it Rebecca? And remembering to praise the good and treat them with love and gentle guidance (and the occasional shove!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-18595991869240577442016-08-16T13:34:29.898+08:002016-08-16T13:34:29.898+08:00It's like beautiful women who never learn to b...It's like beautiful women who never learn to be all that they could be because people have always judged them on their beauty and they had a bit of a free ride. It's interesting to see it from the point of view of someone who felt the lack because of his physical attributes being the main focus.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-71317298727299247482016-08-16T13:17:48.515+08:002016-08-16T13:17:48.515+08:00Your mum was so ahead of her time Diane - raising ...Your mum was so ahead of her time Diane - raising kind kids should be what we're all aiming for.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1515837244588187622016-08-16T13:17:16.457+08:002016-08-16T13:17:16.457+08:00Home should be a haven Carla and I feel so sorry f...Home should be a haven Carla and I feel so sorry for children (and wives) who don't have the security of a safe place to come back to at the end of the day. So glad you've created one :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-82366306615799877202016-08-16T13:16:25.930+08:002016-08-16T13:16:25.930+08:00Nothing like a compliment at work to brighten the ...Nothing like a compliment at work to brighten the workday and remember why you do it all!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-71200363737035287422016-08-16T13:15:34.243+08:002016-08-16T13:15:34.243+08:00I completely agree Sue - the need to constantly be...I completely agree Sue - the need to constantly be bathing our children in praise for even the littlest things is so over the top and really unhealthy too. They need to build resilience and we need to help them - not hinder!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.com