tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post8155502488246225012..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: keeping the connection aliveLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-3837638415846782412016-01-16T00:36:13.553+08:002016-01-16T00:36:13.553+08:00How have things been lately?? I completely unders...How have things been lately?? I completely understand how having your mom around would be hard on your relationship with your husband... I hope she is healing well and that you and your husband have been able to find a good balance as a couple in the midst of it!<br />Sarah Eliza @ devastateboredomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18178682145271558368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-53597495054179550442015-12-23T13:54:46.411+08:002015-12-23T13:54:46.411+08:00I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that my mum is s... I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that my mum is staying with us for a month or so after having knee replacement surgery. It has been a steep learning curve having her living in our (previously) empty nest and it has made more of an impact on my relationship with my husband than I would have expected.<a href="https://noplag.com" rel="nofollow">paper rater</a>Richard C. Lamberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766504022599651016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-71256638705349086692015-12-20T12:45:14.824+08:002015-12-20T12:45:14.824+08:00it's so important to hold on tight Mary - mum ...it's so important to hold on tight Mary - mum has moved back to her house and now we're going through the re-adjustment stage - I'll be glad when we're back to normal again!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-63689711760993967482015-12-15T00:39:51.373+08:002015-12-15T00:39:51.373+08:00Caring for aging or recovering parents is hard. It...Caring for aging or recovering parents is hard. It takes so much time. My husband and I take time every day to reconnect, even if only for a short while. On really hard long days, sometimes that just holding hands under the covers as we fall into bed exhausted :-) Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04567363328048025165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27564042223002348262015-12-14T16:55:00.577+08:002015-12-14T16:55:00.577+08:00you do what you have to do at the time Jen but it ...you do what you have to do at the time Jen but it is so nice when things get back to normal - only two days to go (and counting) until we are home alone again.....until the kids come home for Christmas (can't wait - for both!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-48364803483011909412015-12-14T10:22:06.363+08:002015-12-14T10:22:06.363+08:00You are so open with your post, I can however unde...You are so open with your post, I can however understand how you are both feeling. I recently had to care for my mum ( 9 weeks) but not in my home but my sisters. I have never stayed so long with her before and my poor hubby had never been left alone for so long. Thank you for sharing on #overthemoonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02891788070902388557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-63852083946902149082015-12-14T08:51:32.883+08:002015-12-14T08:51:32.883+08:00I hold on to the fact that it's short term Nik...I hold on to the fact that it's short term Nikki - and that she will be well enough not to need us again for a long time. It's those women who care for family with no end in sight that I take my hat off to. A month or so has taken it's toll - goodness knows what years of it do to you and your marriage!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-37380881541879846862015-12-14T07:08:49.140+08:002015-12-14T07:08:49.140+08:00Leanne, it seems as your family is rich in love, a...Leanne, it seems as your family is rich in love, and strong in character! I can imagine that your lives have been turned upside down. I can empathize. Now that our son is home with us and his mental illnesses have changed our lives too. We cannot leave him alone for long, I drive him where ever he needs to be sometimes 2 or 3 different appointments across town each day. We make sure we spend time with him, check on him, etc. all throughout the day and night. So I understand some of what you are going through. We are so exhausted that it's hard for us to connect with ourselves, let alone each other. It will be better soon, but it is difficult! Thinking of you and hoping that it will all end up well, I'm sure your mom will love being back home with her own things! xxx Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17064084924219498676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-74275980852592690912015-12-13T12:50:37.192+08:002015-12-13T12:50:37.192+08:00Thanks so much for your encouragement Carrie - whe...Thanks so much for your encouragement Carrie - when you've walked the same path it makes it easier to understand the quandary. I take my hat off to women who care for their parents, or adult children, or grandchildren long term - it is such a challenge to get the balance right!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-68604547164252508732015-12-13T12:47:56.097+08:002015-12-13T12:47:56.097+08:00You get very used to your own space and routines a...You get very used to your own space and routines and it makes a noticeable impact when a person who isn't used to that routine moves in. She's getting better at understanding that we don't need to be constantly talking, but I must admit to counting down the days until she goes back to her usual life!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31407453029858940982015-12-13T12:46:16.263+08:002015-12-13T12:46:16.263+08:00babies always throw a spanner in the works because...babies always throw a spanner in the works because you can't just put them to one side and expect them to wait. At least I can leave my mum reading a book for a while and have a little peace. One day your nest will be empty again and those babies will be grown and flown - give your new one a cuddle from me xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-34451449466473910682015-12-13T12:44:47.556+08:002015-12-13T12:44:47.556+08:00Thanks Kimberley - it was lovely of you to stop by...Thanks Kimberley - it was lovely of you to stop by and I know what toddlers are like when it comes to trying to find some time alone! I used to read about going on regular date nights, but that was only a dream :) At least mum will be going home soon and we'll re-establish ourselves.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8826941279922100652015-12-13T12:43:11.083+08:002015-12-13T12:43:11.083+08:00I think that's the secret Carol - I made him r...I think that's the secret Carol - I made him read this post so he knew it wasn't about him being the problem :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-47999421993620476062015-12-13T12:39:42.787+08:002015-12-13T12:39:42.787+08:00She's moving back home next week Ilka and I...She's moving back home next week Ilka and I'm holding that day as sacred. She will be well and truly self sufficient by then and it will be nice to have our home back to normal again (just in time for Christmas!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-16544429916066761292015-12-13T12:38:32.766+08:002015-12-13T12:38:32.766+08:00Hi Katrin - I'm counting down the days until w...Hi Katrin - I'm counting down the days until we have our space back again - not that mum's been all that terrible, just that I really miss the quiet life we share normally. Once Christmas is over I am going to wallow in the peace!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-11619548598215504382015-12-13T12:08:29.801+08:002015-12-13T12:08:29.801+08:00I so understand Leanne on so many levels. Having ...I so understand Leanne on so many levels. Having kids brought such a change when my hubby and I married. Then when my mom stayed over to help when more babies came was a blessing (and a challenge, sshhhh). We also had my sisters, each separately stay with us with their kids and that was difficult. Now we find ourselves pushing a baby stroller with a grand-kid and a parent in a wheel chair all in the same day - strange predicament sometimes. I so feel your quandary of feeling torn of being emotionally and physically torn between a parent and a sweetheart. You know your parent can be gone at any time, yet strive to strengthen and maintain your marriage. Thank you for bringing this important topic to the table for others to know they are not alone, and for discussion. Keep that gorgeous smile flashing towards your hubby, you're both fabulous!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159592151629232925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19036974765350405082015-12-13T07:09:21.956+08:002015-12-13T07:09:21.956+08:00I imagine this has got to be hard on both of you. ...I imagine this has got to be hard on both of you. It's just my husband and I as well, and having someone come stay for a while would be a big change. Just have to remember to make time for each other. MixedKreationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08214422646919307830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84407117306774334342015-12-13T05:43:58.323+08:002015-12-13T05:43:58.323+08:00My husband and I just had our third baby. This is ...My husband and I just had our third baby. This is the first time that my husband has been home for the birth and this very early stage, so it's been a different dynamic. Finding time for just the two of us to just be, has been a stuggle, for sure, but so important. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16870767828172807904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19684917995534419552015-12-13T05:16:44.050+08:002015-12-13T05:16:44.050+08:00I understand where you are coming from. I have two...I understand where you are coming from. I have two toddlers and although it isn't exactly the same as having a visitor stay with you who doesn't live with you - it still dramatically changes the dynamic of your relationship with your spouse. It takes a lot of hard work but is well worth it!<br /><br />Oh and btw, Elena told me to say #BlogShareLearn sent me!<br /><br />Kimberley from talesfromthecrib.caAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1006216634744140352015-12-12T22:57:15.961+08:002015-12-12T22:57:15.961+08:00Yes, this is such a big challenge. Bless your hus...Yes, this is such a big challenge. Bless your husband! As long as the couple remember their priority is their relationship...<br />Carol<br />http://carolcassara.com/healthy-low-calorie-meals/Middle-aged Diva (Carol)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01568652518759320329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-26034648876044879052015-12-12T21:17:11.854+08:002015-12-12T21:17:11.854+08:00I hope that you will be able to find a solution th...I hope that you will be able to find a solution that works for all sides. I can imagine how hard this must be for you. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08532361963914371662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-62443181026731562532015-12-12T21:08:02.119+08:002015-12-12T21:08:02.119+08:00Hi Leanne, I can imagine how hard this must be for...Hi Leanne, I can imagine how hard this must be for you and your husband. Both my parents passed long time ago, but my mother long before my father, and I had my father many times over with us, well, not to take care of him physically but emotionally and this was very hard at times. I can imagine you being in the middle of wanting to be there for your mom but also for your husband. I'm sure you will get back in the rhythm of things easily! Hugs! Katrin@northernfeeling.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04643258724405170624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-69971867842034684342015-12-12T21:05:17.243+08:002015-12-12T21:05:17.243+08:00I've certainly learned a few lessons about tol...I've certainly learned a few lessons about tolerance and keeping my mouth shut and I hope I never have to land on my daughter's doorstep for a prolonged convalescence - she'd probably strangle me :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50536391113442201422015-12-12T17:56:10.291+08:002015-12-12T17:56:10.291+08:00Maybe we should start educating 'moms'. Th...Maybe we should start educating 'moms'. Then remember the lessons ourselves for when the time comes that we may be staying with our kids to be a little more considerate to the needs of those around us. To know that couples need their time alone. To know when to perhaps not say anything. <br />I guess a lot of husbands would not do what yours does to help out, so good for him. I hope it all gets better soon Leanne.<br />KathleenKathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16559092855185240910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-83827749284673794432015-12-12T16:15:04.269+08:002015-12-12T16:15:04.269+08:00thanks so so much for stopping by Donna - and for ...thanks so so much for stopping by Donna - and for the good wishes - hope your weekend is lovely too :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.com