Et Tu Brute?? and other "friendly" acts

Et Tu Brute" when it comes to back-stabbing and other "friendly" acts

Where do friends get off doing stuff to you that you would never do to them? Case in point is a "friend" of ours for the last 30 years or more has just casually mentioned that she has been given my husband's job. He is in marketing and advertising and she is a first grade teacher in the school where he was working.

Apparently they thought it would be preferable having someone prettier and friendlier and casually offered her his job, while he was pushed out the door with the consolation prize that they would send him some freelance work. In my book "nice people" don't shaft their friends and take their jobs out from under them. "Nice people" would offer to share the job or discuss the situation before sailing blithely into it. In a word or two: "Nice people" don't shaft their friends.

My good husband says that I have an over developed sense of fairness and he expects people to act poorly so he is never surprised. But he did go so far as to say that she would be getting paid 20% more to do 80% less work than he did. Not sure how long she can ride on his coat tails before she comes unstuck, but man am I cheesed off by the whole process!

#midlife blog
I loved this knife block!
Friends who use you up are par for the course and there are a million stories about people being stabbed in the back (as per Brutus and Julius Caesar) or let down by a friend (there's even the term "frenemy" coined to describe that sort of person) but it still hurts to be betrayed and I am just not up to the task of pretending it's okay. So, in this case I will be protecting myself by not spending time in this frenemy's space. Being too busy to catch up means I don't actually have to confront her and tell her what I think. This type of person wouldn't understand anyway because she sees it as an entitlement based on her wonderful-ness (is there even such a word?). 

The trouble with friends who out themselves as less than loyal is that they have friends in common with you - now I will have to watch what I say so I'm not making anyone take sides - it's all just way too messy in my opinion. Life would be easier if people were a little more sensitive to others and less quick to climb the ladder disregarding friendships on the way up.

1 comment

  1. Whew! That's a very unpleasant situation. I'm intrigued by her qualifications for the job.


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