tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post1523992914334740144..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: HAVE YOU EVER "GHOSTED" SOMEONE?Leannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27491487818849541502017-02-04T14:56:23.422+08:002017-02-04T14:56:23.422+08:00The friend I did it with is fairly local too but s...The friend I did it with is fairly local too but she doesn't seem to have noticed or cared, or tried to work out what happened to mend the broken bridge. So, ultimately it's hasta la vista and on to better things. Its' kind of funny how your ex-friend still sends cards - people have no clue at times!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-76610373574906392542017-02-04T14:55:04.439+08:002017-02-04T14:55:04.439+08:00I often wonder about unresolved stuff Jenn, but at...I often wonder about unresolved stuff Jenn, but at the same time it's easier to leave without the confrontation and waiting for an apology is a waste of time too.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50677093214450665062017-02-03T14:49:23.919+08:002017-02-03T14:49:23.919+08:00I've done this with a couple of (former) frien...I've done this with a couple of (former) friends. One lives locally so I run the risk of seeing her in person eventually. I wish I'd been brave enough to confront her on the things that were upsetting me. The other is more recent - she attacked me over something I said on Facebook, we had a bit of a spat about it over text messaging (we live some distance apart these days) and when the hubster saw some of her messages, he thought she was way out of line so I know it wasn't just me. So I cut her and blocked her on FB. However I haven't told her and as she doesn't go on FB much I don't think she even realises, as she still sent me Christmas and birthday cards! Janet Camillerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040750107420193756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-89120033368930511562015-10-13T04:33:31.270+08:002015-10-13T04:33:31.270+08:00I never heard this before. Was expecting a post ab...I never heard this before. Was expecting a post about boo kits or pranking lol. Very good for thought. I don't think I've ever ghosted anyone before, but I can definitely see myself being capable of it. Not that it's a good practice. Like you said, I wonder about leaving things unresolved and how healthy that would be. Thanks for sharing with the #SundayBlogHop ~JennJenn @ Smalltown Bookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13576021027351376668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-24317334635690514592015-10-09T07:57:45.399+08:002015-10-09T07:57:45.399+08:00oh my goodness Angie - I think you've nailed i...oh my goodness Angie - I think you've nailed it with the ghosting and stalking (yes to both!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-18738699179901559962015-10-08T23:41:47.414+08:002015-10-08T23:41:47.414+08:00Very interesting new term to add to my vocabulary!...Very interesting new term to add to my vocabulary! Can one Ghost and also Lurk on social media... I think plenty of people cut ties personally but still sulk and stalk, stewing over the decision to "cut out" the drama without resolution.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11745243777914089028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-10045464274427693582015-10-08T18:07:33.476+08:002015-10-08T18:07:33.476+08:00I think we all want to be as drama free as possibl...I think we all want to be as drama free as possible now we're a little "older and wiser" Lana and I'm starting to see that 'ghosting' has some advantages if used in the right context!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1202076724675610122015-10-08T18:06:42.448+08:002015-10-08T18:06:42.448+08:00That's true Sue - we just give things new name...That's true Sue - we just give things new names and apply them to different aspects of our lives - especially now that communication is always at our finger tips.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-33213309603242067492015-10-08T18:05:44.783+08:002015-10-08T18:05:44.783+08:00It is funny how something gets a new name and a ne...It is funny how something gets a new name and a new "personality" of it's own Mona - it's part of the morphing of our language I guess.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59526655618947921812015-10-08T14:14:39.405+08:002015-10-08T14:14:39.405+08:00Add me to the list that has never heard this term ...Add me to the list that has never heard this term before. Sometimes, though, this may be the best way to end a relationship, especially if it's been taken over by "drama". I'm guilty of doing this myself!My New Happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912544717011410371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-61781383085430537992015-10-08T09:49:48.801+08:002015-10-08T09:49:48.801+08:00I've never heard of 'ghosting' but I s...I've never heard of 'ghosting' but I suppose it is just a modern term for ceasing communication. I haven't been close to my brother for years however he is now gravely ill. I have communicated with him which I'm glad to have done. Sometimes we don't get the chance. Thanks for sharing this new terminology with us at #WednesdaysWisdom although some things don't change no matter what they are called.Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-4663890718009657612015-10-08T08:24:41.481+08:002015-10-08T08:24:41.481+08:00I've never heard of "ghosting"; alth...I've never heard of "ghosting"; although I have to say, cutting communication with someone isn't a new concept. Funny how old things become new again with new terms.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12239263819407152574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-9427671315078196512015-10-08T07:52:11.423+08:002015-10-08T07:52:11.423+08:00I felt like that too Diane, but after reading the ...I felt like that too Diane, but after reading the comments I'm thinking it's something that we do as women when we don't want to go through the pain of confrontation. When the heart is involved it's wrong not to have the conversation, but it's different with hurtful friendships.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-52618854127375796512015-10-08T07:50:00.209+08:002015-10-08T07:50:00.209+08:00I agree Lizzie - sometimes you have to say the wor...I agree Lizzie - sometimes you have to say the words, and I think in deeper relationships like a lover or family they deserve it. When a friend doesn't behave like a friend then ghosting is an easier solution.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-58002766126088301082015-10-08T07:48:26.721+08:002015-10-08T07:48:26.721+08:00I think it is probably taking the easy way out at ...I think it is probably taking the easy way out at times Lisa, but it leaves room for resolution down the track if harsh words have been left unsaid - I think it's about protecting ourselves.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-33876591411168383842015-10-08T07:47:02.212+08:002015-10-08T07:47:02.212+08:00I think the heart deserves an explanation when int...I think the heart deserves an explanation when intimacy is involved Elin. Ghosting might be a good way to deal with messy relationships that have been around the block one time too many, but when things have been good it's a hard way to be left with no explanation.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-87434148708649703392015-10-08T07:45:19.752+08:002015-10-08T07:45:19.752+08:00I loved that "clarification wouldn't brin...I loved that "clarification wouldn't bring closure" part Corinne - we often talk things to death and achieve nothing in the process - silence might be a better solution.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-51360688579807648582015-10-08T07:44:20.711+08:002015-10-08T07:44:20.711+08:00It's a sad fact of life that people we love hu...It's a sad fact of life that people we love hurt us and hurting them back is not a good resolution - maybe ghosting is a simpler and less painful way of dealing with it Rena....Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-82096423483004915162015-10-08T07:43:00.019+08:002015-10-08T07:43:00.019+08:00it does put a bit more of a positive spin on the t...it does put a bit more of a positive spin on the term doesn't it Abby? I must agree that I prefer to "go quietly into the night" rather than brawling!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-54467866814177270202015-10-08T05:55:56.799+08:002015-10-08T05:55:56.799+08:00I had heard this term and had decided that it trul...I had heard this term and had decided that it truly is a cold and clinical way of handling the termination of a relationship. But, put your way, I realise that I, too have been guilty. I've never done the abrupt severing of communication, however. More of a gradual let down. But I still think it counts. Horrors!Diane Stringam Tolleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09629946536985545457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-3066141523880412422015-10-08T03:46:07.929+08:002015-10-08T03:46:07.929+08:00Absolutely. I didn't know there was a name fo...Absolutely. I didn't know there was a name for it, but this has long been my MO. I'm not about confrontations, so I've always just disappeared from bad friendships. The exception is with family. I value those relationships too much, so I'll speak up and tell them if I'm hurt. #thewomenofmidlifeLizzie Lauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06525722634652021526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27163820473717749532015-10-08T02:25:55.801+08:002015-10-08T02:25:55.801+08:00I have never heard this term before. Very interest...I have never heard this term before. Very interesting. I am a very non-confrontational person, so I'm certain I have done this before in the interest of avoiding conflict. It's probably too much like taking the "easy way out," though.Lisa Witherspoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12530852104410009597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-85497240228391713592015-10-08T00:40:04.736+08:002015-10-08T00:40:04.736+08:00I read a great piece written by a woman who had be...I read a great piece written by a woman who had been ghosted by a man she had been in an intimate relationship with, wish I could remember where and when I came across it, but what stayed with me was how unsettled it left her. They had been together and then they weren't. Zero communication, it was as if he simply disappeared off the planet. One could argue that his behavior proved he was unworthy of her affection but it seemed so unfair to her. Although I get that there are relationships where ghosting might in fact be the best solution, in her case it seemed so unkind.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06233037191894152053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59825211189317029462015-10-08T00:30:11.670+08:002015-10-08T00:30:11.670+08:00The phrase is new to me but not the concept, Leann...The phrase is new to me but not the concept, Leanne. Unfortunately, I've had to do this a few times too when I thought that clarification wouldn't bring closure. I've come to realize that we cannot always have closure, except in our hearts. Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11142098428026084994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-58680119829071873532015-10-07T22:27:05.275+08:002015-10-07T22:27:05.275+08:00I've done this in the past myself. I'm not...I've done this in the past myself. I'm not big on confrontations and would just rather cut off communication and be done with someone who does me wrong than get into a big dramatic fight with them. I've done the same thing with one of my brothers. I don't talk to him or about him and it's been that way for over 10 years.Renahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296781992150172086noreply@blogger.com