tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post2854566718804789864..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: HOW TO FIND JOY THROUGH ENGAGING WITH OTHERSLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-20576484725895502282019-03-17T22:13:44.547+08:002019-03-17T22:13:44.547+08:00Love this post Leanne. You are so right that every...Love this post Leanne. You are so right that everyone needs to find their own way of engaging with life!Janet Cobbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05163979332125772105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78220960724594206822019-03-17T08:16:25.927+08:002019-03-17T08:16:25.927+08:00Leanne... so much YES to this post!
I suffer great...Leanne... so much YES to this post!<br />I suffer greatly from comparisonistis. I constantly compare my efforts with others. And consequently, I never measure up. I don't spend as much time with my grandchildren as others. I don't volunteer as much as some. I don't blog on a daily basis.<br /><br />Learning the balance that works for me is key to a joyful midlife and beyond. <br /><br />I will pin this awesome post to my #mlstl board for further encouragement and inspiration!Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08414201637917215413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-9994444908633481262019-03-17T06:10:07.952+08:002019-03-17T06:10:07.952+08:00Another special post that encourages and inspires....Another special post that encourages and inspires. My favorite part is:<br />The secret is to know what engages your heart and mind. Forcing yourself to participate in something you don't enjoy isn't going to bring joy into your life. <br />Sharing for MLSTLTrisha Fayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14848362774277170679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86256398075371489312019-03-15T11:57:41.028+08:002019-03-15T11:57:41.028+08:00My husband is the introvert and I find that his pr...My husband is the introvert and I find that his preferences are becoming mine as I get older. Socializing on any grand scale does my head in these days - parties give me a headache! I'm trying to keep the engagement up on a smaller scale so that I don't get completely out of touch while I'm not working.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-37871073765075178662019-03-15T11:56:30.487+08:002019-03-15T11:56:30.487+08:00My husband says the same thing - he's not into...My husband says the same thing - he's not into beer and football or golf, so he finds it difficult engaging with any male on an intellectual level - he says it's always so superficial. I've just stopped work so I'm challenging myself to try to get out and about and keep interacting with people now I don't have that in a job.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59362696455024448362019-03-14T14:05:15.034+08:002019-03-14T14:05:15.034+08:00I'm a very selective socialiser and I easily g...I'm a very selective socialiser and I easily get peopled out. After a 5 day festival for Rowan's 70th the thought of just being at home is so attractive right now. I find it a balancing act in a relationship where I am an introvert and Rowan an extrovert. <br />PinnedRetiring Not Shy!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03411968256918924522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22456862224229581582019-03-14T12:32:53.406+08:002019-03-14T12:32:53.406+08:00My husband frequently says he doesn't have eno...My husband frequently says he doesn't have enough male friends to just hang out with. As a nurse I am constantly talking to patients, family and other nurses. Its really hard for me to get out there.. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09290723388998276332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-57047902991022366472019-03-14T11:57:29.573+08:002019-03-14T11:57:29.573+08:00You're in a bit of a bubble atm Victoria - you...You're in a bit of a bubble atm Victoria - you need to be so focused on your husband and his health and that can disconnect your from more frivolous activities. I'm sure you'll be back at the pool with those girlfriends soon and enjoying a laugh and all the interactions that you loved a year or so ago xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50740622834669613942019-03-14T11:56:05.113+08:002019-03-14T11:56:05.113+08:00The joys of online connection have been so surpris...The joys of online connection have been so surprising for me Candi - especially through blogging (and Facebook updates) but they do tend to draw us away from making an effort to engage IRL. I've had to make conscious choices to close my laptop and get out more - I need the face to face interactions and chatting that typing doesn't quite cover!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-62765737879864194612019-03-14T11:54:35.189+08:002019-03-14T11:54:35.189+08:00I know what you mean about socializing and work De...I know what you mean about socializing and work Denyse - the less I work, the less I engage with old colleagues - a bit like fellow mums from when our kids were little - life moves on and the friendships fade away. I've decided to be an initiator with the friends I want to keep - although most of the few I have left will get in contact if I've been off grid for a while.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-621515645425189942019-03-14T11:52:59.921+08:002019-03-14T11:52:59.921+08:00I think the automatic garage door took away a lot ...I think the automatic garage door took away a lot of neighbourliness Jennifer (along with less mail to collect!) We drive in and don't get out of our cars, don't go to the mailbox as much and stay inside a lot more. Walking has helped me connect with the neighbourhood - and I imagine community events would be good icebreakers too.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-55494257949841268992019-03-14T11:51:34.765+08:002019-03-14T11:51:34.765+08:00I wonder if blogging has made being home alone eas...I wonder if blogging has made being home alone easier for me Lydia. I'm not an introvert in the true sense of the word, but I do enjoy being home and engaging online - it seems easier these days than getting out and being involved. Sometimes I need to give myself a bit of a push - especially seeing I'm not working atm.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78176249441695441982019-03-14T11:50:06.922+08:002019-03-14T11:50:06.922+08:00Blogging has been a godsend for me Min - the oppor...Blogging has been a godsend for me Min - the opportunity to engage without having to go outside! But it can also be a trap where hours speed by and I've done nothing but sit on my butt and type and read. Getting out of the house for a walk or a coffee helps get the balance back - my IRL friends are great at giving me a laugh and that banter that is missing when you're online. Spontaneous conversation is such a joy (in moderation!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-61583864050708827222019-03-14T11:47:47.069+08:002019-03-14T11:47:47.069+08:00I think the "different strokes for different ...I think the "different strokes for different folks" mantra holds true with this one - balance is different for all of us - some can handle a lot more on their plates than others. I'm finding I love being home, but I still need to get out and engage to keep me integrated with the world and to stay relevant. Sitting at home in my pjs might be nice, but it's not good for my mental health if that's the only thing I'm doing.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-40307010274427302072019-03-14T11:45:56.935+08:002019-03-14T11:45:56.935+08:00I've just started a new "gentle gym"...I've just started a new "gentle gym" class yesterday Christie - and I think I talked myself in and out of going at least a dozen times! Then I realized I could give it a try and walk away if I didn't like it. Fortunately it looks like it will be a fun outing and I can tick some more movement off my list for the week :) Balance, balance, balance are my keywords this year!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7898973568533405532019-03-14T11:44:11.844+08:002019-03-14T11:44:11.844+08:00I'm with you Michele - I'm loving being at...I'm with you Michele - I'm loving being at home more and more these days - but when I get out and have a coffee or go to a class, I find that I'm re-energized and that I really did need to interact. You're also right about controlling the time factor - some people can drain you dry in a short period of time - less exposure to that variety of person is essential for my poor brain!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-18817638840445837712019-03-14T11:42:08.778+08:002019-03-14T11:42:08.778+08:00I think half and half sounds just about perfect Na...I think half and half sounds just about perfect Natalie. I'm not as social as I used to be and I find time at home is just so restful. But on the other hand if I sit at home all day every day I become really boring and disengaged - not a healthy way to live!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-32774888275907572992019-03-14T02:50:46.629+08:002019-03-14T02:50:46.629+08:00I am not as engaged at this time in my life as I w...I am not as engaged at this time in my life as I would like but I am like you and there is a fine line between too little and too much. I am blessed in the fact I have formed new friendships since retiring and between all of my groups of friends plus my family I can have a nice combination of doing or not.amotheradaughterandlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12111277135123420943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-68305560402247521642019-03-13T21:28:24.493+08:002019-03-13T21:28:24.493+08:00I agree that finding the balance that is unique fo...I agree that finding the balance that is unique for each of us is key to truly enjoying midlife and beyond. I can get so immersed in my online work that I forget about interacting with others, so I make sure to check in with the family, grand kids and friends and make some memories with them! Candi Randolphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00731797141973130095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-5031242186072059482019-03-13T15:58:47.497+08:002019-03-13T15:58:47.497+08:00You're right, it's all about balance. Som...You're right, it's all about balance. Some days I get the balance that works and other days I don't but that's just life :) I'm enjoying my retirement time and take every effort to engage. Sharing for #MLSTLDeb's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706654888846671781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-16414967575141445622019-03-13T12:57:24.754+08:002019-03-13T12:57:24.754+08:00I sure think I connected with a LOT of people in m...I sure think I connected with a LOT of people in my working life in schools and universities over almost 40 years. I missed the social aspects a lot initially and realised my friend-base was in work. Nevertheless I keep up some connections on line and now with some coffee catch ups. This year I decided I would wait and see if those I met up with last year might initiate something .....and I would still be waiting (and missing my much needed connections) if I had not make the first move. So, some of us are initiators and I am one of those. Denyse #MLSTLDenyse Whelan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16888810644186418559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73974990286321746792019-03-13T10:00:14.405+08:002019-03-13T10:00:14.405+08:00It's so easy sometimes to just put your head d...It's so easy sometimes to just put your head down each day and do what needs to be done without trying to connect socially with others. Especially true when just moving to a new area. One would think that new neighbors would be easy to connect with, but not so much. But our new community does different events so I'll be going to a few of those to try to get to know people.Jennifer (UnfoldAndBegin)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17551135949555390277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-45647847555884684542019-03-13T09:50:49.724+08:002019-03-13T09:50:49.724+08:00I'm not so good at the balance. I get a little...I'm not so good at the balance. I get a little manic and exhaust myself. I do like quiet time alone though, I just need to make sure I say 'No' or don't over book myself. #MLSTLLydia C. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13911667428856165902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86629817920888159682019-03-13T09:49:26.967+08:002019-03-13T09:49:26.967+08:00It's funny how we can tend to become a little ...It's funny how we can tend to become a little more introverted and reclusive as we get older. I know I have. I love time alone but sometimes I overdo it and I can get quite lonely. I engage & interact with people a lot but mostly online and probably not quite enough IRL, on a regular basis anyway, apart from my 3 x weekly pilates lessons. However too much 'actual' social engagement leaves me depleted of energy so it's a matter of getting that balance right. As for what I enjoy - well I love to be productive & creative, obviously I love blogging and all that entails. I love a lunch or coffee out with girlfriends - throw in a movie or a musical and I'm happy as a pig in mud! I love nature and going to places I haven't been before - which reminds me - I need a weekend getaway somewhere and soon!! xoMin - Write of the Middlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11880899126465316282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-21706741143909719352019-03-13T09:11:21.226+08:002019-03-13T09:11:21.226+08:00Hi Leanne,
I agree that it is about the balance, a...Hi Leanne,<br />I agree that it is about the balance, and the finding the "sweet spot" of enough engagement to keep us busy and interested, and enough "downtime" to relax and rejuvenate. I laugh now at my fear that I would not be engaged enough after I retired from teaching. Ha. I literally have to slow myself down. And the blogging certainly keeps me on my toes.<br />Everyone's needs are different so everyone's balance is at a different point.<br />Shared from #MLSTLNancy Dobbinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06515901631541413269noreply@blogger.com