tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post3710875682540949968..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: FINDING PEACE IN THE BEAUTY OF BECOMINGLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-23655532446509693072021-05-06T19:28:25.313+08:002021-05-06T19:28:25.313+08:00Hi Debbie - yes, I didn't choose retirement bu...Hi Debbie - yes, I didn't choose retirement but I think retirement chose me! I'm grateful every day for this life I now get to lead, especially during these difficult covid times - it impacts me so much less because my life is smaller and more home based these days. No complaints at all from me either xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-67915960237207643882021-05-06T19:22:08.282+08:002021-05-06T19:22:08.282+08:00Leanne,
I swear that I could have written this po...Leanne,<br /> I swear that I could have written this post as I feel the same way....I am grateful for being retired and that now I finally get to do most of what I want to do even though CoVid has curtailed those plans just a bit but truly not too much because i love being home!!! Thanks for sharing!! Stay safe, healthy and happy!!<br />Hugs,<br />DebbieDebbie-Dabble Blog and A Debbie-Dabble Christmashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09393980831584145593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-45586537833482390862020-10-24T13:32:36.406+08:002020-10-24T13:32:36.406+08:00Hi Erica - I'm well aware that I like an order...Hi Erica - I'm well aware that I like an orderly life and to have a bit of an idea of what's up ahead. It's been quite a learning curve for me to just let all that go and wait to see what comes next. I think Acceptance is a word that has been featuring a lot in my life over the last several months - and probably will feature quite strongly in the year ahead!<br />And PS: I'm grateful every day that I met you and have you in my world xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-54730690751192658852020-10-11T23:26:21.357+08:002020-10-11T23:26:21.357+08:00A beautiful title, Leanne. Wow, very wise about t...A beautiful title, Leanne. Wow, very wise about the concept of “control.” A lightbulb just went off in my head. I am usually a cup half full kind of person. Yet, I more frequently feel a low grade malaise. I believe I am with you on the significant feeling of lack of control. I have worked on “acceptance” for the last number of years. This is different. A great post filled with many gems. Changing my mindset is one of the keys. I love your word “trust.” Thanksgiving here this weekend, and I am thankful for you! xxErica/Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05542330143072789332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-39111665356158112052020-10-09T21:40:01.197+08:002020-10-09T21:40:01.197+08:00HI Christie - I really like the idea that there is...HI Christie - I really like the idea that there is no "there" to get to. It frees up a lot of my questioning and allows me to just enjoy what I have in the here and now. I like your journey of acceptance and mindfulness - and probably need to make that my journey too - living in the "now" and not worrying about the next step until it arrives.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-60299970506200993832020-10-09T21:38:23.574+08:002020-10-09T21:38:23.574+08:00You're so right Denyse - when you're a per...You're so right Denyse - when you're a person who likes their ducks in a row it can be very unsettling when everything is thrown up into the air and falling into new places. The funny thing is that I really like where they're falling but I keep second guessing everything and waiting for it to fall in a heap. I think I need to learn to trust the process and to accept that I'm allowed to be in such a lovely calm stage of life instead of constantly chasing my tail - and I guess that will come with time and patience.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-21396324868216405152020-10-09T09:35:37.694+08:002020-10-09T09:35:37.694+08:00Hi Sue - that's my plan (that isn't really...Hi Sue - that's my plan (that isn't really a plan!) I've realized I have a life that thousands would envy (including "old me") so I need to stop over-thinking it and just be in the moment - and enjoy every second of it xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-28376357190199787622020-10-08T20:05:19.601+08:002020-10-08T20:05:19.601+08:00So true, Leanne. None of us has a crystal ball to ...So true, Leanne. None of us has a crystal ball to see what's coming...or to control it if we could. I've been on a journey of acceptance and mindfulness. I'm not there yet. Maybe there is no "there" to get to. It's all about the journey, living in the moment. I love that you said you wanted to change your mindset to one of anticipation instead of doubt. Wouldn't it be lovely if we could sit back and say, "Isn't this interesting. I wonder what will happen next?" Thanks for another thought-provoking post.Christie Hawkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14897036282962474586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-36323565460690262712020-10-07T15:42:01.972+08:002020-10-07T15:42:01.972+08:00Ah, good old certainty vs uncertainty. It's a ...Ah, good old certainty vs uncertainty. It's a lie that anything is certain but we (those who like to think they are in charge....) like to plan and know. I understand this but I have learned so much in the past 4 years about what I can control and what I cannot. it's a day to day thing with me and I have some frustrations. However, I am, now much more prepared to let things come and evolve as they do, as long as I have some information about it. This is how I had to manage my emotions over the past 6 weeks when I had to have a second surgery and trust the process would work if I did all I was asked. I did and it did. Thinking about all you wrote can be a weight to carry but I understand you are looking for guidance. Take care of each day as it comes as best as you can for you and I am pretty sure things will work out OK. Thank you for linking up this week. Next week on Life This Week, the optional prompt is 41/51 I Have Never. 12.10.2020. Hope to see you there! Denyse.Denyse Whelan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16888810644186418559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59323674373660901582020-10-07T14:49:25.722+08:002020-10-07T14:49:25.722+08:00Hi Leanne, it can be unsettling if you don't f...Hi Leanne, it can be unsettling if you don't feel in control of your direction. I think we have all been there and your quote and thoughts about 'mourning' are pretty accurate and not something we usually relate to this feeling of loss. I think you are wise just trying to accept life for what it is at the moment. Something will come along and light a spark within but until then enjoy being free to do as you please. xxWomen Living Well After 50https://www.blogger.com/profile/06163481519650226026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-18324504855559121072020-10-06T09:27:26.235+08:002020-10-06T09:27:26.235+08:00Hi Christina - yes, giving things over to God (or ...Hi Christina - yes, giving things over to God (or the universe for those who believe differently) gives us a real sense of how little we actually control things. Life happens to us (while we're busy making other plans) and we need to learn to adjust and see the positives. I think that's where I'm at now, looking at all I've gained from the mayhem of the last few years - the contrast and the peace of being my own mistress is an amazing change and one I need to relax into and appreciate how lucky I am.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-87142390573867612042020-10-06T09:24:37.383+08:002020-10-06T09:24:37.383+08:00Life's amazingly good for me Natalie - and I t...Life's amazingly good for me Natalie - and I think that's part of my problem, I keep waiting for someone to say - okay you've had your fun....back to the grindstone. As I gradually come to accept that this is my new life and it's okay to relax, I start to get this deep sense of joy and appreciation for how blessed I am to live like this.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-34789718416774872122020-10-06T09:23:17.078+08:002020-10-06T09:23:17.078+08:00Thanks Jen - I can see that it probably does relat...Thanks Jen - I can see that it probably does relate to my age and to the changes that came unexpectedly. I think I've lived a fairly rigid and routine life up until now, so having the restrictions removed has given me a LOT of freedom - getting used to that, and to the lack of commitments has been strange, but as I adjust and as I figure out what I want to keep, and what I can discard, I'm gradually settling into a very pleasant way of life - I just need to stop feeling guilty for having it so easy!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-61548967145052848872020-10-06T09:05:32.360+08:002020-10-06T09:05:32.360+08:00The fork in the road is definitely something a lot...The fork in the road is definitely something a lot of us come across in life (although we never expect to for some reason!) I feel like I was running, running, running, and then one path dropped away and another was presented unexpectedly. Adjusting to the change in direction and pace is what threw me for quite a while. But now that I'm ambling along this lovely new road, I need to keep my eyes focused ahead and take in the loveliness of where I've ended up. That other path was not healthy for me and I'm grateful to be somewhere else - but it's taken a while to adjust and appreciate :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-46533465840851397042020-10-06T09:02:44.530+08:002020-10-06T09:02:44.530+08:00Hi Laurie - my calendar was dismal for a few month...Hi Laurie - my calendar was dismal for a few months, but it's now quite nicely spaced with things to do and time with no commitments. I think I needed to adjust to the spreading out of my week and to relish those days when I have nothing to go out to. Just being at home on my own timetable is a privilege that I hadn't appreciated enough - I kept thinking that I needed to be busy to prove my worth - now not so much!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7808754775852008052020-10-06T09:00:05.726+08:002020-10-06T09:00:05.726+08:00Hi Pat - I really like the idea that choice is flu...Hi Pat - I really like the idea that choice is fluid - I know that my choices have changed a few times during this last 18 months. I'm working my way through a lot of preconceived ideas and giving myself permission to toss them aside and embrace what feels authentic and fun. I've never allowed myself the gift of doing nothing other than what I please - I feel guilty for how much I enjoy not working, but I'm getting better at accepting that I've worked hard and this time is my reward. <br />Who knows what the future holds, but for now, I'm enjoying discovering what I like to do, rather than what I've been told what I need to do - it's a joy!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78122871642203709772020-10-06T08:56:47.473+08:002020-10-06T08:56:47.473+08:00Hi Corinne - I'm finding that this phase of li...Hi Corinne - I'm finding that this phase of life has definitely given me more time for introspection and to actually live proactively rather than reactively for the first time that I can remember. And you're right about the searching - the more I look at the "why"s of this transition, the more I discover aspects of myself that aren't "me" and that I can finally release - a wonderful bonus from all of this.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-23763262871418518482020-10-06T08:54:44.112+08:002020-10-06T08:54:44.112+08:00Hi Deb - I think that's what I've been lea...Hi Deb - I think that's what I've been learning the most through this unexpected journey - that it's okay to mourn what you thought your life would be, but you also need to step back and look at what you have now and all that it has to offer. It might not be what I'd have chosen, but it's so much better than what I had before - maybe letting go and allowing things to progress in their own time is far better for us than we realize? And thanks for your encouraging words xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-11978692950409720622020-10-06T08:46:41.422+08:002020-10-06T08:46:41.422+08:00Hi Leanne, I really needed to read this today. Li...Hi Leanne, I really needed to read this today. Life has thrown me so many curve balls this year that I can't help but feel unsettled. Those quotes are lovely and so true. It's about coming to the acceptance that we have no control over life - it's up to God what happens next. I just have to trust that this is how it's meant to be. Regards, ChristinaMidlifestylisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885738321776869148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-9439020996711881252020-10-06T06:40:44.891+08:002020-10-06T06:40:44.891+08:00Leanne, I create my own structure to give each day...Leanne, I create my own structure to give each day a purpose but I'm flexible with how each day turns out. If my day doesn't unfold the way I thought, I just deal with it. Even with COVID-19 restrictions, life is still very good to me atm.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05151221243588416460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-13582261586677653072020-10-06T06:16:08.304+08:002020-10-06T06:16:08.304+08:00I can remember feeling like this in my fifties. I’...I can remember feeling like this in my fifties. I’m sure that would be magnified now during covid. That feeling seems to have passed me by now, probably because there have been so many unexpected changes to my life since then. I’m pretty sure that I can cope with whatever life throws at me now after those experiences. I love reading about the examination you’re making of these feelings. Jennifer Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12242401238970209578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-40708307468883786472020-10-06T04:35:10.326+08:002020-10-06T04:35:10.326+08:00I think your post is a great reminder that we can ...I think your post is a great reminder that we can plan and plan and plan some more but fate can put that fork in the road and your plan gets a little off path. I love your decision to live in the now and Leslie's point of giving ourselves grace to not have a laundry list of chores to get through each day.Christine@MidlifePromisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138736894806333978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-16915676778056464342020-10-06T03:09:22.083+08:002020-10-06T03:09:22.083+08:00Oh, yes! I have been feeling much more anxiety tha...Oh, yes! I have been feeling much more anxiety than usual too. Lack of control is a good explanation for what is going on. I am constantly amazed at how empty my calendar is. Comparing it to last year is depressing. We do need to adopt that "it is what it is" attitude and just let things be. It isn't always easy to actually let go of that control, though, even when we have already lost it. Thanks for sharing the wonderful quotes.Meditations in Motionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406003928113822953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-54152230474225806382020-10-06T01:27:13.802+08:002020-10-06T01:27:13.802+08:00I've been thinking about control a bit myself!...I've been thinking about control a bit myself! I read a couple of things that might resonate with you. "Having control means choosing your actions." And if that choice is a day spent in reading, writing, and enjoying the quiet, it's your choice. Another one: "you can only control your behaviors and not someone else's". This is helping me as I watch the craziness unfold here in the US. And another "a choice today is not necessarily the forever path; choose to adjust your choice tomorrow as things play out. Life is not a straight line". Believing you have control (choices) is actually a positivity attribute, versus feeling like you have no control (helplessness). I'm choosing to embrace being a homebody, slowing down, and savoring more, and accepting that right now, with the pandemic, "it is what it is" and looking for the positive aspects in that. Tomorrow, I might choose differently! Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-91709183939258436482020-10-06T00:40:49.427+08:002020-10-06T00:40:49.427+08:00I love how you presented this post with the same i...I love how you presented this post with the same image and those brilliant quotes, Leanne. COVID has thrown a huge spanner in the works for many of us. <br /><br />I believe that your introspection will lead you to something soon. In my experience, times of doubt and uncertainty lead us to search deeper within and sometimes redefine our beliefs and lead to positive action. I'm learning to go really easy on myself during these times and take one day at a time, grateful that I'm safe and well.<br /><br /><br />Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11142098428026084994noreply@blogger.com