tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post4372696694770333023..comments2024-03-18T20:05:47.522+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: A TO Z CHALLENGE - A FOR AVOID NEGATIVITYLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger65125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-3098382092806093722018-04-13T09:59:45.527+08:002018-04-13T09:59:45.527+08:00I am such a Pollyanna, and I really dislike it whe...I am such a Pollyanna, and I really dislike it when people are negative all the time. There is a silver lining in every situation, if you're willing to look for it. Some people would just rather be negative.Dyanne @ I Want Backsieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04946323852124525597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-89394457583345809382018-04-10T14:46:11.446+08:002018-04-10T14:46:11.446+08:00Negative mind will affect our all day and night Negative mind will affect our all day and night Cryllionaireshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05954966107945310133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-13354211999178470202018-04-09T22:41:25.248+08:002018-04-09T22:41:25.248+08:00I have been on this journey for a few years now an...I have been on this journey for a few years now and just this past weekend I have had to say goodbye to yet another person who has proven time and time again to be toxic and even dangerous. The worst part is that he is family. Family are the hardest people to push out for our own sanity but its also for mine and my children's safety so there is that. It still hurts though and I'm working on making peace with my decision but sometimes you do have to walk away, or avoid certain people in order to make yourself happy and healthy. Thanks for sharing this post. I needed to read something like this today:) #anythinggoesMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11189475705940533119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19730214625754713892018-04-06T10:07:46.465+08:002018-04-06T10:07:46.465+08:00Avoiding negativity is a great practice. I try no...Avoiding negativity is a great practice. I try not to be a negative person, but I can get sucked in when things aren't going well. I wrote about perspective today, which helps me to avoid going down the negativity road. Michele@liferedesign101.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13910109389089099323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1169998394920230852018-04-03T23:44:25.615+08:002018-04-03T23:44:25.615+08:00I'm stopping by from the A-Z challenge. Today ...I'm stopping by from the A-Z challenge. Today I blogged about ahimsa, or nonviolence...and I think that avoiding negativity is one way to practice nonviolence towards ourselves and others. I also want to fix things or serve people so I stay around negativity for much longer than I should! Adminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07064332985551460339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-88179320740770333602018-04-03T10:00:40.095+08:002018-04-03T10:00:40.095+08:00Hi Leanne, just wanted to say thank you for linkin...Hi Leanne, just wanted to say thank you for linking up at #BloggingGrandmothersLinkParty and I've shared on social media.Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-39571820846831587482018-04-02T23:05:13.924+08:002018-04-02T23:05:13.924+08:00I know some people who drain my energy with their ...I know some people who drain my energy with their negativity. It took me a lot of years to learn it was okay to keep my distance from that. Trudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10783836223461464801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50101584598947049962018-04-02T21:07:34.388+08:002018-04-02T21:07:34.388+08:00So much wisdom here, Leanne! I've given one o...So much wisdom here, Leanne! I've given one of my son's the space he (and I) need and still feel connected by love. Setting those boundaries against negativity is a healthy self-love. And yes, sometimes I feel it's a cop-out and allow guilt to draw me back into the middle of the drama. :)<br />www.meinthemiddlewrites.comMLQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763833172922579693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-37324209508700909252018-04-02T15:13:14.904+08:002018-04-02T15:13:14.904+08:00Hi Leanne, I'm with you on the avoidance issue...Hi Leanne, I'm with you on the avoidance issues! I've been in a similar work situation and it was very difficult to regain my sense of self. I wish you well o your strategies you've taken this year and I know I'm going to enjoy your A-Z posts!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08444193007299838588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64510069574706463822018-04-02T12:44:39.501+08:002018-04-02T12:44:39.501+08:00Actually the slow driver thing was something I lea...Actually the slow driver thing was something I learned to be more gracious with when I wasn't well and drove more cautiously - now I tell myself that maybe the other driver is having an off day - then I try to AVOID them as quickly as possible before my patience wears too thin :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73122717621804959892018-04-02T12:43:19.837+08:002018-04-02T12:43:19.837+08:00I'm learning to do that too Natalie - it's...I'm learning to do that too Natalie - it's never too late to reclaim your sanity and to set some boundaries and delete people that don't accept them.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-52539628767188011442018-04-02T12:40:34.458+08:002018-04-02T12:40:34.458+08:00You are so right Heather - I think it's someth...You are so right Heather - I think it's something we learn as we go along - my problem was that I allowed things to go too far before I took back my power and drew a line in the sand. Now I'm back to normal it is such a relief and such a lesson in respecting myself and creating healthy boundaries.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-44259382931073522672018-04-02T12:38:47.806+08:002018-04-02T12:38:47.806+08:00It's getting the balance right isn't it Pa...It's getting the balance right isn't it Pam? Helping where you can and stepping back when it becomes too much.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8837449180174974212018-04-02T12:15:58.738+08:002018-04-02T12:15:58.738+08:00I'm enjoying people's alternative word to ...I'm enjoying people's alternative word to avoidance Nancy - I like your "acceptance" and also another suggestion - "adaptation". Both are really positive spins on what is essentially the need to preserve our own sanity in the face of ongoing negativity.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-4827826480022613462018-04-02T12:13:36.651+08:002018-04-02T12:13:36.651+08:00Thanks Trisha - and yes, I think there comes a tim...Thanks Trisha - and yes, I think there comes a time when we need to let go of the idea of trying to help others who don't see that there is a problem. I'm learning that can be earlier in the piece now - before I'm emotionally exhausted!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-23808258092292560432018-04-02T12:12:04.521+08:002018-04-02T12:12:04.521+08:00Well there you go Shirley - we'll be reinforci...Well there you go Shirley - we'll be reinforcing each other's lessons as we go!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-77671478515370627512018-04-02T12:11:35.127+08:002018-04-02T12:11:35.127+08:00I think we all seem to reach that point in life wh...I think we all seem to reach that point in life where we realize we can't always have the outcome we'd like and it's okay to leave certain things to their own devices and outcomes - I think it's a sign of wisdom to be able to figure that out!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-12309788924587973382018-04-02T12:09:58.467+08:002018-04-02T12:09:58.467+08:00Perfect advice Victoria - I might keep that in min...Perfect advice Victoria - I might keep that in mind for future encounters - adding positivity or stepping away seems to be a good gauge of how to deal with tricky situations.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-16545027357788497302018-04-02T12:09:03.351+08:002018-04-02T12:09:03.351+08:00I think the Let It Go song struck a chord with a l...I think the Let It Go song struck a chord with a lot of us Alana - it's been a big lesson in life for me to realize I can't control the outcome and I can't help everyone - sometimes I just need to step back and let others work through their problems and consequences.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-33442245751571680622018-04-02T12:07:44.260+08:002018-04-02T12:07:44.260+08:00You're on my bookmarked AtoZ too Sue - I enjoy...You're on my bookmarked AtoZ too Sue - I enjoy all your nicknacks and interesting collections so I was happy to come back for more - and it's interesting to see how many of us have the "fixer gene" where we try to make everyone happy - often at our own expense.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27902234174566867132018-04-02T12:06:15.528+08:002018-04-02T12:06:15.528+08:00I think I look at things as maybe it's God try...I think I look at things as maybe it's God trying to improve my character by putting testing people and situations into my life - but sometimes I think it's about learning to create healthy boundaries and working out what is mine to take on and what I need to leave to God and the person involved.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-53436170397972418732018-04-02T12:04:56.762+08:002018-04-02T12:04:56.762+08:00That's such a great way of looking at it Karen...That's such a great way of looking at it Karen - self-preservation is such a vital skill - and sometimes we sacrifice it with the best of intentions but it's not always in our best interest - especially with consistently negative people.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-83953477846392136672018-04-02T11:54:22.278+08:002018-04-02T11:54:22.278+08:00You said it perfectily Patricia - it is about lett...You said it perfectily Patricia - it is about letting go and not feeling guilty for stepping away from people who aren't good for us - it's learning to not let guilt affect us that is part of the process isn't it?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-51788778930761933472018-04-02T11:52:55.255+08:002018-04-02T11:52:55.255+08:00Hi Yam! Thanks so much for stopping by and for hav...Hi Yam! Thanks so much for stopping by and for having a browse around - I love that we've connected and I'll be popping over to do the same with your blog. Your thoughts on the avoid/adapt interpretation are really helpful - I think you're right about it being a case of learning how to deal with situations and if it means having some space then that's what we need to do. <br />I've spent too much time trying to fix or 'help' when sometimes it's best to realize that certain people and situations need to be left alone and given space. I do hope you'll be back so we can get to know each other xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-26281310873657304772018-04-02T09:51:21.282+08:002018-04-02T09:51:21.282+08:00I do the avoidance, too. But I've also started...I do the avoidance, too. But I've also started trying to see the negativity as a positive. What's the other person's perspective? Or what can I gain from this situation? It doesn't always work, but the first actual habit it created was in traffic. Deciding that slow traffic was helping me not get a ticket or an accident was very freeing!Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06870283055927616591noreply@blogger.com