tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post5648702087547178024..comments2024-03-18T20:05:47.522+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: 4 THINGS YOU DESERVE IN LIFELeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27939830249355872582019-01-28T06:16:09.542+08:002019-01-28T06:16:09.542+08:00I love this post Leanne. I nodded all the way thou...I love this post Leanne. I nodded all the way though. I am so guilty of making myself “smaller” and “making myself less”. I often feel I don’t quite fit in, or I feel awkward - so I retreat or make myself smaller and my voice quieter to protect myself. This year I want to work on that in all areas of my life. I want to stand my ground and just feel that even if my thoughts. actions or beliefs are different in a given situation, that it is still okay and I am enough. I want to be the best version of me. Thank you for your amazing ability to articulate what so many of us feel as women. Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635174228335342763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-23583551457642568042019-01-27T08:05:40.963+08:002019-01-27T08:05:40.963+08:00I need to write these points on notecards and carr...I need to write these points on notecards and carry them with me at all times, Leanne!<br />I am definitely pinning to #mlstl board for future reference.<br />Yes, I do struggle with believing I deserve my "fair share" ... but hopefully my one little word CONFIDENCE will help me overcome that faulty thinking :)Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08414201637917215413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-29141032061615997522019-01-24T22:02:26.261+08:002019-01-24T22:02:26.261+08:00Leanne I think as we get older we get better at kn...Leanne I think as we get older we get better at knowing who we are and what we need. Right now self care is the hardest for me and I can't even say I am working on it. But looking forward to a better tomorrow.Mother and Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04839734504393843040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-16683611969486493382019-01-24T18:52:22.310+08:002019-01-24T18:52:22.310+08:00I was the same Denyse - brought up by a demanding ...I was the same Denyse - brought up by a demanding father who the family rotated around and who always got first place. Now it's my turn - I don't need others to prop me up, but I do need to take responsibility for my own self worth and happiness - it's never too late!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-38634177607560396452019-01-24T18:51:19.376+08:002019-01-24T18:51:19.376+08:00I'm exactly the same Deb - all the inner voice...I'm exactly the same Deb - all the inner voice stuff that tells me to pull my head in and expect nothing - time to call myself on it and start living a life that I'm entitled to. We're getting there - and we can have a treat or two as well :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19928893690608819002019-01-24T18:50:02.806+08:002019-01-24T18:50:02.806+08:00Thanks Janet - nice to see that they ticked the bo...Thanks Janet - nice to see that they ticked the box for you too xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-14880660060236399772019-01-24T18:38:02.489+08:002019-01-24T18:38:02.489+08:00I'm really happy to have you visit and become ...I'm really happy to have you visit and become part of my "tribe" - we all need to encourage each other and to keep moving forward don't we? I love that this stage of life can be such a positive one and a great time of embracing who we are and loving that person.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84018312925691510202019-01-24T17:52:06.569+08:002019-01-24T17:52:06.569+08:00I think we've been conditioned into thinking i...I think we've been conditioned into thinking it's selfish to want a bit of happiness and "me" time - but it's not at all. It's time for us all to claim our space and to accept that we're worthy of some happiness and some time to grow our interests - that's what Midlife is doing for me - I hope you find the same for yourself xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-50489979772774492442019-01-24T16:13:16.175+08:002019-01-24T16:13:16.175+08:00I need the reminders as much (if not more) than ev...I need the reminders as much (if not more) than everyone else Jennifer - which is why I write about them. I'm so impressed with the big life changes you've been making and I really hope they bring satisfaction and joy into your life - you deserve it xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-82546620116045577502019-01-24T16:12:19.232+08:002019-01-24T16:12:19.232+08:00I'm not sure where it got built into our brain...I'm not sure where it got built into our brains that we didn't deserve to come first Min - it's not selfish to want to be loved and happy and to have some time out from all the hubub of looking after everyone else - thank goodness we woke up before it was too late!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80706777206522490042019-01-24T16:11:09.304+08:002019-01-24T16:11:09.304+08:00I'm still getting there too Jo - but at the sa...I'm still getting there too Jo - but at the same time I feel like I'm a lot closer than I used to be. I think it was a matter of realizing that my happiness was up to me and I needed to be prepared to make choices that built towards what I wanted in life - not just run around after everyone else and putting myself last.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-85093428504630566622019-01-24T16:09:30.022+08:002019-01-24T16:09:30.022+08:00Me too Patrick - but once you get your head around...Me too Patrick - but once you get your head around it, it makes you wonder why you waited so long!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80250437581654559682019-01-24T16:08:55.205+08:002019-01-24T16:08:55.205+08:00That's exactly how I see it Christie - so many...That's exactly how I see it Christie - so many people sit back and wait for life and happiness to come to them (and moan about the wait) I think we just get on with it and appreciate what we have while we look to add more happiness in wherever we can xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-37915045121457920302019-01-24T15:56:45.149+08:002019-01-24T15:56:45.149+08:00I was the same Terri - the decades I worked for pe...I was the same Terri - the decades I worked for people who never gave anything back - they expected excellence but never complimented or rewarded. Now I look for some acknowledgement and if it's not coming, then I'm less likely to run myself ragged. A simple thank you goes a long way in my books! Lovely to have you back at MLSTL btw xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-70850970278534915762019-01-24T15:55:21.076+08:002019-01-24T15:55:21.076+08:00I think we were brought up to meet the needs and e...I think we were brought up to meet the needs and expectations of other people Jennifer - we weren't taken advantage of, we just did it because it was expected. Now I question things and I look at how it impacts on my own health and happiness - they are getting a much higher priority these days - and it's getting easier to say No.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59653835566415317932019-01-24T15:53:34.200+08:002019-01-24T15:53:34.200+08:00You are so right Rosie - it took me far too long t...You are so right Rosie - it took me far too long to realize this simple fact - the quote "you can't pour from an empty cup" has a lot of truth in it - I poured from my cup too often for too many years - not so much now though!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-67071632871956883972019-01-24T15:52:32.888+08:002019-01-24T15:52:32.888+08:00I did everything for everybody and said Yes to eve...I did everything for everybody and said Yes to everything all through my younger days, my family rearing days, and my early empty nest days Silvia - it's only the last few years where I've been learning to say No more often and to allow myself the grace of some down time and room to just do nothing if it makes me happy. I hope you discover how to say No more often xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-91322676770482606782019-01-24T15:51:03.215+08:002019-01-24T15:51:03.215+08:00I feel like I still need to keep reminding myself ...I feel like I still need to keep reminding myself Jo - the "it doesn't matter" response comes along too quickly - and it DOES matter because if I don't choose to give these things room in my life then nobody else is going to be doing it for me (unfortunately!)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-78553847325706061612019-01-24T15:45:22.459+08:002019-01-24T15:45:22.459+08:00I can't believe it's only a week til our b...I can't believe it's only a week til our big meet-up Sue - I'm getting quite revved about it now - it's going to be lovely xxLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-64405575253853137752019-01-24T15:44:36.480+08:002019-01-24T15:44:36.480+08:00Thanks Natalie - FIFTY is pretty amazing - and the...Thanks Natalie - FIFTY is pretty amazing - and the wonderful group keeps coming back for more :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-84917910645064439642019-01-24T14:23:48.837+08:002019-01-24T14:23:48.837+08:00I think this is very important and we women 'm...I think this is very important and we women 'make this happen to us'. I know it is the case with me. I had a domineering father (still do but at 95 I no longer am in a lesser role with him) and it may also be to do with our generic roles as caregivers to others. It is taking me till now to realise much of this is what I need to make happen for me, no-one else is going to give me permission. Great post. Denyse #mlstlDenyse Whelan.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16888810644186418559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-67504266843592793292019-01-24T11:27:16.684+08:002019-01-24T11:27:16.684+08:00I love this as it's something I struggle with ...I love this as it's something I struggle with - the concept of enoughness and worth. And when I talk about 'deserving' things I'm always meaning a treat (like food or alcohol etc). Debbishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305239848096384084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-56284757946091702882019-01-24T09:45:17.056+08:002019-01-24T09:45:17.056+08:00Amen to all four of these Leanne!Amen to all four of these Leanne!Janet Cobbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05163979332125772105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-70899074493484068052019-01-24T09:39:29.657+08:002019-01-24T09:39:29.657+08:00Hi Leanne - I am so glad we met and that I can now...Hi Leanne - I am so glad we met and that I can now have the opportunity to connect with you and other Midlifers! I still need to get to the point of saying "NO", still a work in progress but getting there, slowly but surely.Slabshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18345963939314148114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-73819486647923589502019-01-24T04:50:55.128+08:002019-01-24T04:50:55.128+08:00I love that we all have the same take on Mildlife ...I love that we all have the same take on Mildlife & Beyond but we also have our unique way of living it. Thank you for your constant inspiration to living a better life. I love co-hosting #MLSTL with you and we have a great group each week. I've shared on social media and looking forward to meeting you next week, can't wait! :)Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15418770845484399102noreply@blogger.com