tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post6695504909483780193..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: WHOLEHEARTED LIVING - CULTIVATING A POSITIVE MINDSETLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-59151026193063418552021-02-09T17:08:25.555+08:002021-02-09T17:08:25.555+08:00Hi Kathleen - how lovely to be featured again in t...Hi Kathleen - how lovely to be featured again in the Pit Stop - Pat's advice is helpful for everyone, but especially for women who are at the point when they want to make some changes to that inner voice chattering away inside their heads.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-60073523855242366132021-02-09T09:58:35.949+08:002021-02-09T09:58:35.949+08:00Hi Corinne - it's certainly an interesting way...Hi Corinne - it's certainly an interesting way to dig deeper into why our inner voice says what it does. I'm always grateful for Pat's insights and how she dives below the surface to get to the nitty gritty.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-81135474517329741852021-02-09T08:23:38.216+08:002021-02-09T08:23:38.216+08:00Thank you Pat and Leanne, a very helpful insight a...Thank you Pat and Leanne, a very helpful insight and practice to encourage personal growth. Our Menaka has chosen your post to be featured in the next Blogger's Pit Stop, so we can encourage more bloggers.<br />KathleenKathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16559092855185240910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19076221070595263652021-02-08T23:10:07.481+08:002021-02-08T23:10:07.481+08:00I've never heard of the idea of writing a rese...I've never heard of the idea of writing a resentment story, Pat. I'm going to do this exercise. Thank you.<br />Pinned, Leanne.Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11142098428026084994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-60405024237258605932021-02-08T21:31:19.375+08:002021-02-08T21:31:19.375+08:00Pat, the compliment stands; even if a hat and sung...Pat, the compliment stands; even if a hat and sunglasses is more you. :-) Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03902618824470167859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-48975266199060449072021-02-08T15:34:54.598+08:002021-02-08T15:34:54.598+08:00Hi Deb - I'm glad you're enjoying "Da...Hi Deb - I'm glad you're enjoying "Daring Greatly" - I've also been reading it in small chunks to allow it to sink in. And yes, I think that Pat has shown a lot of vulnerability in sharing her thoughts and the impact they have had on her. I feel that a lot of us blog stuff that is quite raw at times - and that's what makes our blogs real and builds the connections with others - like attracts like xLeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-61742029715451958142021-02-08T15:33:01.154+08:002021-02-08T15:33:01.154+08:00Hi Susanne - I love how Pat has dug down deep into...Hi Susanne - I love how Pat has dug down deep into the reasons behind her thoughts and then looked at how to change those thoughts around - something we can all learn from.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-72693033318788116152021-02-08T08:56:04.969+08:002021-02-08T08:56:04.969+08:00Deb, I didn't think so much about the vulnerab...Deb, I didn't think so much about the vulnerability but I did want to express the honestly. I hoped someone would realize that someone else had similar self-limiting beliefs and they were not alone. It's been heart-warming the response this has gotten!Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-7600087258477030742021-02-08T08:52:49.617+08:002021-02-08T08:52:49.617+08:00Suzanne, I mentioned to someone else that the hat ...Suzanne, I mentioned to someone else that the hat and sunglasses is actually more the real me! But I do clean up well. When I gathered with friends the day that picture was taken (it's a professional shot), they almost didn't recognize me. I thought it would be fun to put that "professional look" out there!Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-80374771936347177882021-02-08T08:46:27.304+08:002021-02-08T08:46:27.304+08:00Natalie, some folks are naturally positive. I saw ...Natalie, some folks are naturally positive. I saw recently the term "recovering pessimist" and felt that was really descriptive of me! Maintaining a more positive mindset still takes a lot of attention for me. Kinda like the word cultivate... it's not a one day and done activity!Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-63666790498391051552021-02-08T08:43:17.124+08:002021-02-08T08:43:17.124+08:00Christina, Thank you. I did my values a while ago...Christina, Thank you. I did my values a while ago and it definitely helped me. This self-limiting belief work was even more powerful (and more recent). Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-53517497390165301912021-02-08T05:51:40.767+08:002021-02-08T05:51:40.767+08:00Oh dear, once again I thought I'd already comm...Oh dear, once again I thought I'd already commented on this post but it appears not! maybe I read it and just thought of my response but didn't follow though! Maybe I have a lot going on in my head :) Anyway, I really did enjoy reading Pat's thoughts Leanne, it fits in perfectly with your word of the year. Pat's honesty and insights are always interesting and thought provoking. I'm currently enjoying Brene Brown's Daring Greatly, thanks to Leanne, and am taking it slowly so I savour the messages, she has a lot to say about being vulnerable and it is this honesty that makes us all unique and authentic when we try to express our inner most thoughts. Thanks to you both for all you do in helping show us a different way of being. #weekendcoffeeshareDeb's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706654888846671781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-8133365437115731032021-02-07T19:37:27.325+08:002021-02-07T19:37:27.325+08:00Thanks for sharing this! What an excellent exercis...Thanks for sharing this! What an excellent exercise to develop a better mindset toward yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86739923102007812102021-02-07T11:48:54.467+08:002021-02-07T11:48:54.467+08:00Hi Suzanne - she does look amazing in her profile ...Hi Suzanne - she does look amazing in her profile pic on today's post doesn't she? I would never have connected that woman with the casual one in the hat. I'm hoping people would recognize me from mine - even when I don't have that much pink on (it was a very pink day when that pic was taken!) And yes, we all need to shine our light and stop holding ourselves back - because others are looking and following our lead. I want to be able to be the best example possible of how to live this second half of life well.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-67735927818048060892021-02-07T11:46:31.708+08:002021-02-07T11:46:31.708+08:00Hi Maria - what a wonderful way to approach life. ...Hi Maria - what a wonderful way to approach life. I'm getting so much better at living in the present too - and making positive choices rather than allowing the negatives to have too much impact on how I see the world. I think when we make proactive choices, our whole worldview shifts - and I love your "last day" process as well.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-34033085227132987052021-02-07T11:44:54.497+08:002021-02-07T11:44:54.497+08:00Hi Natalie - yes, I was so pleased that Pat offere...Hi Natalie - yes, I was so pleased that Pat offered to be my first guest and started the series off with such a well rounded and relatable post. I think all of us know what it's like to have those little self-doubts and negative thoughts - Pat's way of dealing with them was such a great reflection of her thoroughness and also her willingness to share.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-65260144806916857552021-02-07T11:43:25.425+08:002021-02-07T11:43:25.425+08:00Hi Christina - I've tended to avoid digging to...Hi Christina - I've tended to avoid digging too deeply into my negative thoughts - I tend to go down the rabbit hole if I'm not careful. But when they pop up, I think Pat's idea of replacing them with a positive truth is the perfect answer and a great way of gently redirecting our self-perception.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-72116885413817955312021-02-07T04:29:12.438+08:002021-02-07T04:29:12.438+08:00Pat, first of all, you are a beautiful woman, stop...Pat, first of all, you are a beautiful woman, stop hiding behind that goofy hat! Second, I assumed that you were fairly new to retirement. Shame on me for not paying better attention. I enjoy your writing and am glad to see you guest writing for Leanne's blog. Self-limiting beliefs are paralyzing and the fact that you are willing to expose your vulnerability not only to yourself, but to others is commendable, and healing. I agree that the only way this process works is to be completely honest. Best wishes and thanks for sharing your wisdom.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03902618824470167859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19190171070266250892021-02-06T23:11:29.990+08:002021-02-06T23:11:29.990+08:00Everything starts in the mind. Thoughts become rea...Everything starts in the mind. Thoughts become reality. I choose to believe that every new day is the first and the last. The "first day" of the rest of my life, the right time to start with the improvements I want to see in my life. The "last day" to tell everyone I love how much they mean to me. Thanks for an inspirational post :)Maria Janssonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12881987073643102783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-13922449176666724302021-02-06T09:05:00.850+08:002021-02-06T09:05:00.850+08:00Pat - I'm glad that you found specific actions...Pat - I'm glad that you found specific actions to put positive psychology in place and undo the negative self-talk. A positive mind set influences how we see our life quality and the world around us. Thanks, Leanne, for featuring Pat. A great start to your Cultivate guest series. #WeekendCoffeeShareNataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05151221243588416460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-85053575136927896232021-02-06T06:57:27.803+08:002021-02-06T06:57:27.803+08:00Hi Leanne and Pat. A very interesting read. I ad...Hi Leanne and Pat. A very interesting read. I admire the honesty in how you went through the process of stripping away those deep seated inner thoughts. I did a similar process to look at my values but it didn't challenge me to look at my negative feelings as much as your process. Both are ways of deep self reflection which is very helpful for self growth. Regards Christina Midlifestylisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885738321776869148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-49144091534479267582021-02-06T01:16:42.448+08:002021-02-06T01:16:42.448+08:00Molly, Like you, I'm finding the Enneagram fr...Molly, Like you, I'm finding the Enneagram free-ing and not boxing me in. It's given me framework for understanding my thinking. (I love frameworks.) And it's allowed me to be less judgmental - a huge need for the highly critical Type 1 that I am. I will have to check out Untamed.... and look forward to your review of it. Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-69970282985755679972021-02-05T21:22:16.392+08:002021-02-05T21:22:16.392+08:00Hi Molly - I enjoyed Untamed too - there were aspe...Hi Molly - I enjoyed Untamed too - there were aspects I didn't really relate to, but there was a lot of sound advice about not conforming to the expectations of others and the freedom of allowing everyone to be themselves without all the judgement we carry around with us. I still prefer Brene Brown, but it was a good book to add to my reading on how to become more myself as I move into this new decade that lies ahead. I'm not sure why it took me so long to allow myself to be "me" - but I intend to embrace all that my 60's are going to bring - and do it with a smile.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19028285122342998722021-02-05T20:37:12.076+08:002021-02-05T20:37:12.076+08:00Oh Pat... this truth comes at the perfect time in ...Oh Pat... this truth comes at the perfect time in my retirement life. Just last week I finished Glennon Doyle's book, Untamed (which I will review next week on the blog). She challenged me to examine every long-held belief to see if it is what I truly believe - or was it societal culture telling me I "should" believe. Am I brave enough to break free of the cage I've cowered in for decades??<br />I discovered the Enneagram two years ago, and after six months of a deep dive and mis-numbering, I learned I am 6 with a very strong 5 wing. Interestingly, I don't feel like this label puts me in a box. Rather, I feel liberated... that my constant "what if..." questions are not an oddity, it is a 6 being a 6 :)Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08414201637917215413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-44415715558399377782021-02-05T11:20:23.467+08:002021-02-05T11:20:23.467+08:00Leslie, Are you aware, the need to "do more&...Leslie, Are you aware, the need to "do more" is part of the Enneagram Type 3...which is one of your wings? It's not compare & despair... it's an inner belief that you will only be loved if you "perform" so you constantly feel like you need to "climb the next mountain", do the next trendy thing, etc. This is the deep-dive belief stuff that I did...my issue is not that one, but it was about getting my inner voice on paper. Being aware of your inner dialogue is the first step!Pat WDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01058910207832261196noreply@blogger.com