tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post757901464155785473..comments2024-03-28T08:54:28.654+08:00Comments on Cresting The Hill: PARENTING LESSON #7 ~ THEIR JOURNEY IS THEIR OWNLeannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-26064184154924686672016-08-23T21:45:34.579+08:002016-08-23T21:45:34.579+08:00I think you would have made a great actress Sally ...I think you would have made a great actress Sally - there is a little bit of the theatre in all of us bloggers isn't there? :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-24288639534929185262016-08-23T21:44:52.277+08:002016-08-23T21:44:52.277+08:00I like the idea of planting seeds Julie - you neve...I like the idea of planting seeds Julie - you never know what can develop if you quietly water them but don't force the issue.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1533115581849023552016-08-22T20:33:07.940+08:002016-08-22T20:33:07.940+08:00Absolutely Leanne. I was very lucky that my parent...Absolutely Leanne. I was very lucky that my parents never expected us to do a specific career. They just wanted us to do something and earn an honest day's wage. They didn't even discourage me when I said I wanted to be an actress. Luckily for me (and them) I changed my mind on that one<br /><br />Sally @ Life Loving<br />#LifeLovingLinkieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497429927333074481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-3489647503371322572016-08-22T00:25:57.215+08:002016-08-22T00:25:57.215+08:00You are so very right, but we have to know what th...You are so very right, but we have to know what their desires are, right Leanne? If we dont then I imagine its okay to plant a seed of what our personal dreams were...often times the apple doesnt fall far from the tree...so they pick up n out "dreams" make them their own and grow to be awesome people :) Bliss! Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17686463072669414907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-14790165078081956422016-08-21T21:22:40.191+08:002016-08-21T21:22:40.191+08:00I think it would be a shame to be a child who has ...I think it would be a shame to be a child who has to rebel against his parents so that he can seek his own way in life Julie - how much nicer would it be to actually guide your child into a future that is geared to their strengths and likes rather than the parents desires?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-83575067733146090202016-08-21T21:02:33.030+08:002016-08-21T21:02:33.030+08:00As parents our job is t guide our children to find...As parents our job is t guide our children to find their North Star and travel their journey to success as early in their lives as possible. I think those parents did great guiding their son...If he didnt like it, he would have rebelled. So I guess it was his destiny too. Thanks for sharing at the Pit Stop! <br />The Crew :) Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17686463072669414907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1467911157606718982016-08-20T10:43:11.063+08:002016-08-20T10:43:11.063+08:00So true - we guide them but don't control all ...So true - we guide them but don't control all their choices or expect them to live the life we have planned out in our head for them.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-55664688676603922572016-08-18T14:55:47.906+08:002016-08-18T14:55:47.906+08:00Lovely post! Totally agree, we're only here t...Lovely post! Totally agree, we're only here to guide our kids, they should have the freedom to choose what they want and what direction they want for their career or lives. #LifeLovingLinkieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225437588172946916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-31050781334030904892016-08-18T14:15:44.882+08:002016-08-18T14:15:44.882+08:00Exactly Lois - sometimes you want to give them a k...Exactly Lois - sometimes you want to give them a kick in the pants, but if you've taught them to be responsible and to contribute, then they seem to get their heads around making life choices and surprisingly are very good at it!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-86750645134793496062016-08-18T14:14:45.005+08:002016-08-18T14:14:45.005+08:00I love that your son has put his career on hold to...I love that your son has put his career on hold to parent his family and allow your daughter-in-law to achieve her dreams. It's wonderful to see our kids act nobly and from the heart isn't it Molly?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27186549839521446192016-08-18T14:13:45.015+08:002016-08-18T14:13:45.015+08:00Midlife is such a wonderful opportunity to right s...Midlife is such a wonderful opportunity to right some of the injustices we've lived with for decades. I'm so happy you found your own place in the sun Glenda - and that it's a peaceful (and very stylish!) one :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-68519418611337454632016-08-18T14:12:40.179+08:002016-08-18T14:12:40.179+08:00It's funny to see our kids take completely dif...It's funny to see our kids take completely different paths to the ones we took and watch them succeed. I'm so glad mine didn't follow in my footsteps either Rebecca!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-45535926999643315922016-08-18T14:11:43.089+08:002016-08-18T14:11:43.089+08:00So many parents live their lives through their chi...So many parents live their lives through their children and that is kind of sad. We need to be able to separate ourselves from them, enjoy their successes, but not try to own them as our own.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-85299599544203234552016-08-18T14:10:49.986+08:002016-08-18T14:10:49.986+08:00And that choice can change at any time Tam - I'...And that choice can change at any time Tam - I'm sure most of us are in completely different places than where we'd expected when we were 17 - and that's not a bad thing :)Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-11775773285424874562016-08-18T14:10:08.526+08:002016-08-18T14:10:08.526+08:00I think they need people like you in their corner ...I think they need people like you in their corner Carol - someone who can speak up for them and help them not be railroaded by parents who have good hearts but wrong motives.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-22277766945345965892016-08-18T14:09:21.420+08:002016-08-18T14:09:21.420+08:00What an amazing diversity in your kids Diane - I l...What an amazing diversity in your kids Diane - I love that they are all following their own paths and they are so different from the norm and so different from each other - something to be really proud of!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-47691888211896898592016-08-18T14:08:10.958+08:002016-08-18T14:08:10.958+08:00I think of all those mothers who push their way in...I think of all those mothers who push their way into their daughters' weddings to have what they missed out on - it's never a good thing is it Sheryl?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-70451345738126309462016-08-18T14:07:28.291+08:002016-08-18T14:07:28.291+08:00I think as long as we encourage our children to be...I think as long as we encourage our children to be all that they can be then we've done our jobs. It might not be the path we saw for them, but ultimately it's their life and they need to be happy and secure in their choices.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-41638356025802403042016-08-18T14:06:22.997+08:002016-08-18T14:06:22.997+08:00Maybe having an adopted child allows you to see th...Maybe having an adopted child allows you to see them as their own person more than as a reflection (mini "me") of yourself Carla - that is a gift for her indeed!Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05623420015695351280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-33543729046533025432016-08-18T11:42:40.972+08:002016-08-18T11:42:40.972+08:00It can be so hard to just let our kids live their ...It can be so hard to just let our kids live their own lives but it's the best thing we can do for them. We can't put our own expectations and desires onto them. They deserve their own!Lois Alter Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457009348917459495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-19042078901206919032016-08-18T05:51:54.903+08:002016-08-18T05:51:54.903+08:00I agree that our children need to have freedom to ...I agree that our children need to have freedom to explore their own interests and dreams and it isn't often going to match what we might want for them. I'm delighted that young people (especially young women) have more options now than they did when I was growing up. I am proud of my own son who is an engineer-stay-at-home-dad. I just want him to be happy. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14664097336440373659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-15499232848361921292016-08-18T03:47:29.049+08:002016-08-18T03:47:29.049+08:00How very right, you are. I was raised to believe I...How very right, you are. I was raised to believe I'd never live-up to my sister, who was viewed as perfect by my father. I did everything I could think of to be just like her. Then three years ago, I had the biggest transforming wake-up call. Since then, I realize I am Glenda. I had to learn to love me from scratch. As a mother of two sons, I never want them to experience what I did as a child. Great post! I wrote a book about my journey called A Place Called Peace. Glendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07234209134434888157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-1341176314184582332016-08-18T00:08:52.612+08:002016-08-18T00:08:52.612+08:00My daughter got right out and started working at 1...My daughter got right out and started working at 16 and now has a successful career. I've always been amazed by her. My son joined the Air Force at 18 and has been moving up the ranks. He's now 26. I'm so glad they didn't follow me and want to be actors. Pheew!Rebecca Olkowskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136102257837831028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-27149242148020348462016-08-18T00:07:51.356+08:002016-08-18T00:07:51.356+08:00There is that fine line of wanting the best and sh...There is that fine line of wanting the best and shielding from hardship to letting go. As much as we can not dictate we can not take absolute credit for their accomplishments and failures and have their life become our life!Haraleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03263065017109894464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4722898771124083282.post-32068444307765026162016-08-17T23:39:56.084+08:002016-08-17T23:39:56.084+08:00Yes, it can be very difficult to let it unfold...b...Yes, it can be very difficult to let it unfold...but in the end, it is the only choice.Travels with Tamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12216338498829504515noreply@blogger.com