There are so many things that I do out of obligation or habit or because I'm a little OCD and because I think "no-one else is going to do it". A lot of those things are necessary and part of the obligations of getting by in this world. However, some of them are self inflicted and I really need to tell myself "Stop It!!" when I go down that path.
I am a do-er and can't help myself at times. When something needs to be done, I just get on with it -
I'm also working at stopping myself from chasing after people. I'm tired of being the friend who always calls for a catch-up. Friendships are a two way street and I'm focusing on the friends who invest in the relationship. It's such a pleasure to be with people who you know like being with you. No-one is under any obligation to be there - it's a choice and a blessing to share time together. If it's too hard for a friend to find time, then I'm happy to back off and give them space and leave it to them to decide if they want to reconnect later.
The attitude of the heart is a really important part of what your character is and it's an area I am constantly trying to improve on. I have been on this earth for 50+ years and I still struggle with smallness in my attitudes at times. I want to be more generous and heartfelt in my relationships with others and perhaps one of the first things I need to do is tell myself to "stop it" whenever I feel myself sliding into grey areas that are justifiable but not warmhearted. It's so easy to judge someone or to question their life choices, but that doesn't help them in any way and just detracts from my own character.
I want to be the person that can be turned to for genuine empathy and thoughtful advice - not the person who will laugh or make light of someone else's problems. I'm not sure if it is a natural gift for some people who are warm and thoughtful all the time, or if it is just a matter of choosing your outlook. I am still a work in progress but I think I'm getting closer now than I was in the first half of my life....