Friday, 19 February 2016

from grandkittens to grandbabies

the grandkittens Willow and Shadow
the grandkittens Willow and Shadow
This week's #Friday Reflection is: How has having Grandchildren changed your view of parenting?

Up until recently I'd have had to answer this question based on the extensive experience I have as Nana to my two grandkittens, Willow and Shadow. From them I've learned that I'm just the patter and a lap to snuggle up on. I'm not responsible for the feeding, or the poop scooping, or the water spray squirting when they're naughty. It's nice not being the disciplinarian or the worrier (like I am with my own fur children) and I think grandchildren will be pretty much the same.


the parents to be
Jared and Hannah - the parents-to-be
The recent change to our lives is that our son and his lovely wife are currently expecting their first baby (and our first grandbaby), she is a little girl - due on April 24th. We have already started a photo album with her first official baby photo (there was a 3D one as well but even her parents thought she looked a little weird in it - apparently 3D looks better in video format than as a picture).


ultrasound of our little granddaughter
the 12 week ultrasound
Things have changed a lot since my days of being pregnant, there are all the dietary restrictions, and a multitude of new rules, along with the recommendation that parents and grandparents have whooping cough booster shots. There is so much information available to parents from the internet and books - almost too much to take on board at times. But what my D-I-L says is what we go along with because ultimately she is the mum.

My belief is that grandparents are there to be the cheer squad. To trust our children will be better parents than we were - that they will put all we taught them into practice and refine it with their own way of doing things. It is not our role to judge or criticize their decisions and choices, but to be part of the support team and to listen and reassure them that they'll be great parents (and they will be!)

This whole Nana thing is such a blessing and joy - this little person will be here soon and will bring so much happiness with her. I can't believe that she'll be crawling around the Christmas tree by the end of the year (wearing the really cute little Christmas tee shirt I couldn't resist buying at the end of year sales!) I think I'll be a lot more relaxed as a Nana than I was as a Mum - I can be the back-up plan rather than the first line of offence when it comes to being responsible. I can enjoy all the snuggles and cuddles and giggles and even a few tears and at the same time I'll know that the buck stops with her parents. Though I may be the Nana who sneaks in a lolly or two when nobody is looking!

the new nursery all set up and ready
The new nursery all set up and ready
We headed up to the city last weekend to see the new nursery all set up and to check out the baby bump that we hadn't seen since Christmas. Our daughter was there to join in the fun - she's almost as excited as I am - she gets to be an aunty and is off the grandbaby expectation hook for a while (much to her delight!) Roll on April 24th!!

26 comments:

  1. You are going to love being a Nanna Leanne! It is such an exciting time and my grandson Ethan brings so much joy to my heart whenever I see him. At least you can post photos, my daughter and her husband are very private so only post the occasional photo. I respect them for it but oooh it is hard sometimes especially when you get a really cute pic - oh wait that is all of them! Our children have more information these days and my only advice to other grandparents is offer support and wait to give advice! I'm looking forward to hearing more in the future. xx

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    1. I think the waiting to give advice until you're asked (and then only sparingly) is a big thing for grandparents to take on board. No new mum wants her decisions questioned and I want it all to be a pleasant time together so I'll be keeping my mouth closed! I can't wait to see this little one and I'll probably be allowed to post an occasional photo if I'm lucky :)

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  2. This is so lovely Leanne, you will make a wonderful grandparent. The sweet little new life changes everyone's life for the better. Oh I think the nursery is so nice and inviting. I can see you buying more little things, like all the time, and loving it. God bless you all

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    1. thanks Kathleen - it is such a lovely time of life - exciting for them and special for us. Babies just bring their own joy along with them don't they?

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  3. This is awesome! Congrats! The nursery looks beautiful!

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    1. thanks so much Mira - our D-I-L is rapt with how the nursery has turned out :)

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  4. Congratulations! The nursery looks gorgeous - I bet you're all so excited! My mum told me the other day that being a nan was the best because she just got to do all the fun stuff and could leave all the rest to me, which I thought was just charming ;D #FridayFrivolity

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    1. Your mum was right on - I'm looking forward to the "all care and no responsibility" clause that comes with being a Nan!

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  5. How exciting Leanne. All the best to you and yours.

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    1. thanks Laurie - it will be really fun I'm sure.

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  6. Congratulations! And what a beautiful nursery:) I can't believe you're be a Nana soon. What a joy!
    xx Abby

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    1. Only a couple of months to go and it will be a whole new era Abby x

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  7. I am SO Excited for you Leanne!! It is so fun to imagine the little one around the Christmas tree, like you were describing. :D Pinning and tweeting!

    So glad you shared your joy with us at #FridayFrivolity!! Still smiling over here. :)

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    1. Thanks Sarah - I'm really happy to be reaching the next stage of parenting - and it will be amazing to have a little person that we are connected to :)

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  8. It's a lovely post!! Congratulations Leanne :) Exciting time now for you

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    1. thanks Winnie - it is an exciting time and hard to imagine a little baby being around soon!

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  9. Oh this is just so exciting! I can feel how excited you are, and a GIRL so perfect! I love pink so I hope I get a granddaughter to dress up one day as my own two daughters are now choosing their own clothes lol. The nursery looks gorgeous I love the tree decal just gorgeous. Congrats you will love every minute of it! Can't wait to hear when she is born xx

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    1. My D-I-L is a big fan of pink and I'm sure she will be a girly girl (until she grows up and starts choosing her own wardrobe!) In the meantime there will be lots of pink and sparkles and tulle!

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  10. Aw! Cute kitties! My parents have grankittens too!

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    1. they're great to practice your granparenting skills on Amber :)

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  11. So close now - only a few more months! It sounds like you have the perfect attitude towards being a grandparent & you're going to be a great one! I'm excited for this....someday!

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    1. It's the next phase of life Lana and a few of my friends are becoming grandparents this year - we're all as pleased as each other!

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  12. Hi Leanne,
    Congratulations on impending grandmahood. I'm sure you'll be great. I love the photo of the kitten with the sweater on. Thanks for bringing this to Pit Stop.
    Janice

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    1. thanks Janice - the sweater is because she is a devon rex (not much hair) and gets cold - she has a wardrobe of outfits!

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  13. Hi Leanne! Congratulations I've selected your post as one of my top two picks in this week's OTM linkup. Such an exciting time for you and your family thanks for sharing with us.

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  14. April 24th really isn't very far away - and you will be a marvelous grandmother!! If the babies wardrobe is half as cute as the kitty's, she will be a very well dressed little girl :-)

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