SPEAK GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF

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DON'T BE YOUR OWN WORST CRITIC

It is so very easy to find negative things to think about myself. I am by far my own worse critic and I have a litany of things I criticize myself with - from my looks, to my personality, to my failures as a wife and mother, to how much I talk - and even how I sound when I talk (how ridiculous is that!)

Here's an example....

REMEMBER TO TELL PEOPLE HOW SPECIAL THEY ARE

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COMPLIMENTS STRENGTHEN CONNECTIONS

As time has passed I've noticed that I don't meet new people as often as I used to. One of the benefits of making conversation with people you don't know all that well is that you tend to say nice things to each other - like "that's a lovely outfit" or "you have great kids" because you are making connections and being complimentary is a great way to make a positive impact.

With old friends we tend to take a lot of that for granted and it seems less common to give or receive a compliment. 

MY MIDLIFE VALENTINE

Midlife love - when two opposites attract and then figure out how to navigate life together
Our engagement in 1982 and still together 35 years later

IN THE BEGINNING

I married my lovely husband in February 1983 - a VERY long time ago! We were (and still are) complete opposites but that didn't phase us in the slightest - love conquers all, our differences compliment each other and one's strengths offset the other's weaknesses ......or so we thought.

HOW TO STOP BEING THE INVISIBLE WOMAN IN MIDLIFE

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WHEN MIDLIFE WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE

Along with "looking good for your age" comes another Midlife phenomenon - becoming invisible. I've seen many comments about this in regard to men not seeing 50+ women, but it's not just men who don't see us, it's shop assistants, clothing manufacturers and employers.

Why are Midlife women so undervalued by our society? When did the cult of youth take over from the wisdom of middle age?

"FOR HER AGE" AND OTHER MIDLIFE DISCLAIMERS

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HAVE YOU HEARD THE "FOR HER AGE" TAG?

I was checking my new outfit in the mirror the other morning as I was getting ready for another day at the office, and I thought "I'm looking pretty good for someone my age". Bang! there is was.....the dreaded Midlife disclaimer "for my age".

I think we're all guilty of applying it to ourselves. We're looking really good, but because we don't look like we did in our 20's, we think we're doing okay "for our age". Why do we judge ourselves so harshly?