Are you living the life you want? Are you investing in yourself and cultivating the life you deserve? Here's what I did in my 50's to make life great.


In a little over a week's time, I won't be in my 50's anymore. A new decade looms and I'm a little bit daunted, a little bit excited, and a little bit nostalgic for what I'm leaving behind. When I hit 50 I was in a completely different frame of mind. I was in a job that was 'wash/rinse/repeat' and I could do it in my sleep, my kids had flown the coop and were happily doing their own thing, my marriage was heading towards a hurdle, and I felt a little lost.

Fast forward ten years and I can't believe how much that decade taught me. I feel like a completely new person, I'm more confident in who I am, I'm no longer working, I've watched my kids make great choices, I'm a grandmother, my marriage survived its crisis and is going well, and I'm much more "me" than I've ever been. Looking back, I'm grateful I put the time and energy of my 50's into cultivating a life that feels authentic, and one that I love. Today's post is all about the garden I've made my life into...


Life's a lot like a garden, it all starts with what you plant, and how much variety and 'density' you want to create. I didn't need a life that was over-committed, over-whelming, or too busy anymore, but at the same time I didn't want it to be dull, colourless and boring either. I needed to figure out what was important and make sure I focused on planting those qualities and activities, while ignoring the sales pitch of the world, social media, empowerment gurus, and all those distractions that looked good on the surface but wouldn't have given me the life I wanted.

It's hard not to look into your neighbour's garden and want what they're having. It all looks so appealing doesn't it? But is it really? (remember the scene below from When Harry Met Sally?) Looks can be deceiving!

I'll have what she's having - When Harry Met Sally


Once I decided what was important to me (and that took several years to figure out!) it meant weeding out some of the old stuff that used to define me. I've been working really hard at pruning back things like people pleasing, perfectionism, trying to be in control of every little thing in my life, worrying, over-thinking, comparison, basing my happiness and self-worth on others, proving myself by my productivity, judging myself..... the list feels endless. Weeds tend to proliferate, and mine had been growing for a very long time.

Often, it's not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be

It took a lot of hard work and introspection to figure out what wasn't working for me and to dig it out and discard it. I think it'll be an ongoing process, but I feel like I can distinguish the good plants from the useless ones these days - so ten years of work has definitely paid off.


After the planting and weeding, the only way to keep growing is to water and cultivate the qualities that I want to have in abundance. If I don't invest in myself, if I don't align myself with the right voices, if I don't fill my world with positivity, faith, encouragement and affirmation, then what I'm trying to grow will just wither away and die. I've been blessed beyond measure to have people in my life who want to see me become my best self and they cheer me on. Blogging has brought even more wonderful people into my world and I'm so grateful for that too.

It's so easy to get burnt by listening to the ugly voices around us (and in our heads) and replacing those with people who want the best for us is so refreshing. I never want to have another drama queen or dementor in my life ever again!


I love the word "flourishing" it's what I want to do in my 60's. I feel like these last few years of my 50's have been the beginning of a new and colourful world for me. I've finally ditched working for other people (and selling my soul in the 9-5 grind), I've found hobbies and interests that feed my soul and make my heart happy. I don't have a single regret in my life any more - I get to live on my terms and on my timetable - and I could NOT have said that ten years ago!

Find out what makes you kinder, what opens you up and brings out the most loving, generous, and unafraid version of you

You don't flourish if you don't appreciate what you have, you don't flourish if you're not grateful for the life you're living, you only flourish when you regularly take time to pause for a moment and admire the garden you've grown your life into.


I want my 60's to be the time where I get to enjoy the harvest of all the work that I put into my 50's. I love that I'm about to launch into a new decade with enthusiasm and anticipation - rather than feeling like I've left the best behind. I might be older, but I'm so much happier. I feel like every plant I've cultivated in my life is one that I want to have, that I've put thought into, and that gives me pleasure.

I'm finally becoming myself - it might have taken me longer than I expected, but I'm so grateful to be here and to get to enjoy the decade ahead - full of joy, peace, and gratitude. I couldn't possibly ask for more than that.

I get to wake up every morning and feel overwhelmingly thankful for this wonderful life I've created for myself.


Are you cultivating a life that brings you joy? Are you carefully choosing what you want in the garden of your life and watering and caring for it? I hope you've reached an age and stage that's bringing you contentment and joy - or that it's coming your way in the very near future.


Are you living the life you want? Are you investing in yourself and cultivating the life you deserve? Here's what I did in my 50's to make life great.

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Are you living the life you want? Are you investing in yourself and cultivating the life you deserve? Here's what I did in my 50's to make life great.
Are you living the life you want? Are you investing in yourself and cultivating the life you deserve? Here's what I did in my 50's to make life great.