I've always been guilty of wanting a Very Brady Christmas - it's one of the first things I ever blogged about because I've had to learn the lesson that real life Christmas and Brady Christmases rarely intersect. I've learned over the years to accept whatever I can get in family time over the holiday break and be grateful that I see my children for whatever time they can fit me in.
Our daughter married a lovely young man who came with the baggage of a difficult family dynamic and he just didn't understand the need to spend more than a token hour or two with Erin's family. We feel like it's been an uphill battle giving him space and still finding time to spend together as an extended family.
I will admit to shedding a tear or two over the first couple of Christmases where we were lucky to see them for a short visit and where they chose to stay in a motel rather than with family because they wanted to have their own head space. Understandable in its own way as newly weds, but still tough on a mother's heart when they visit so rarely and there is all the Christmas expectations on top of that.
Well this year is different! For the first time ever we get both of our children (and spouses and baby bump) staying with us for a couple of days and nights over Christmas. I can't begin to describe how pleased and excited I am about this. The only spanner in the works was that we only have one spare queen sized bed in the house (because that's all the average empty nester needs!) I refused to let this be a reason for anyone to be uncomfortable on this momentous occasion so.......off to IKEA online and their free country delivery and we are now the proud owners of a third queen sized bed (see above!) We could start our own bed and breakfast at this rate, but it will be worth every penny to have my "kids" all under my roof at the same time.
Now all I have to do is convince them to have a Santa photo like my friend whose children have one every year (they're up to number #26) Seeing the chances of my kids doing that are less than zero, my husband did a photo shop job for me and I'm thinking of framing it to hang next to the Christmas tree this year.
I just love Christmas! And having my children home this year will be the best present ever......well until next year when there will be a grandbaby to share it all with!
#Friday Reflections: What is the best present / gift you have ever received?