This week's #FridayReflection is: "Share your favourite TED video / talk and tell us why you love it so much". What I'm sharing isn't actually a Ted talk, but it is from Brene Brown who has some amazing insights into why we do the same small destructive things over and over again.
This clip is about blaming - it goes for less than 4 minutes and I originally came across it because my husband (the family counsellor) sent it to me - I think he may have seen some small similarities in my behaviour (fortunately his name isn't Steve or I'd really be in trouble!)
In another short video I watched recently Brene talked about boundaries and empathy and giving people the benefit of the doubt. A lot of what she has to say is about taking responsibility for yourself and your feelings. Not trying to blame or sugar coat - just letting things be as they are and dealing with them in an adult and intelligent manner.
I've got a long way to go with this (hence the video being shared by my beloved!) but it has given us a catch-cry to use whenever the blame game starts - DAMN YOU STEVE!
Here's the video if you want to have a quiet smile to yourself and you might even find it helpful too!