This week's #Friday Reflection is "the words or motto you live by is....."
I discovered this quote on Pinterest (oh how I love Pinterest!) and it has stuck with me ever since, probably because it spoke volumes about my approach to life and the changes I needed to make.
I am the world's greatest control freak - I have to have my ducks in a row, I have to micro-manage everything in life (including any family member that happens to be around), I worry about everything! If there's not something major to worry about, then I will start worrying about little things because my brain likes to chew things over.
I found this quote at the exact moment when I decided that I needed to let things go, stop worrying about everything and just take a step back and release it all. I even chose "release" as my word for 2015. I knew that fretting wasn't doing me any good and life happens regardless of how many plans I put into place. I also realized that I spent way too much time worrying about stuff that wasn't even my problem (not my circus) and worrying about people who were big enough to worry about themselves (not my monkeys).
To remind myself of this resolution to not take on other people's issues, I even found a bangle on etsy and bought it for myself and I wear it nearly every day because it is a great little prompt when I start getting wound up - especially at work where it's still a bit hairy at times - it's like snapping a rubber band on my wrist - but a lot less painful!)
The only flaw in my great motto is when the circus and monkeys are mine, but you know what? It is a pretty rare occasion when they are. My life is pretty cruisy now that I've let a lot of things go through to the keeper. If something is worrying me I pray about it, fix it if I can, or release it. Mulling over a problem and losing sleep and worrying does nothing to solve it - all it does is get me in a stew and I end up projecting scenarios into my head that are never going to happen. Life has a habit of turning out pretty well all by itself when you leave it alone. Even when it gets a bit crazy, that's part of the fun really!
The other thing my daughter pointed out is that when you recognize it is someone else's circus that is out of control/on fire/going crazy and someone else's monkeys running amok, you can sit back and grab some popcorn and watch the show. You don't have to get in amongst it all chasing other people's monkeys or trying to put out the flames - that's their job (and some people like living in a circus tent). What a relief to leave them to it!