I wrote a blog post in July last year about married life and how it isn't necessarily all bells and whistles, but what is rewarding is the shared love, and commitment, and history, and the connection that 30+ years together gives us. It was one of my most viewed posts - I guess because so many of us are finding that balance in a world where lust and hot sex are worshiped and where depth and commitment to the long haul come a poor second.
There is so much more to marriage than those first shiny days together when we are skipping through life and all is right in our world. There are many, many paths we will walk together - some of them gentle and smooth, some of them uphill and slippery. There will be rough paths and potholes and detours. Nobody gets a free ticket to a garden path that winds through shady glades "until death us do part".
The tough part of marriage is keeping the same pace - not having one person running ahead or one person lagging too far behind. We need to be there for each other - sometimes as a support to lean on, sometimes as a hand to hold, sometimes as as a cheerleader, sometimes just to share the scenery and the cool breezes.
I would never rain on any newly wed's parade, but I do hope that they keep walking in the same direction. I hope they don't give up when the path gets rocky. I hope they don't take different forks in the road and end up so far apart that they can't find their way back.
Marriage will constantly present you with new roads to choose, and I hope you make the decision to walk down them together hand in hand.