12 CHOICES FOR HAPPINESS

We need to choose to be happy every day - it doesn't just happen. This is my series on 12 choices for Happiness

KEEPING OUR HAPPINESS ALIVE

One of the most popular series of posts I wrote were the ones from last year on How I lost my happiness and how I found it again. I've been thinking about happiness a lot lately and how easy it is to lose it when we slip into bad habits or when we forget how to nurture it.

HAPPINESS REMINDERS 

So this August I thought I'd write a series of twelve posts - on my usual Monday, Wednesday, Friday posting days - on things we need to remind ourselves about when it comes to happiness. You'd think it would be simple and straightforward, but in my experience it's far from that - in fact it's a state of mind that I need to be vigilant in maintaining or I slip into the Grumpy Old Woman state - and that is NOT a place I want to visit for any length of time!


Happiness is a choice - not a result of our circumstances or other people

I'm not sure why it's so hard to keep a grip on happiness. I think for me it's that constant seesaw between remembering that it's my responsibility to create my own happiness, and forgetting that fact and basing my happiness on other people and on my circumstances.

LOSING MY HAPPINESS

It's so easy for me to lose my sense of happiness when things aren't going as smoothly as I'd like with my family. When I have a hiccup along the way with my kids, or a difference of opinion with a friend, or worse yet - with my husband.

I allow the stress of work to suck away my happiness, I allow my co-worker's problems and marital strife to impact on my thoughts. I have to keep reminding myself that it's her choices and her refusal to deal with the situation that are the basic problem - and that they are not my problems to solve.


Keep choosing happiness and it will keep choosing you back

PEOPLE PLEASING

When you have that People Pleasing gene firmly inground into your psyche it is so hard to disconnect that from the people you are surrounded with. For me, it's a constant desire for everyone to be happy, everyone to like what I'm doing or saying, everyone to be satisfied and content. When there are glitches along the way I feel the happiness start to drain away. It's silly and it's something I know shouldn't happen, so I need to be watching for the signs of it and stopping myself from getting drawn too deeply into other people's dramas and upsets.

So, August is going to be the month I remind myself about the choices I need to make in life to stay happy and to keep a smile on my face. It's a journey and maybe for some it comes easy, but for me it's a bit more up and down. I want more "ups" in my life and ultimately that's my responsibility - nobody can make me happy - it's up to me.


We need to choose to be happy every day - it doesn't just happen. This is my series on 12 choices for Happiness

12 CHOICES FOR HAPPINESS

I hope you'll join me as I work my way through 12 Choices for Happiness - maybe it'll be a reminder for you too about how important it is to choose happiness every day - and to not let wrong choices or negative influences drain our happiness from us.


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37 comments

  1. Happiness is very important Leanne and I look forward to reading your thoughts this month!

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    1. Thanks Deb - I think we get so caught up with other people and "stuff" and risk losing our happiness in the process. I thought it was a good time to remind myself to be responsible for my own happiness.

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  2. I'm usually a pretty happy person - until I'm not. You reminded me of the little things that I allow to affect my happiness. I'm looking forward to reading your series.

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    1. I hope you like it Melody - it's a constant struggle for me to not let life's ups and downs suck the happiness out of me - I thought it was time to give myself a reminder or two!

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  3. Loved this post. Thanks for the reminder Leanne, that being happy is a CHOICE.

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    1. Thanks Shirley - I think it's so important to be reminded about maintaining our happiness - it's so easy to slip into the doldrums if we're not careful.

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  4. Great subject Leanne and I'm looking forward to reading your 12 choices for happiness. There are so many things in life that we have a Choice about and Happiness is definitely one of them. I've written about this before and it always is a good reminder to myself. Have a VERY HAPPY DAY! XX

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    1. I think we've both been big advocates of happiness Sue - it's a big part of the whole Midlife celebration isn't it? Discovering what makes you happy and doing more of that!

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  5. Great idea Leanne and I SO hear you on the subject of 'choosing' happiness and I also find I'm able to 'lose' my happiness more quickly than I'd like. #teamlovinlife

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    1. I'm the same Deb - I think I have it all figured out and BAM something hits my from left of centre and I'm all weepy. At least I recognize what's happening and that it's my responsibility to do something about it and not let it eat away at me.

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  6. You're so right Leanne. Happiness is a choice and we have to keep vigilant about it. I lost my happiness too and I worked very hard to get it back. I lose it again now and then though. I have this problem of absorbing the problems and misery of others and it affects my state of mind. I'm a nurturer and care very much about people but sometimes it is to my own detriment. You covered some very good points here! Thanks for the reminder! Really looking forward to your series. :-) #TeamLovinLife

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    1. I'm the same Min (I think we may have been separated at birth!) Even after all the pain of finding my way back to happiness, it only takes the dramas or upsets of others to start denting me and dragging me down. It's something that I work on constantly because I don't want to go back to being sad again.

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  7. I generally choose to be happy. There is nothing to be gained by being morbid and miserable. There is already too much negativity around. I like to tell myself every single day how lucky I am and how thankful I am to be me! #TeamLovinLife

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    1. You're so right Kathy - it really is all about our attitude and choosing to look on the bright side as often as possible. I remind myself quite often that I am truly blessed and that helps a lot.

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  8. Being happy is high on my list of priorities. I've backed off on the people pleasing, after practicing the skill for many years, and now ask myself if I'm happy first. Gratitude is so important too :) #TeamLovinLife

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    1. One of the Choices I'm doing is on gratitude Lyndall - it's such a big factor in happiness - and definitely getting off the people pleasing bus is a major step in finding our happiness mojo.

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  9. It really IS a choice. I've always been a pretty happy person, myself.

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    1. somehow i can't get the profile name to change. it's me, carol cassara!

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    2. Hi Carol - I know it's your secret spy name and it gives me a smile when it pops up in my comments :D

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  10. There are days it's harder to make this choice---but I have to think that seeing that photo with the paint splattered on those faces could make anyone happy!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    www.jtouchofstyle.com

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    1. I think I might have to add a colour run (or walk) onto my bucket list because the colour splats look like a lot of fun don't they?

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  11. Perfect timing for this one for me. I consider myself an optimist, but like many, can get sucked into the vortex of negativity at times. Looking forward to following your 12 step posts.

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    1. I get sucked down too - especially if someone close to me is hurting or causing drama - it's hard to smile your way through it, but being miserable doesn't solve it either.

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  12. Perfect quotes and oh so true #teamlovinlife

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    1. Thanks Leanne - I loved the quotes and they're a great reminder that ultimately we're reponsible for our own happiness every time.

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  13. Signing up to follow these posts. I tend to be mostly positive, but have a habit of absorbing whatever others are going through. I feel more content and happier now since moving - I suspect that's because I don't have the happiness vampires sucking at me. Jo @ #TeamLovinLife

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    1. Hi Jo - I love that you've signed up (my subscriber numbers are pretty pitiful) and I hope you enjoy the posts - I think distancing yourself from the happiness suckers is a good start :)

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  14. Happiness is indeed a choice, Leanne! I struggled for years with people pleasing, and I am on the verge of letting this go. I'm naturally a happy, positive person anyway. With some of the adversity I felt in July, I got an even bigger surprise when I tripped and fell yesterday while walking my dogs...yep, fractured right hand...I can still use my fingers to type!

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    1. I can't believe you "had a fall" Terri! So sorry about your hand but nice that there is a silver lining in there that you can still type :) And I so get you about the people pleasing thing - definitely a drawback for our generation.

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  15. Looking forward to following along and seeing what choices you make. What a great way to structure your month Leanne.

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    1. Thanks guys - hope you get a few smiles/tips out of it along the way.

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  16. What an exciting series, looking forward to reading more.

    SSG xxx

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    1. I'd love you to come along and join the party - nothing like some happiness to bring the sunshine in an Aussie Winter :)

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  17. Excited to read more! Yes, happiness is a choice and even in the hardest of times, it's up to us to keep our spirits up and move forward!

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    1. It took me a long time to figure out that it's my responsibility - but that actually works well for me now because there's no point blaming everyone else, I just need to put on my big girl panties and move forward with a smile!

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  18. Sounds like it will be a great series! I've seen people who have seemingly insurmountable financial, family, or health challenges who appear to be happy. Then, I've seen people who seem to have all kinds of advantages and blessings and who do not appear to be happy. Life really is what you make of it. Thank you for linking up at The Blogger’s Pit Stop Link Party. I’m sharing your link on social media.
    Carol (“Mimi”) from Home with Mimi

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  19. I totally agree - happiness is a choice, but it can be something that we forget and then we find our happiness slipping away. Sounds like a great series, looking forward to it!
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes :)
    Debbie

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