I don't think Taylor Swift was referring to midlifers when she wrote this song, but the lyrics rang true to me about this stage of life. It is a golden age - time to take a breath and discover the person I have become, different to who I was and hopefully a better version of my younger self.
It is a really good time to be alive - all the hard work of raising decent, caring human beings is largely behind me. There is time to slow down a little and smell the roses, take a stroll, drink uninterrupted cups of coffee with friends, see the latest movies and even travel a little. There is time to talk and re-connect with my husband and focus on the shared history and commitment we have with each other. There's even time to look forward to the grandbabies that will make an appearance sooner or later.
It is a time of getting the balance right - how much time to spend working, how much time to give to those "grown and flown" children, how much time to give to friends and family. It is about cutting myself some slack and acknowledging that I have managed to get a lot of things right (and a few wrong along the way) but predominantly most things have turned out alright in the end.
That is what my life is for me - real, I don't want to be a product of the first world I live in - I want to be true to myself, true to my belief in God, true to my marriage vows, true to my role as the mother of two adult children and a true and loyal friend to the friends that have stuck by me through the years. I can look at myself in the mirror and know that I am 'real' - that I may not be perfect but I am authentic to my values and the person I present to the world isn't wearing a mask (most of the time!).
So Taylor, in all her 20 something years of wisdom managed to touch a chord in this midlifer's heart and made me stop and think and appreciate that "the golden age" I'm in isn't too bad after all. Getting older might suck in some areas but it has its blessings too.