With all the hoopla of Valentines Day behind us I think it's time to consider that it's not only romantic love, but all kinds of love that we find a place in our heart for. I read this beautiful quote the other day and it just spoke to something within me. There are so many dimensions to the people, places and things that we love and I think this quote goes a little way to explaining why they are special to us.
There are people we meet who resonate with us. You can spend years thinking you are friends with someone, and then one day it dawns on you that there isn't any real connection - that resonance of like mindedness has either never been there in the first place, or has gotten lost along the way. The friends who are special to us may have been in our lives for a short time or for many, many years, but they share that aspect of heart-felt connection and they contribute to who we are and who we are becoming.
Long term love is another transformation. It's nice to think that the person we have chosen to spend our life with has the power to bring about positive growth and change as we walk life's paths together. If we're not growing together into better people then we need to look at our relationship and see what we can do to improve that resonance and help each other to become our very best selves.
I think there is also a resonance that goes with places we love. It can be an instant recognition and love of somewhere new. We can arrive at a little town or a big city and just feel that sense of place - that feeling that you could live there if the opportunity presented itself. Then there's the places that we have grown to love, places that hold memories and where we have put down roots. It's nice to think that we are connected to the place where we live and that we are contributing part of ourselves to the community we live in - becoming part of the life force that makes our home town that little bit more special. Knowing that if we left we would miss it and be missed.
So, when I measure love (if it can be measured) I'll remember to look for resonance and transformation. To look for relationships and places that grow me and move me forward, that help me be the best person I am capable of being.