Wednesday, 9 March 2016

midlife and the new "normal"

no midlife crisis for me - I'm celebrating all that midlife has to offer!

Midlife for me is defining myself within a new set of parameters. I have discovered that there is a new meaning to the word "normal" for women of my age and stage. We're not content to be pigeon holed into the role of grandma or house mother to adult "failing to launch" children. We're not sitting at home waiting to claim the pension. We're reinventing ourselves and midlife is taking on a whole new look.

The vision I have for midlife is summed up in my blog name - Cresting the Hill - I see this as the stage of life where the hard slog is behind us and we can kick back and enjoy the view from the top. How each of us does that is as varied as the multitude of blogs by midlife women who are sharing their journeys with each other and with the world. There are midlife women focusing on:
I feel so blessed to have discovered so many women who are creating a new "normal" that is midlife - not "middle aged" or "over the hill" or "worn out and worn down". No, we are vibrant and trying new things (even if they scare us a little bit!) We're having fun and we're not our mothers or our grandmothers. We're not our daughters either - we don't need to compete because we have something different and we are celebrating it.

"Personal satisfaction is the most important ingredient of success." - Denis Waitley

Thanks to Lisa at theGoldenSpoons and Janine at confessionsofamommyaholic for sharing our stories (and being part of our midlife reinvention) in their #1word challenge each month - this month's word was "normal".

40 comments:

  1. I love this and let me just say that I need to keep your positive outlook as I do enter mid-life myself now, too! ;)

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    1. midlife gets you either way Janine - choosing to see all the good bits certainly makes it a lot more fun!

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    1. thanks Lisa - and thanks for the prompt :)

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  3. That's right! Midlife represents a new beginning, and we each define what that beginning is.

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    1. Yes Jennifer, we all do it differently but putting ourselves out there and enjoying it is what it's all about isn't it? :)

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  4. Hi Leanne, I feel lucky to be middle aged in today's society. Age really isn't a big deal these days, well not as big a deal as it used to be and I think that's down to people embracing middle age, rather than being afraid to be who they are. I maybe nearer to fifty than forty, but I don't feel a day over thirty.

    Great post! #WAYWOW
    xx

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    1. Hi Deb - yes midlife is a lot different to what it was 50 years ago! I love that we are still young and vibrant and not wearing cardigans and slippers just yet (well not all the time anyway!)

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  5. Hi Leanne! YES to the "new normal!" I agree that there are so many awesome women bloggers who are demonstrating what midlife and beyond can be. And aren't we all so lucky to have our blogs and the internet helping us demonstrate that to the world. ~Kathy

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    1. Hi Kathy - you are so right - finding such an inspiring group or women at a similar age and stage has made such a difference to how I see this stage of life. Thanks for being one of them! :)

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  6. Right on, Leanne! While I enjoy the benefits of being in my 40's, I still feel like I am 24 in many ways, and I like it. I will not be defined by my age (except not to act foolish for it, LOL!) Thank you for sharing!

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    1. I think that's so true Regina about not letting our age define us - we are who we are and we all do it differently. I'm just so glad we have the opportunity to find out what makes us special.

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  7. This is a beautiful quote & a beautiful out look to have! It's great that there are so many great blogs out there talking about the middle of life. #WAYWOW

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    1. I love that there are so many of us finding that we aren't "old" and that this stage of life offers us so much - as long as we are brave enough to have a go!

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  8. Agree, positive attitude is key! I took a new diagnosis and am turning it into a way to help others with their migraines, and am becoming a certified health & wellness coach too.

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    1. Good on you Stephanie!! I love that you've turned it around and making what could be an excuse to lie down and suffer, into something that has such a positive outcome. Looking forward to seeing where you go with it!

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  9. I'm celebrating midlife with you!

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    1. thanks Monica - in my opinion it's the more the merrier!

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  10. I'm enjoying midlife a great deal. Hooray for your celebratory spirit.

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    1. Exactly Karen - it's so much better than I thought it would be :)

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  11. Yes! We need to see this stage of life for what it is...sheer joy and limitless opportunity! Well, mostly.

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    1. I like the disclaimer Tam - we are old enough and wise enough to know life can't be perfect all the time, but appreciating all the good bits and enjoying our freedom makes it seem pretty darn perfect most of the time!

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  12. Thank you, Leanne, for this reminder that this time of life is to celebrate. I'm turning 60 next birthday and all I feel is grateful and jazzed for more! Uplifting post.

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    1. I think 60 is another new chapter Laurie - it will be interesting to see where we all go with that next decade - still young enough to make it an exciting one :)

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  13. Amen! I agree. I'm much more mature in thought now than I was in my 20s. Now I know more of the things I like and what I want to stand for. In my 20s I was a bit clueless about it all, now I kinda get it. It's odd to think of myself as middle aged, I feel like I'm still in my 30s, and I call myself a girl, woman sounds too stuffy for me. LOL I am a conundrum, but I'm comfortable with it now. So bring it on, middle age, I got you!

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    1. Me too Nikki - I'm thinking about writing a post on how different midlife/middle age is from what I pictured in my head. I love that we are vibrant and young (at heart?) and living lives we are excited about.

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  14. Right there with you! My blog is my mid-life reinvention! I love this stage of life. So many choices. And if you make a choice and it's not a good fit - you just go on to something else. Nothing to prove to anyone. Very freeing!

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    1. My blog is the same Cathy - it's opened my eyes to a world of women who are celebrating midlife and trying new things and moving on if they aren't happy with their choices. I just love it!

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  15. What a great outlook! Thanks for much for linking up with #MadMidWeek blog hop! x

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    1. my pleasure Deb - hopefully it'll inspire you to know that midlife is something great rather than something to be dreaded :)

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  16. I am enjoying my 40s and yet knowing thats just a number and Being and feeling, thinking youthful, keeping active and always being grateful keeos me younger every day. When I meet my peers I get los of compliments so it must weok. I love your attitude and outlook. Keep rocking!

    Julie Syl - Pit Stop Crew

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    1. Thanks Julie - I think age is a matter of attitude and gratitude too. It keeps us young if we have lots on our plate and new things to keep our minds busy. The April A-Z challenge is next on my list.

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  17. Why should you be worn out or done Leanne. Anyone that thinks like this is crazy. People are living so much longer and better lives these days. Your life is what you make it, so make the most of it!

    Sally @ Life Loving
    #LifeLovingLinkie

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    1. that's the plan Sally - no sitting down and waiting for retirement and the pension. There's so much out there waiting to be discovered (and blogging has been one of the surprises along the way)

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  18. Someone just asked me the other day, if I could be any age, what would it be? I said NOW! (55)
    Old enough to have wisdom (some anyway!), and yet young enough to do anything I want!
    Friday Frivolity

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    1. That's probably the perfect combination isn't it? I love having the freedom (and the get up and go) to still do whatever takes my fancy, but the wisdom to know what matters and what doesn't.

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  19. I could not agree more and what an honour to be mentioned on your blog. I am in the best time of my life and loving it. Thanks for sharing at #overthemoon

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    1. you were one of the first midlifers I met in this bloggging journey Jen and I love that we come from the same part of the world!

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  20. Vibrant and fearless are two of the ways I think of you! I'm still on the "upward slog" but I love having such a positive role model showing me that I can look forward to all stages of life! :) #FridayFrivolity -- pinning and tweeting!

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    1. Sarah that is such a huge compliment - thank you so much. Don't forget to stop and smell the roses as you climb the hill :)

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