Next letter up for the A-Z challenge of Positive Personality Traits is C - and C is for Considerate. As I head into the second half of life I'm noticing that the more you interact with other people, the more you realize that we are all different. We have all walked different paths through a huge variety of life's experiences to get where we are today.
It's so easy to be offended by someone who doesn't see life the same way you do. It's easy to judge them based on your experiences and your world view, without having considered what they may have gone through that has made them the person disagreeing with you or getting up your nose today!
Sometimes we need to take a step back and choose to look at things from that other person's perspective. To be considerate of their feelings and to adapt a little to ensure they are comfortable too. Another "C" word is Compromise and that's where being considerate of others really comes into its own.
How easy is it to brush someone aside and not bother to find out more because they are annoying? How quickly we come to our own defense if it seems that we are causing grief to another person. How much better would it be to consider their view point and adjust ourselves a little to take it into consideration? To recognize what it is that makes them uncomfortable and to do what we can to ease that tension rather than riding roughshod over it to get our own way.
Next time you are being irritated by somebody, stop for a moment and consider their feelings and their history. Perhaps there is a way to draw them alongside and be inclusive of their point of view while still being authentic to your own. Small compromises can often bring about big results. We all want a win/win outcome so lets consider the hearts and minds of those we encounter and try our best to find some middle ground.
Next time for the continuation of Positive Personality Traits - D is for Determined.