refining and defining

Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

I saw a précis on a book called “Enjoying Who God Created You to Be” by Joyce Meyer and it seemed to reflect a lot of what midlife brings to the forefront. All the early years of trying to please my parents, then marriage and child rearing and in amongst it all, trying to find out who I am, is really behind me and I am at the point where I need to accept that who I am now is pretty close to being who I will always be. Most of my rough edges have been worn away by life’s ups and downs and it is really more of a refining process that lies ahead.

I think it's about accepting myself for the woman I am and then looking at ways to define that person. I know I could be kinder or more gracious or grateful or graceful at times but I still like me most of the time and it's just a matter of working out the kinks. There were four main areas that the summary covered and I thought I'd use my next few posts to flesh them out a bit for myself (and anyone else who might be remotely interested) and see if I can throw some light on the journey ahead.


  1. I'm looking forward to reading more! I'm in the same place - trying to work on acceptance and figure out where to go from here!

    1. It's funny Lana - you think you should have all the answers by now, but there is just more to learn every time you turn around!


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