I'm getting my #atozchallenge for April on Positive Personality Traits off to a running start with the letter A - and I'm beginning with the most important characteristic you can develop - one that all our other Personality Traits branch off from - it is being Authentic. If we aren't true to ourselves and if we don't have a genuine "realness" and authenticity to our lives then nothing we say or do will hold water.
Midlife has taught me that you lose yourself if you try to be all things to all people. If you squeeze yourself into a box that suits someone else but diminishes who you are then you lose every time. We are all unique and we all have so much to offer once we find our centre and ground ourselves in owning who we really are.
If you don't know who your authentic self is, then maybe it's time to take a step back. Time to sit down and think about what is important to you, what resonates with your heart. Stop seeing yourself as a wife, or a mother, or a provider, or a hail-good-fellow (when you feel like the opposite). Start seeing yourself for who you know lives inside - you may lose people along the way when you start being honest with yourself and with them. They may not like "the new you" who is actually "the real you" who has been in hiding. Ultimately, that's their loss.
Let's all start loving and respecting ourselves enough to be honest with the world and stay true to our values and not be blown here and there by whichever breeze happens to blow our way. Starting today, let's be our authentic selves - you might find you like that person a whole lot more than your thought - I know I'm coming to like myself more now that I'm rediscovering who I really am.
Don't forget to come back for the next Positive Personality Trait - B is for Brave.