I'm so excited now it's May and I have a whole month to write about things that I'm learning to EMBRACE. I don't believe in focusing on things we need to push out of our lives, instead I think we need to open our arms and embrace all the good stuff and it will fill us up until there's less room for the not so good stuff.
The first and foremost thing we all need to take ownership of and appreciate more, is our "Self" - the parts of us (body, mind, soul and spirit) that make us who we are. Those of us in midlife have worn so many hats over the years.....student, career woman, friend, daughter, girlfriend, wife, mother, grandmother, auntie, and the list could go on for eternity. Every.single.one. of these roles has equipped us to be the woman we are now and what a woman she is!
For starters, we aren't shrinking violets who need to depend on our husbands to provide for us and give us our identity. We're waaaaay past that stage (if we were ever there in the first place). We are dynamic partners in our relationships - we are vital, and engaging, and interesting, and those who have us in their lives are blessed indeed! We can step out independently without being afraid of rejection - knowing that our partners are cheering us on to become all we're capable of being.
We're also not dependent on our role as "Mum" to fulfill us either - now we can use our mothering experience to nurture others, and not just our biological children. We use those skills with our ageing parents and the needs they have, we use it with our grandchildren, with friends who need support, with other people's children who need advice or a listening ear, and in so many other ways.
Many of us grew up without strong role models and without the emotional affirmation that is so important to building strong self esteem. I know my parents had no idea how important it was to build those qualities into their child - especially in the early and teenage years. I am so envious of young women today who have the self assurance that's taken me 50+ years to come even close to. I had very little belief in myself or my abilities and no idea what assets I had to offer until I started blogging and THEN I met a diverse group of women who are living wide open, joyful, fulfilling lives - and I wanted what they were having! They've been an inspiration for me to start living a much fuller and more interesting life in my own right - and it's wonderful!
Part of embracing who you are is taking ownership of your identity and your personality and preferences and liking that person. We have so much to offer and so many qualities to share with others. We are "confident, untamable and badass" just like Steve Maraboli says and we need to get out there and show that to the world! We don't need to be yelling "I am woman hear me roar!" but we can be self assured, brave and authentic (one of my favourite words). There is only one unique "you" so why not make the most of her and show others what we're made of? Why not get out there and use our uniqueness to make the world a better place? Let's go girls!