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#7 DON'T GET EMBROILED

Happiness Choice #7 - Don't get embroiled in other people's drama

DEALING WITH DRAMA

One of the many drains on happiness is getting embroiled in other people's drama. You can have your own life under control and going along smoothly, but get hijacked by being drawn into the emotional upheavals of the people around you. It might be a family member, a friend, a work colleague, or a casual acquaintance, but the impact on our own happiness can be quite significant.

#6 CHOOSE TO BE GRATEFUL

Happiness Choice #6 - Choose to be Grateful for the life you have

CHOOSE GRATITUDE

Gratitude would be one of the top contributors to happiness. If we choose to be grateful for the circumstances of our life and the people we share our lives with, then we are well on the way to being happy without having to do much else.

#5 CREATE MEMORIES

Choices for Happiness - #5 Seek opportunities to create happy memories

MEMORIES

As my 12 Choices for Happiness month continues I want to talk about "seeking opportunities to create memories". I read about this somewhere back in 2011 possibly in this post (I'm not 100% sure) and it really struck a chord with me because positive memories of fun occasions instil in us a sense of happiness and are often great ways to combat times when we feel a little bit flat or unappreciated.

Coincidentally, my friend Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 and Beyond asked me to write a guest post for her "Month of Celebrating Life Now" - she turns 60 in August and wants to make this month one big party. I was really pleased to be asked and thought this post on creating happy memories throughout life could be expanded on further - so if you want to read more later feel free to pop over and wish Sue a happy birthday on Thursday when I'm over there too.

#4 CHOOSE TO FORGIVE

Happiness Choice #4 - Choose to Forgive - Forgiving doesn't imply that what someone did to you is okay

CHANGE YOUR VIEW ON FORGIVING

Forgiveness is a huge factor in happiness. Holding on to unforgiveness in our hearts will sap our joy in every aspect of our lives. When we hold a grudge against someone for a perceived hurt we carry that anger and pain around inside us every day. When we feel hurt in our heart and soul from something someone did or said to us then that becomes a driving force in our lives. It can lead to resentment, revenge or just an ongoing sense of misery and unsettledness.

We base a lot of our ideas about forgiveness on the other person seeking restitution and re-connection. We long to hear them apologize and to have acknowledgement of the pain they caused us and the offence we've taken often can't be let go of until this occurs. But what happens if the other person doesn't feel they were in the wrong? What happens when you don't get the apology you believe you deserve? How do you move forward?

#3 RELAX PROACTIVELY

Happiness Choice #3 - Relax Proactively -  'Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.'

THE BUSYNESS OF LIFE

Life has a habit of speeding up and stressing us out. We are always so busy and our timetables are so full. We seem to be on the go from the moment our alarm goes off in the morning until the time we crawl back into bed at the end of a long, tiring day. Stress and busyness are two of the biggest killers of happiness - they stop us pausing and appreciating the moment. They hustle and harrass us and we are left feeling wilted and drained instead of cheerful and on top of things.

#2 DON'T DWELL

Happiness Choice #2 - Don't Dwell - Don’t waste your time being sad, because you’re wasting away moments in which you could be happy.

DON'T DWELL AND DON'T RE-HASH

When you're an overthinker like me, dwelling on things is big factor when it comes to sucking the happiness out of life. The trouble with dwelling is that we don't tend to chew over the good stuff, instead we get caught up on a hamster wheel of rehashing the same litany of hurts and sad feelings over and over again.

We think about whatever upset us and we wonder how we could have done it differently, we play conversations over in our heads and try to come up with better outcomes. The question arises "what could I have done differently?" If I'd done 'X' would I have gotten a different outcome, or what about if I'd said 'Y' would the other person have responded differently? Lots of could haves, should haves and would haves.

#1 CHOOSE CONTENTMENT

The 12 Choices for Happiness - Number #1 is to choose contentment over dissatisfaction and envy

CHOOSING CONTENTMENT

This month I'm doing a series on choices we can make for a happier life. One of the most important choices is choosing to be content with who and what you have in life. Wishing for more and constantly wanting what others have is such a drain on our emotions and our pool of happiness evaporates rapidly.

12 CHOICES FOR HAPPINESS

We need to choose to be happy every day - it doesn't just happen. This is my series on 12 choices for Happiness

KEEPING OUR HAPPINESS ALIVE

One of the most popular series of posts I wrote were the ones from last year on How I lost my happiness and how I found it again. I've been thinking about happiness a lot lately and how easy it is to lose it when we slip into bad habits or when we forget how to nurture it.

MY WINTER KNITTING PROJECT

when the weather outside is frightful it's time to warm up with a little knitting

WINTER DOWN UNDER

While the rest of the world is basking in Summer, it's the middle of Winter down here in the Southern Hemisphere and apparently it was time to take on a new project. My friend Julie has been knitting throw rugs for her family for the last couple of years and finally convinced me to start one of my own. Now, for those who know me as the AntiCraft you will realize that this was no small undertaking on my part. 

So, with that in mind I thought I'd do a quick update on what I've been filling my time with in between blogging, Facebooking, Pinteresting, working, and reading (it's nice to have a bit of variety)......

5 WAYS TO RE-FILL YOUR EMPTY NEST

When the nest feels too empty, it's time to look at ways to refill it

WHEN YOUR NEST FEELS EMPTY

No matter how well we handle the departure of our adult "kids" from the family nest, there will always be times when we feel a bit lost. For some it happens immediately, for others it happens spasmodically, but it happens and we need to find ways to re-fill our nests and move on with our own lives. I've put together five suggestions that might help you fill up your life again.