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5 TIPS FOR BECOMING MORE "REAL"

5 tips for becoming more "real" - discovering and owning who you really are

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU'RE BECOMING "REAL"?

Sometimes we lose track of who we are and start wondering where to go to get back on track. Today I've put together five starting points to re-discovering the path to being authentically real and authentically yourself. We all need to start somewhere after all the years of being in the background while we nurtured those around us. So here are my five tips to getting started:

DEFINING A "REAL WOMAN"

How do we start living like 'real women'? It begins with defining the term

MEDIA'S DEFINITION OF "REAL WOMEN"

Social media bombards us with images of "real women" - from reality stars, to movie stars, to models, to politicians, to news anchors, and the list goes on and on. But is that really who a "real" woman is? Most of the time these women have been groomed to fit a reality that is not what I see as "real" or even desirable. Who wants to live on lettuce leaves until they die, or constantly be camera ready in case someone takes your photo?

MIDLIFE AND BEING A PERENNIAL

The Perennials. We are ever-blooming, relevant people of all ages who live in the present time,

A NEW DEFINITION OF MIDLIFE

Recently I saw an article on Facebook (where else do you see articles these days?) that introduced me to a new descriptive term for Midlifers - apparently we can now refer to ourselves as "Perennials". 

The term originated from a US internet entrepreneur Gina Pell, who defines the term in the following way:

5 HAPPY AND HEALTHY TIPS

5 tips simple tips towards being happier and healthier

I am the last person in the world to tell people how to be fit and fabulous, but I can give you five tips that help me accept myself and the Midlife woman I have become. It's not about lying on the couch eating peeled grapes (though that does sound good), it's about finding simple things that work and feel right for you - not for the people around you, but for you personally. So, here's my five tips:

TAKING MY EXERCISING UP A NOTCH

When you know in your heart (and your waistline) that you need to up your exercise

FITNESS QUEEN (OR NOT)

I'd love to tell you that the photo above is me at the gym. I'd love to tell you that I am the Queen of Midlife Fitness. I'd love to tell you that I can't wait to get out of bed every morning so that I can run 10km before I eat my raw muesli and drink my green smoothie. But if I told you any of those things I'd be lying through my teeth.

THE BEST DIET FOR MIDLIFE

Forget what the experts say - this is my advice for the best Midlife diet


WHICH FAD DIET IS IT TODAY?

Have you noticed how much diet advice there is out there for women in Midlife? As we hit our 50's and menopause and a slowing metabolism settle in, the kilos creep on and we start reading all these articles everywhere on how to beat the midrift spread, or how to look like we're 30, or how to still look great in a bikini, or how to fight the muffin top etc.

5 BENEFITS OF LETTING GO

Letting go can be scary - but here are 5 great benefits we gain

TIME TO OPEN UP THAT FIST

Often we hold on to things for much longer than is healthy for us. When we finally open our clenched fist and let go of the toxic person or situation in our life we find there are benefits we never expected. Letting go of trying to control everyone and everything frees us to appreciate what we have in our life in its own right without having conditions placed on our acceptance of it.


TURNING OFF THE NEED TO MICRO-MANAGE

Learning that life doesn't need to be micro-managed can be so liberating

HEADACHES

When I was writing about my daith piercing on Monday, I got to thinking about why I had so many headaches in the first place. One of the biggest causes was stress, and my days were full of stress because I needed to micro-manage every detail of my life. This included what I was doing at any given time and also the people who were around me while I was busy doing it. It kicks in big time when I'm facing a new situation or something a bit scary - it seems to be my go-to method for dealing with new situations.

A DAITH PIERCING UPDATE

my daith piercing update - 12 months post-piercing

12 MONTHS SINCE I DID THE DEED

It's a bit scary putting a close up of my ear and face on the screen - all those years of wear and tear are on display for all to see, but you can't show a picture of an ear piercing without having part of your face end up in the picture!

It's been just over 12 months since I took the plunge and had my daith pierced to see if it would help the chronic debilitating headaches I dealt with several times a week for most of my adult life. I wrote a post on it last year after a few months (HERE) to describe what it had been like and what my thoughts were on the process.

5 QUOTES ON OWNING YOUR LIFE

Five Things Friday ~ 5 Quotes on Owning Your Life and who you're becoming


FINDING YOURSELF AND YOUR LEGACY

This week I've been writing about creating a legacy and about Midlife being the time to change things up a gear or two. Time to own who you are as a person and to be authentic. Time to put yourself higher up the list of priorities and to accept any fallout that might come with changing things in your life.

Here are five quotes that I loved that speak to making yourself a priority and not tolerating judgement from others or pandering to the needs of people who don't support you as you move forward in life. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.